Should I speak to my pastor?

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Anicette

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Hi,

We currently experience problems that we cannot escape.
I don’t realize fully, but i would say they are very serious. Maybe we would avoid the worst, but it is possible that it became very very serious. Our life as we live would be forever end, (at best, if everybody survive it).

We are followed by a psychologist,

Given that our problems are not currently a religious problem (such as adultery),

Question: should I made aware my pastor?

Thanks you!
 
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I am writting an email to the parish.

What to write inside? it would be read by faithfull lay people.

“Good morning. I wish to talk with the pastor, father X, privately. Could you put us in relation, please? Sign + phone number?”

Is it correct?

It is such as shame for me…
 
Or you could call and make an appointment. Nothing more needs to be said. God Bless!
 
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“Good morning. I wish to talk with the pastor, father X, privately. Could you put us in relation, please? Sign + phone number?”
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Perhaps: “I wish to talk with Father X privately. Could you put us in touch with him, please? My phone number is xxx-xxxx.”
 
Hi,
Thanks you for your replies.

I have sent an email yesterday, no rely yet. I have to wait a little more, I think.

I have gone to the welcoming of the parish today to see if It is opened again (close during the confinement) and if i can have the emergency phone number.
They remoove all. Including mass schedules! Strange!

So apparently it is still close, and we don’t have access anymore to a phone number. I guess it was one of the volunteer lady of the parish, and maybe she was annoyed to received calls?..

The parish have only a landline number, and nobody live in the welcoming. Unless the number have been transfered, I have no more option than to wait.

I may try during the hours of usual opening, but I am worried to annoyed the person and eventually the priest…
 
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I don’t know a single priest who would be annoyed to be contacted by a person in distress seeking help. Not. One. Priest. So please be at peace about that.

In my parish it can take a few days to receive a response to an email. However…is the parish office even open right now? Like you, I live in France. Our parish office is currently closed for the summer holidays, but we can get in touch with any of our priests or deacons directly—their contact info is in the parish directory, which anyone can request a copy of.
 
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What is a parish “directory”? Do you mean rectory, “presbytère”?

We don’t have a presbytère or resident pastor. Only a welcoming opened 4 hours a week by volunteers lay ladies.

I will try today, but apparently the office is closed! Idon’t have think that it may be because of the holidays!

I have no idea where to find the contact info of the priest, nothing is indicated in the website, only an email and a standline phone number, and I would not try to find the phone of the priest by others ways!
I have already done like that a day with another priest and he had been angry! that is understandable.
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I don’t know a single priest who would be annoyed to be contacted by a person in distress seeking help.
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Be annoyed maybe not. But the last time I try, I distressed the priest. So I should be more careful this time with what I would said and my attitude…

Thanks you Up Up and Away for replying.
 
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The parish directory is the list of contact information for the parish staff and group leaders (funeral arrangement, marriage preparation, youth group, cantors, etc.) The annuaire.

It sounds like your parish is very small. In that case, perhaps your diocese’s office can help you get in touch with a priest who can help you.

I’m sorry that the priest you spoke to reacted unkindly. 😧 Please don’t let that stop you from seeking assistance.
 
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Agree, reach out to the Diocese. Specifically say you need to speak to a priest about a private, pastoral matter.
 
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Hi,

Thanks you all.

I have call my parish, and the lady confirmed me that my email had been sent to our pastor, and to wait his call.

So I will wait. I know that the parish seems more something that had been add to his several engagements that the contrary.
I have no idea how long it can take, I have very few experience about that.

I am anxious that he would think that me making aware of what is happening as a strange step and ask me why I tell him. I guess for prayers and spiritual advises and direction, but I am unsure of my legitimacy, how I would present all and if I would be able to follow what he tells me…
 
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Father, I am facing a serious matter in my life and need to ask you how to face this challenge as a Catholic, how to put my faith before my fears and anxiety.

That is a good start.
 
The pastor don’t call me. And I don’t think he will call a day at this point.

I think I have respected the protocol by sending an email. He has been transmitted. Maybe I should have add the reason for it, but didn’t because of privacy concern. Seems that he is glue with personal problems and not available, or it is something odd to ask for.

I know that “speak to your pastor” is one of the advise of the forum, but I wonder if it is a very practical advise. In real life? Priests have hundreds or more parishionners and many responsabilities. They cannot be available for each one. And they are only spiritual advisors when many problems have multiples origins and may involved a variety of differents professionals.
 
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I know that “speak to your pastor” is one of the advise of the forum, but I wonder if it is a very practical advise.
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You are right, this phrase is used. And as you said, they are overwhelmed, as many of us are today.
Do you have another person, priest or other, that could help you? I have my go-tos depending on the situation 🙂
Continued prayers for you!
 
Thanks you for your prayers!

Yes, the priests are overwelmed. Our the last time made a mistake on the gospel at first… He definitely seems to not be well.

I have a friend that I call when I need, I have my parents…

For more professional help, I don’t know what to do : to accept or refuse. I feel pressured, have no trust and each seems a wrong decision.

I am not sure that anyone can help me (and us), and not sure if there is hope or if I failed all the hope…
 
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