Should I respond to my employer

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I work for a major airline with an extremely large LGBT population. Yesterday, they sent me the information below. I feel like I should respond to it, although how and to whom, I don’t know. I am in favor only of marriage between a man and a woman. I also believe this is a matter more for state government than federal government, if government needs to be involved at all. I feel like corporate recruiting challenges and HR administration issues are a vapid reason to change the law on marriage. And I wonder how effective their effort to promote “diversity” is when it excludes and marginalizes Catholics, many Protestants, Mormons, Orthodox Jews and Muslims, and really, Republicans in general, too?

So what’s your opinion? Is it my moral obligation to stand up and say something? Should I ignore it, knowing nothing will change and I’ll probably be harassed at work if anyone finds out my beliefs?

Here’s the memo:

“This year, the U.S. Supreme Court is considering whether states should allow same-sex couples to marry and whether states must recognize the marriages of same-sex couples who wed elsewhere. We have joined hundreds of other businesses in filing a friend-of-the-court brief in support of marriage equality.
“We are proud to affirm our commitment to our LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) employees and customers by supporting marriage equality and signing on to this brief,” said Diversity and Inclusion Manager Ryan Miccio.
The brief will explain to the U.S. Supreme Court how employers, like United, are burdened by the inability of certain employees to marry the spouse of their choice and by the current inconsistent state laws applicable to same-sex marriage.
All employees should benefit because the company will not have to deal with certain burdens created by the inconsistent state laws, which are:
· Recruiting/retention challenges in the states that do not have marriage equality, as well as states where marriage equality presently exists but could be eliminated if not upheld by the U.S. Supreme Court;
· Corporate administrative and financial burdens;
· Lack of certainty and business uniformity; and
· Requiring the HR department to implement state government-mandated regulations that undermine the company’s corporate mission to promote diversity and equality.
All employees are invited to become members of our Business Resource Groups. To learn more about EQUAL, which promotes an inclusive organization that benefits all lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and ally co-workers, and other Business Resource Groups, click…”
 
I would do nothing, other than look for a new employer, if feasible in your situation.
 
This is really an upper management decision, and it seems highly unlikely that you speaking up is going to change their mind on their policy or be helpful to you. You know the possible implications of you voicing your view. There is some chance that it could be positive, but it seems quite unlikely.

You are not morally responsible for the decisions the company is making at an upper management level unless you are a member thereof.
 
I would do nothing, other than look for a new employer, if feasible in your situation.
Thankfully, most companies value diversity and inclusiveness. They want the best employees they can get, and their sexuality and marriage arrangements are irrelevant. There may be some “anti LGBT” employers out there, but probably not very many.
 
About all you can do is contact the Diversity and Inclusion Manager and ask him what he is doing to make your workplace friendly to traditional Christians.
 
About all you can do is contact the Diversity and Inclusion Manager and ask him what he is doing to make your workplace friendly to traditional Christians.
That might be considered TOO MUCH diversity and inclusiveness!
 
If you have to go to a training session, just go. You can play Clash of Clans and send texts while you’re there. They’ll probably have coffee and donuts. Think of it as a free break time.

If you want to keep your job and see any future with the company, keep your head down. If you see yourself moving on, be diplomatic.
 
Thankfully, most companies value diversity and inclusiveness. They want the best employees they can get, and their sexuality and marriage arrangements are irrelevant. There may be some “anti LGBT” employers out there, but probably not very many.
You have created a false dichotomy. There are three kinds of companies 1) those who value diversity and inclusiveness, 2) anti LGBT (never actually heard of one of these) and 3) those who have jumped on the “go go ‘gay’” bandwagon regardless of consequences. It sounds like the OP works for a company that falls into the third category. If someone finds his/her employer moving into #3, a job hunt may very well be a good idea.
 
No, I don’t think that you are required to disagree with your employer’s political statements, especially in light of the fact that you would likely be persecuted. You might ask around if there are others who are Christian, Jewish, Muslim, etc., who feel intimidated by this.

You could respond to the corporate office anonymously to express your concern about this. Your reply would likely be brushed off, of course.
 
Your company is free to implement whatever policies they want. As long as you work for them, you are generally obliged, via your employment contract (implied or explicit) to abide by those policies during company time.
 
