Should i go to confession? - Getting "tipsy"

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I was at a party last night and i got tipsy (had that one drink too many) and decied not to drink anymore at that point and i remember feeling alittle dizzy and i was begining to lose my balance. i remember feeling feeling uncomfortable and so i went home. i got come and felt a little dizzy but mentally fine. got changed, said my night prayer and went off to sleep and i woke up this morning fine ( just a little bit of an upset stomuch).

But now i felt guilty.
I knew getting drunk was a grave sin
i intended to get tipsy but not completely drunk ( doesn’t sound good)
But i felt like i didn’t get drunk but rather reached THE limit.

Should i go to confession? 😦
 
That is an answer that only you yourself will be able to answer.

You got tipsy right?

I know about but personally don’t accept that there is any difference between venile and mortal sins because for me being anglican they are all sins of which God forgives either through a priest or on his own if you just ask him, so you will need someone else to help you there on the Catholic side of the answer.

If you feel as though you sinned that you want to take it to Confession, if this will help you another time to say no to that glass of alcohol that gets you to that stage then confession is perhaps a good start. But what are you confessing to? Are you confessing that you got that stage this time and asking for God to help that you don’t get there again? Or are you confessing to that you got tipsy and simply want to be forgiven without the extra milage? Don’t answer them here, its something for you to think about, about your approach to what you say at confession should you choose that route. What are you really Wanting from God? Instant forgiveness, of which yes he will give. Or something more solid and long lasting perhaps? Are you wanting to get back on track with Gods’ Love, or is it just that one sin you wanting to forget?
 
Yes, go to confession… and then go to a 12 step or support group for alcohol issues–listen and then ask the group what their opinions are about your drinking…ask a friend, family member, or loved one what they think about your drinking–you see, the problem is that drinking can begin to make things fuzzy, including our choices about how much (or how little) we want to drink. Then our ability to deceive ourselves gets bigger as time goes by and that deception can take along a lot of other deceptions and blind behaviors. Many people have contracted H.I.V./AIDS while under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs.
 
assuming, of course, that you meant, ‘grave matter,’ when you said, ‘grave sin,’ yes, drunkenness is generally grave matter. so, like you intended, getting tipsy is not sinful. in general, you can’t serve God if you’re serving someone or something else and that includes alcohol. it doesn’t sound like you were a slave to the demon in the bottle, but as i just said, i can’t really answer to that.

that said, you should definitely go to confession, now and any time that your conscience weighs on you. depending on the circumstances, you might have committed a venial sin, at most (it doesn’t sound as though full consent was given; you don’t mortally sin on accident) or you might only have an imperfection for this instance (if this doesn’t even qualify as grave matter), but a priest can counsel you either way and give absolution if it is necessary. reflect on whether or not you have mortal sin on your conscience before you take the Eucharist if you can’t go to confession before mass, though. i don’t know what time zone you’re in or whether you have a priest who hears confessions before mass and today is sunday.
 
You know whether you were drunk or not. Drunk means you lose control, and it does not sound like you did. I wouldn’t worry about it personally. Go if you want but being drunk and tipsy are two different things.
 
Just the fact that you are asking this question indicates to me you know] the answer to the question, if you truly search your soul

Getting “tipsy” impairs your thinking, actions, and response time. If you were behind the wheel of a car your* tipsiness *could have had disasterous life-altering results for you, any passengers you have with you, other drivers, or pedestrians.

You also need to do some self-reflection – why do you have to drink to the point of getting tipsy or even drunk? The Church believes in moderation, why don’t you?
 
coachdennis said:
You also need to do some self-reflection – why do you have to drink to the point of getting tipsy or even drunk? The Church believes in moderation, why don’t you?
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that isn’t a fair accusation. the op doesn’t say whether doctorfalcon drove at all (i assume that you know this, since you said, ‘if,’ when you talked about impaired driving) and being tipsy once in a while is perfectly healthy for many people. you have no real reason to accuse doctorfalcon of not using moderation.
 
chaela_may said:
that isn’t a fair accusation. the op doesn’t say whether doctorfalcon drove at all (i assume that you know this, since you said, ‘if,’ when you talked about impaired driving) and being tipsy once in a while is perfectly healthy for many people. you have no real reason to accuse doctorfalcon of not using moderation.
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I was referring to “if” when bringing up driving as an example.

