Should I need to convalidate my marriage?

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I spoke with SJF today and they only know that the faxes were received but they haven’t been given any response. Both SJF and my sponsor seem to think that the most likely result will be that they will simply not convalidate us and quietly move on as this never happened. Hopefully that’s the case, its certainly a better option than continuing to bicker over it. If they never mention it to me by this upcoming Wednesday, at our confirmations, I’ll try to casually confirm that convalidation isn’t being done. Afterward I’ll probably try to find a way to double check that we are documented as validly married. But at this point its a hypothetical because there hasn’t been any communication yet.

On an awkward note, I’m applying to Holy Apostles College & Seminary right now and it requires a letter of recommendation from a priest so… I’m probably going to ask my pastor at my new parish for that after we are confirmed in our current one.
 
It will probably be the case that they will just ‘drop the subject’ which is a shame because I think they really owe you an apology and an admission that they were wrong. Perhaps however, due to the other issues raised around your treatment, the Diocese are now having to look into that before they can give you a full response about the steps they have taken…
 
Update: Still zero word or acknowledgement from the church. Confirmation, Eucharist, and the baptisms of our children will happen in a few hours. We’ll see if it comes up or not and if it doesn’t I’ll ask for the documentation of what sacraments they think we have afterward. Hopefully they have quietly conceded and that’s that. An apology would have been nice but its really not something I’m inclined to be disappointed over not getting.
 
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Update: Still zero word or acknowledgement from the church. Confirmation, Eucharist, and the baptisms of our children will happen in a few hours. We’ll see if it comes up or not and if it doesn’t I’ll ask for the documentation of what sacraments they think we have afterward. Hopefully they have quietly conceded and that’s that. An apology would have been nice but its really not something I’m inclined to be disappointed over not getting.
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Hey at least it’s happening. For now, just be received into the Church (which, despite your horrid experience at the hands of her members, does love you and welcomes you), let the dust settle and then ask your questions. No point in rocking the boat now.
 
Well folks, we’re Catholic! My son and daughter are baptized; my wife and I are confirmed, have received the eucharist, AND we’re recognized as validly married WITHOUT convalidation!
 
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Congratulations. So happy for you all. That picture of your daughter lying in the pew is just too precious.

Also I think the way you proceeded throughout is commendable.
 
That’s wonderful!

Did someone finally come right out and admit you were right? 😁
 
Nope. There has been no visible acknowledgement of the letter past them quietly removing us from the marriage/convalidation list. Both SJF and my sponsor had told me to expect that the parties at fault would get a quiet slap on the wrist or direction to correct the the issue without ever admitting their fault so I didn’t and still don’t expect it. Its not something that I need to be happy or move on though, we got in and we did it the right way and that’s all that matters.

Its only disappointing that they didn’t apologize in the sense that I would think that they should want to apologize.
 
Indeed they should want to apologise, both to you and to your RCIA leader, but I can see why this would be ‘one battle too many’.

What lovely photos btw…your little girl is so cute!

Our catechumen and candidates are still patiently waiting in the UK. Churches are just beginning to open for private prayer so any ‘live’ mass still feels a long way away!
 
Congratulations!!!

I’m sorry you had that trouble at all. And I’m glad you persevered!!!

God bless!
 
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Well folks, we’re Catholic! My son and daughter are baptized; my wife and I are confirmed, have received the eucharist, AND we’re recognized as validly married WITHOUT convalidation!
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Welcome Home. I think they should apologize and hope steps have been taken to ensure that this doesn’t happen to anybody else, but glad it has been sorted for you.
 
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I have been following this thread and am delighted for all of you. Thank you for the pictures…God bless you all!
 
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Well folks, we’re Catholic! My son and daughter are baptized; my wife and I are confirmed, have received the eucharist, AND we’re recognized as validly married WITHOUT convalidation!
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I am so sorry for what you went through to get here. Welcome home!
 
Well I really hope, and I’ll pray, that you’re in a safe enough position as a community to re-open and attend mass soon.
 
Thank you so much for the kind words, support and prayers during all of this friends. I’m very genuinely grateful for this community and don’t think that I would have continued pushing the matter, or even heard of Saint Joseph’s Foundation, without you. Honestly I asked about it on another message board before posting here and the response was overwhelmingly “why won’t you just do it?”

Also, most importantly, sorry for the mustache. My wife likes it, I swear.
 
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