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Hi my dear brothers and sisters in Christ, I need help with something here if you don’t mind. 
Background: I am a single, 20 year old mother of an almost 11 month old son. My son’s father, age 21, just recently started getting involved in our son’s life as per an established court order we came up with together in August. We haven’t seen each other nor talked to each other for several months prior to our court date. Despite the concern I am about to present, things have been going fairly well.
I want to preface this with the fact that my son’s father has a history of being quite manipulative, controlling and shady. I bring this up not to trash talk him, but to illustrate why I have a difficult time trusting him.
Okay so this is what is bothering me. On the day of our court date, my son’s father and I were talking outside after we compiled our court order. He went on with this whole speech about how I don’t need to worry about not being able to trust him because he’s really set on fulfilling his role as our baby’s father, how he’s going to be responsible, and how he’s been spending the summer reading books and maturing and…you get the point I am sure
. During this conversation, he brought up that he had been spending time with this one [divorced] lady’s kids, a friend of his as he put it, to try and get a feel for what it’s like to be around children. He ended that little tidbit with saying that he “wont be doing that anymore” now that he’s coming to see our son. It bothered me a little bit at that moment because I was wondering in my mind why he was willing to see someone else’s children and not his own but I shrugged it off.
Anyway, fast forward a couple days, my curiousity got the best of me and I started looking around on my son’s father’s facebook. Turns out, the lady he referred to as a friend, is actually his girlfriend
I’m confused as to why he would bring this lady up as a friend when she is really his girlfriend. I haven’t brought it up with him because I just don’t know whether or not I should. So far my son’s father has been visiting our son with me present since that is the way the court order is set up but in a short time from now he will be able to visit with our son without me. Should I be concerned that he may be taking our son around another lady whom he knows in a romantic context, without saying anything about it to me?
Or should I just let it go?
Oh and if any of you males could please answer this for me I would gladly appreciate it: Why do you suppose my son’s father would present to me misleading information about his girlfriend?
Much love & God bless,
Jennifer
Background: I am a single, 20 year old mother of an almost 11 month old son. My son’s father, age 21, just recently started getting involved in our son’s life as per an established court order we came up with together in August. We haven’t seen each other nor talked to each other for several months prior to our court date. Despite the concern I am about to present, things have been going fairly well.
I want to preface this with the fact that my son’s father has a history of being quite manipulative, controlling and shady. I bring this up not to trash talk him, but to illustrate why I have a difficult time trusting him.
Okay so this is what is bothering me. On the day of our court date, my son’s father and I were talking outside after we compiled our court order. He went on with this whole speech about how I don’t need to worry about not being able to trust him because he’s really set on fulfilling his role as our baby’s father, how he’s going to be responsible, and how he’s been spending the summer reading books and maturing and…you get the point I am sure
. During this conversation, he brought up that he had been spending time with this one [divorced] lady’s kids, a friend of his as he put it, to try and get a feel for what it’s like to be around children. He ended that little tidbit with saying that he “wont be doing that anymore” now that he’s coming to see our son. It bothered me a little bit at that moment because I was wondering in my mind why he was willing to see someone else’s children and not his own but I shrugged it off.Anyway, fast forward a couple days, my curiousity got the best of me and I started looking around on my son’s father’s facebook. Turns out, the lady he referred to as a friend, is actually his girlfriend
I’m confused as to why he would bring this lady up as a friend when she is really his girlfriend. I haven’t brought it up with him because I just don’t know whether or not I should. So far my son’s father has been visiting our son with me present since that is the way the court order is set up but in a short time from now he will be able to visit with our son without me. Should I be concerned that he may be taking our son around another lady whom he knows in a romantic context, without saying anything about it to me?
Or should I just let it go?
Oh and if any of you males could please answer this for me I would gladly appreciate it: Why do you suppose my son’s father would present to me misleading information about his girlfriend?
Much love & God bless,
Jennifer
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