Thank you for all of your replies and good advice. I’ve worked here a couple of decades so looking for new employment isn’t attractive to me. The company has always been inclusive (including toward Christians), and usually left it to the company unions to be super political and anti-Christian on social/moral issues. In fact, in the past, there’ve been one or two times where some middle manager announced a new policy (example: banning Christmas) and upper management shut it down pretty quickly. It is just in the past few years that they’ve implemented some things that do feel discriminatory such as allowing special dress codes for those who donate to certain organizations that support abortion or things like that.
About all you can do is contact the Diversity and Inclusion Manager and ask him what he is doing to make your workplace friendly to traditional Christians.
I think this is probably the best advice, if I do anything at all.
 
This memo sounds to me like same-sex marriage is creating an administrative nightmare for your employer. It probably has to do with withholding income tax. A same-sex couple is probably “married filing jointly” for federal income tax purposes. If the state that they live in does not recognize their marriage, and that state has an income tax, then these people are probably “single” for state income tax purposes. What a mess!

Whatever you believe about this marriage, they are legal partners as far as the state is concerned, much as two people with a business partnership would be legal partners for financial purposes.

I don’t think you need to say anything. It would just get you in trouble.

After the gay couples find out how unfair “married filing jointly” can be, we will probably start hearing about that, too!
 
This memo sounds to me like same-sex marriage is creating an administrative nightmare for your employer. It probably has to do with withholding income tax. A same-sex couple is probably “married filing jointly” for federal income tax purposes. If the state that they live in does not recognize their marriage, and that state has an income tax, then these people are probably “single” for state income tax purposes. What a mess!

Whatever you believe about this marriage, they are legal partners as far as the state is concerned, much as two people with a business partnership would be legal partners for financial purposes.

I don’t think you need to say anything. It would just get you in trouble.

After the gay couples find out how unfair “married filing jointly” can be, we will probably start hearing about that, too!
Married filing jointly becomes a problem when both partners are making over like $75k a year which isn’t a lot of them.

It is so unfair, they are as bad as those evil heterosexuals who decide not to have kids and claim the benefits of marriage anyway. :mad:
 
Married filing jointly becomes a problem when both partners are making over like $75k a year which isn’t a lot of them.

It is so unfair, they are as bad as those evil heterosexuals who decide not to have kids and claim the benefits of marriage anyway. :mad:
huh?
 
Marriage is structured in such a way to provide legal benefits to make it easier to raise children, heterosexuals who don’t have children take the benefits and exploit the system and defile marriage. Gay couples with children are more deserving of the benefits than heterosexuals who choose not to have children.
 
No, I understand the system as a DINK, I’m just a little surprised by your use of “bad,” “evil,” “defile,” “exploit,” and " :mad: "
 
Married filing jointly becomes a problem when both partners are making over like $75k a year which isn’t a lot of them.

It is so unfair, they are as bad as those evil heterosexuals who decide not to have kids and claim the benefits of marriage anyway. :mad:
Marriage is structured in such a way to provide legal benefits to make it easier to raise children, heterosexuals who don’t have children take the benefits and exploit the system and defile marriage. Gay couples with children are more deserving of the benefits than heterosexuals who choose not to have children.
As a woman who has been married for 24 years, who, not by my choice, has no children, I find your attitude disgusting. :mad:

Not all couples with 2 incomes & no kids are childless by choice. And some of us do not have the means to pay the fees associated with adoption. :mad:
 
I would do nothing, other than look for a new employer, if feasible in your situation.
If one wanted to stay away from companies that support LGBTQ rights one might want to look for a new industry. I worked for a company that provided data related services to several airlines and travel companies and in general the industry has been pretty friendly to LGBTQ. I still have connections to those companies now. There have been some companies that were not quite so friendly, but airline acquisitions and mergers changed that (ex: Southwest airlines was not, Airtran ones, the two companies merged, and the company changed it’s stance. Some of the employees didn’t but the company has gotten involved when there have been instances of hostilities expressed.
 
As a woman who has been married for 24 years, who, not by my choice, has no children, I find your attitude disgusting. :mad:

Not all couples with 2 incomes & no kids are childless by choice. And some of us do not have the means to pay the fees associated with adoption. :mad:
“heterosexuals who decide not to have kids”

Did you decide not to have kids? No? Then I’m not talking about you. I’m not blaming the woman who is unable to conceive nor the man who is infertile, I am talking about the couples who have the money and the working parts to have a child, but they decide against it as it would limit their lifestyle.
 
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