Should I say something here? (cheating in family part deux)

[whatevergirl]

Prayers for your nephew and everyone involved.
I second the poster who remarked about how many people let you know all of the red flags they saw in the relationship, relating past incidents, etc, that they never bothered to mention. After I was left by my ex for another woman, hearing those stories made me feel like even more of a failure…thinking yet again that “everyone knew something and kept it from me”…when I was already struggling with issues of who to trust, feeling stupid and blind, and dealing with the pain of realizing that the past wasn’t what it seemed to be…so I would advise to not bringing up memories/stories to your nephew or other family members.

There is always much more to the story than we know. Too many people offer advice, conflicting, emotionally driven advice. Sometimes it throws the sufferer into even more of a tailspin and drowns out the voice of God. So I would encourage you to help your nephew to keep turning to God and listen for His voice. It may or may not be best for them to reconcile/attempt to reconcile at this point, we simply don’t know. Your nephew needs God right now more than anyone else.

Sorry your family is going through this

God bless

I’m sorry you went through this too…it seems to be a sad epidemic. I appreciate your comments, and I have decided to take everyone’s advice, and just pray for him…he has to walk through this by himself, to see it through…whether he stays with her or not, it is between him, her and God. (hopefully, he will draw upon God for guidance)

 

[baylee]

Now, I will return the gift you once gave me in my time of despair and PRAY for you and your loved ones.

I haven’t been posting here long, but I have found her to be a good egg as well.

Whatevergirl, I was going to suggest praying the Our Father. Not only does it pray for God’s Will be done, but it also prays that He lead us not into temptation and deliver us from Evil (and I think the temptation for you is to get involved right now).

I don’t remember where I saw this but it has stuck with me: Give time time.

Right now you are not clear as to what to do or say…in time, it will become clearer.

 

[whatevergirl]

***Thanks baylee, that is a great idea. It’s funny, I think your prayers everyone have really been working. I suddenly feel at peace, as opposed to when I initially posted this thread a few days ago, with where my nephew’s future lies. I know things will be tough for him, but he will make it. I am praying like crazy that he doesn’t turn from God, but turns towards Him, right now. I pray for his wife, that she gets the help she needs to stop living the life she’s been living. I feel a sense of peace, and I don’t plan to get involved, other than to tell him, I’m here for him if he wants to talk about it. I hope my sister allows him to come to his own decisions–gosh, living with his mom who never liked the girl to begin with? I dunno about that. lol

[On a side note, she has a DUI…I have heard that this can damage someone’s ability to get a job for YEARS…?? Is that right?]***