the self-ref;lection is for him alone. Only the OP can answer that for himself. Just as you say I can not make broad judgments, neither CAN YOU make broad claims that being tipsy is perfectly normal for many people.
 
coachdennis said:
I was referring to “if” when bringing up driving as an example.

the self-ref;lection is for him alone. Only the OP can answer that for himself. Just as you say I can not make broad judgments, neither CAN YOU make broad claims that being tipsy is perfectly normal for many people.
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i am at perfect liberty to claim that being tipsy is normal for many people. those of asian decent, in particular, often feel tipsy after even one serving of alcohol because of an increased reaction to it. yet, alcohol in moderation is perfectly healthy, as we have both already stated.

webmd.com/food-recipes/features/wine-how-much-is-good-for-you
afformula.com/blog/asian-flush-syndrome/
 
Think of it in terms of abuse. Alcohol is supposed to make you happy and tipsy — that’s what it’s for! But if you abuse it and get drunk off your you-know-what, losing the use of reason, then you’ve sinned.
 
Auntie_A said:
Yes, go to confession… and then go to a 12 step or support group for alcohol issues–listen and then ask the group what their opinions are about your drinking…ask a friend, family member, or loved one what they think about your drinking–you see, the problem is that drinking can begin to make things fuzzy, including our choices about how much (or how little) we want to drink. Then our ability to deceive ourselves gets bigger as time goes by and that deception can take along a lot of other deceptions and blind behaviors. Many people have contracted H.I.V./AIDS while under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs.
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This is a bit of over kill don’t you think? Getting tipsy doesn’t mean someone needs a 12 step program.

Tipsy, in most peoples mind is simply that they are feeling the effects of the alcohol. It doesn’t mean they have lost all sensibility, and are dancing on the table tops.

The OP realized they had reached that point, and stopped. That is responsible behavior.

Take it from a former bartender, I have seen everything from stone cold sober to bombed out of their mind, and the OP hasn’t given any indication they were bombed. They also haven’t indicated that this is an ongoing thing.
 
chaela_may said:
i am at perfect liberty to claim that being tipsy is normal for many people. those of asian decent, in particular, often feel tipsy after even one serving of alcohol because of an increased reaction to it. yet, alcohol in moderation is perfectly healthy, as we have both already stated.

webmd.com/food-recipes/features/wine-how-much-is-good-for-you
afformula.com/blog/asian-flush-syndrome/
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… and you have shown here this is why the question should be left to the opening poster to answer rather than you trying to answer for them. Your answer is perfectly valid and as you have proved, so will the answer of the opening poster. So rather than try and preguess the opening posters’ answer, let them think about their answer for their answer is as right for them as your answer is as right for you. You are all equally right and for the opening poster it may not be the amount per glass of alcohol they are concerned about, but that it made them tipsy at all. If one glass made them tipsy and in return made them feel uncomfortable about their state of grace with God, then only they can answer that for themselves whether its a cultural norm or not. Its about the individual with God. So if one glass of alcohol makes you tipsy and being tipsy makes you feel like you have sinned then don’t do so. If you are not worried about being tipsy makes you feel like you have sinned then its your choice too. It not the amount of alcohol but that they are tipsy through the alochol.

Its for the opening poster to decide their own ‘sins’ with God on this with help of those around them. There are the generic sins that the Church teaches but there are morals that we set ourselves with guidence from the Church if we break those then they feel like sins too if I am being understood here. It may not be a sin in one persons’ book because its not an officially named sin. But it may be a sin in another persons book which doesn’t make them scurpurlous but they feel they have broken their chain of love with God and therefore sinned. On these sins only they, with guidence can determine whether confession or not is needed to help them repair that chain of love. 👍
 
Auntie_A said:
Yes, go to confession… and then go to a 12 step or support group for alcohol issues–listen and then ask the group what their opinions are about your drinking…ask a friend, family member, or loved one what they think about your drinking–you see, the problem is that drinking can begin to make things fuzzy, including our choices about how much (or how little) we want to drink. Then our ability to deceive ourselves gets bigger as time goes by and that deception can take along a lot of other deceptions and blind behaviors. Many people have contracted H.I.V./AIDS while under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs.
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A 12-step group!? For having 1 drink too many on 1 night!? I don’t think OP needs this. Doesn’t sound like an alcoholic.

