Should I invite a lesbian couple to mass?

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One of my oldest friends is a lesbian who is married to another woman with two children. She grew up Baptist, but has struggled with her faith, and has expressed frustrating with finding a church. I sense that what she is missing in life is the real presence of Christ. I have come close to inviting her to attend mass several times, but I honestly don’t know if it would be appropriate to invite a married lesbian couple to mass. Some guidance would be appreciated.
 
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One of my oldest friends is a lesbian who is married to another woman with two children. She grew up Baptist, but has struggled with her faith, and has expressed frustrating with finding a church. I sense that what she is missing in life is the real presence of Christ. I have come close to inviting her to attend mass several times, but I honestly don’t know if it would be appropriate to invite a married lesbian couple to mass. Some guidance would be appreciated.
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It is absolutely OK to invite them, as well as the children. It is typically not obvious that a same-sex couple is “married”, and even if it were, everyone needs the grace of the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. I see a male couple at Mass now and then, and more likely than not they are gay — they embrace chastely at the sign of peace in what appears to be a manly “bro hug”. I’m OK with that. The parish I attend, even though it is rock-solid orthodox in faith and liturgy, appears to be the “gay-friendly” parish in town, I have seen many men there who appear to be gay (grooming, dress, deportment, etc.). Those two categories aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive. I’m glad they feel welcome.

I am not quite the ogre I appear to be here on CAF sometimes 👹
 
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I hope you don’t imply that you desire them to go to communion while cohabitating.
 
I would start with baby steps. Start talking about it a little more. Ask her what she’s looking for in a church, and why. And then if she seems open and curious, invite her. Pray about it. Listen to the Holy Spirit and don’t feel ashamed to speak HS nudgings.
 
Without being pushy, sure.
If they say no, drop it.
 
Yes! Hopefully they will see that the church is where they belong
 
I’m going to mention the big elephant in this thread. Yes, invite them to Mass. All are welcome and all are loved.

However, if you are thinking about them joining the Catholic Church they will need to know up front that will mean a major lifestyle change for them. I am in no way saying they can’t be Catholic, they can. The Church will not recognize their marriage and the expectation will be they are celibate as their station in life, single women, dictates. Huge impact on their family life.
 
Of course you should. Within the framework of your beliefs, is not the Church often compared to a hospital for sinners? Guaranteed, there are worshipers there who commit a variety of (grave) sins.
 
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Yes, definitely yes!!! Because the Holy Spirit would lead them to being straight. Their lives would turn around and change. If they do turn straight, it was because you helped them lead to this route.
 
You should also be mindful if you want to invite them. I would first go and speak with the priest parish to discuss it, and have his approval before telling them anything.
 
I don’t see why you shouldn’t invite them.
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Because the Holy Spirit would lead them to being straight.
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What makes you say that? The CC doesn’t teach that if a lesbian becomes Catholic they will also become straight. Feeling attracted to the same sex doesn’t change with a conversion of religion.
 
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Of course. However, I would explain the Catholic stance on Marriage to her and on singles living a chaste life. Do this in a loving manner though.
 
They are not Catholic, so they won’t be partaking in Communion.
 
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