Should i keep my catholic faith? Any advice, please

  • Thread starter Thread starter little_angel
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
La Chiara:
Although you say your words aren’t meant to be harsh, they are indeed. You blame your wife for lying to you about her Catholic faith. You act like you were the innocent dupe of a lying Catholic woman. How can we Catholic women see such statements as anything but harsh?

You need to take some responsibility for where you and your wife are in your marriage and stop blaming her. It takes two to tango. If this is where you are in your relationship with your wife, you need to do a lot of praying. There is much bitterness in your post here and in the thread you started. Harden not your heart! Get over your anger and love your wife. Before it is too late.
Click to expand...
My wife told me that it was ok for our children not to be baptized and to be raised in the Protestant church. We were married and two years she admitted to me that she married me thinking (much like I fear the woman who started this thread might) the she would change me. She now wants to have the children babtized, even knowing that this is the one thing witht he Catholic faith I couldn’t live with. If that is not a lie it is certainly deceit. Why would I not believe my wife when she told me that she was ok with it. If the shoe was on the other foot I doubt you would be so quick to judge in this case. I don’t want to hijack this thread so if you want the whole story check HERE

Back to the subject of the thread. I will reiterate, and I don’t think you will disagree here, never enter a relationship assuming that your partner will change. Relationships don’t work like that. You can either live with things as they are now or not. Change in a relationship always happens but never like you think it will. It doesn’t sound like he is ok with your faith or you with leaving yours for his so I think you have your answer there.
 
Please…i don’t want any fighting among us. I thank you all for the advice. Last night i talked to him and i guess it’s over between us
 
Remain catholic my good friend. I was once an atheist for many years in my life and I met a nice woman at my high school who was catholic. I questioned god much during those years and I asked frequently “Why do you believe in god”. She always gave me a simple answer and said “Because I have faith”. We agreed that we would respect each others faith (my viewpoint because i dont consider atheism a faith) and not attempt to convert each other.

She kept her promise to me, never to let religion interfere with our relationship. (I was never keen on people trying to convert me, it always pushed me further away). Then one day, I came to see the light in life, and I researched all the major christian religions and denominations. After going to a catholic church (without her knowledge), I asked her “show me god”. We went to the church (at the time there was no mass), and we sat there and I was converted.

The point is, that it is up to you to decide what your faith is and not to allow people (anyone, including your boyfriend) to push you out of what you believe. I tell you that if my girlfriend had done what your boyfriend has done (the pressure), it would have alienated me and pushed me farther away. Look to your heart and pray to god and you will find the answer.

-Alex
 
40.png
alexinchains109:
Remain catholic my good friend. I was once an atheist for many years in my life and I met a nice woman at my high school who was catholic. I questioned god much during those years and I asked frequently “Why do you believe in god”. She always gave me a simple answer and said “Because I have faith”. We agreed that we would respect each others faith (my viewpoint because i dont consider atheism a faith) and not attempt to convert each other.

She kept her promise to me, never to let religion interfere with our relationship. (I was never keen on people trying to convert me, it always pushed me further away). Then one day, I came to see the light in life, and I researched all the major christian religions and denominations. After going to a catholic church (without her knowledge), I asked her “show me god”. We went to the church (at the time there was no mass), and we sat there and I was converted.

The point is, that it is up to you to decide what your faith is and not to allow people (anyone, including your boyfriend) to push you out of what you believe. I tell you that if my girlfriend had done what your boyfriend has done (the pressure), it would have alienated me and pushed me farther away. Look to your heart and pray to god and you will find the answer.

-Alex
Click to expand...
Thank you…another good advice. My boyfriend’s attitude and thoughts on catholic faith started to change after he attended a seminar. It took only 3 days to change him. Not sure about what. There was a preacher from Israel came. My boyfriend ask me who are we praying to. I told him my answer and also agreed that we pray to the same God. But he still talked about how STUPID and BLIND catholics are.
 
Not to jump in at the last of this, but any man (or woman) who would shred your beliefs like this is not going to make a good mate. First it will be a question of religion, then it will be other issues that he will try to control you over. It is a control issue as well as a theological issue, and if you get married, I see a trap that isn’t going to be easy for someone of Faith to escape from. You will be compromising your beliefs, and that’s not good.
 
The guy has issues. Surrender him to God’s mercy and go on with your life.
 
little angel:
Please…i don’t want any fighting among us. I thank you all for the advice. Last night i talked to him and i guess it’s over between us
Click to expand...
You are a brave young woman. If it is over, then my heart goes out to you. It is always hard to break up.
You will find a man who respects you and your faith. Hang in there!!!

Gerry
 
40.png
Gearoidin:
You are a brave young woman. If it is over, then my heart goes out to you. It is always hard to break up.
You will find a man who respects you and your faith. Hang in there!!!

Gerry
Click to expand...
Thank you Gerry. Thank you all. My problem settled last night and i’m happy now
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top