I’d say the sin at best is venial. It was an accidental misjudgment by 1 drink and it sounds like you still had your faculties about you.
 
Auntie_A said:
Yes, go to confession… and then go to a 12 step or support group for alcohol issues–listen and then ask the group what their opinions are about your drinking…ask a friend, family member, or loved one what they think about your drinking–you see, the problem is that drinking can begin to make things fuzzy, including our choices about how much (or how little) we want to drink. Then our ability to deceive ourselves gets bigger as time goes by and that deception can take along a lot of other deceptions and blind behaviors. Many people have contracted H.I.V./AIDS while under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs.
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Er… way to go OTT!

Getting tipsy once doesn’t make a person an alcoholic.

And everyone that drinks water dies:eek::eek::eek:, so maybe we should all give up water.
 
For goodness sake, it certainly isn’t a sin to get a little tipsy. Using this criteria, it would be a sin every time a person took a dose of Nyquil.

Does a person need to go to confession for having a second helping of dinner, or (God forbid) another piece of cake???

And I’ll also wager that far more people contract HIV/AIDS though indiscriminate sexual relations than they do from drinking too much.
 
In my opinion getting drunk is not a sin. Its the stuff you do while drunk which can be sinful so just be careful.

At the wedding when Jesus turns water into wine there is a comment that the good win is supposed to be used first because people are too drunk to notice the bad win after they have had a few.

And Jesus turned the water into wine after the crowd had a few since they were out of wine so the crowd had to be tipsy by then. So this leads me to believe that getting drunk is not sinful per se.
 
englishredrose said:
… and you have shown here this is why the question should be left to the opening poster to answer rather than you trying to answer for them. Your answer is perfectly valid and as you have proved, so will the answer of the opening poster. So rather than try and preguess the opening posters’ answer, let them think about their answer for their answer is as right for them as your answer is as right for you. You are all equally right and for the opening poster it may not be the amount per glass of alcohol they are concerned about, but that it made them tipsy at all. If one glass made them tipsy and in return made them feel uncomfortable about their state of grace with God, then only they can answer that for themselves whether its a cultural norm or not. Its about the individual with God. So if one glass of alcohol makes you tipsy and being tipsy makes you feel like you have sinned then don’t do so. If you are not worried about being tipsy makes you feel like you have sinned then its your choice too. It not the amount of alcohol but that they are tipsy through the alochol.

Its for the opening poster to decide their own ‘sins’ with God on this with help of those around them. There are the generic sins that the Church teaches but there are morals that we set ourselves with guidence from the Church if we break those then they feel like sins too if I am being understood here. It may not be a sin in one persons’ book because its not an officially named sin. But it may be a sin in another persons book which doesn’t make them scurpurlous but they feel they have broken their chain of love with God and therefore sinned. On these sins only they, with guidence can determine whether confession or not is needed to help them repair that chain of love. 👍
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yes, that’s just my point. we shouldn’t accuse the op of being immoderate.
 
englishredrose said:
WE shouldn’t accuse fullstop 🙂 but I know we all do at times:thumbsup:
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i don’t know what you mean. my quote that you responded to was my argument that coachdennis, specifically, shouldn’t accuse op of being immoderate. it wasn’t meant to apply to the thread as a whole.
 
I come from a family where there is a history of alcoholism. I have friends who have had to give up the drink and face this problem in themselves.

The O.P.'s post does not sound like an underlying alcohol problem It sounds like a young person learning their limits, or someone who knows them unintentionally finding that they’d slipped past their limit.

The O.P. recognised that they were past their limit, and left the party to get safely home where no damage could be done. - This was a sensible and safe thing to do, and is an indication that they were aware that they were not out of control bu making that decision (but might have had impaired control if they stayed, and would certainly have been unfit to drive).

I would suggest that there was no Grave Sin here. A mortal sin requires deliberate consent. To have stayed in the party environment, with the temptations that can exist in that environment might have been a sin and led to more serious actions… but that’s not what happened.

Should you go to confession?
Most certainly yes. We all need to go to confession on a regular basis. the fewer “Serious” sins that are clouding your judgement, the more you can become aware of the need for repentance in other areas of your life and the habitual sins that are the thin end of a thick wedge between you and God. This should be just one thing among many that you discuss with your confessor.
 
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