Should my friend go to confession?

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My friend went apple picking with some friends and her friends tried to steal about $100 worth of apples. My friend was an innocent bystander in it in the sense she tried to say no to it but people wouldn’t listen. She paid for her apples the proper way but the people decided to steal. The car got caught by the orchard’s security. They didn’t call the cops but they did have to pay for the apples that were illegally taken. Afterwords her friends got angry because they were caught which angered her even more.

Does she need to go to confession? She did nothing wrong but she feels terrible regarding what happened. They came very close in getting a police record which angers her because she has always tried to avoid situations that would cause one harm and yet this stupidity over $50 worth of apples almost gave her a record.

As you know, once you have a record, good luck getting a job or being allowed to leave the country since due to post 9/11 police records basically prevent one from leaving their country.
 
If she didn’t sin (steal), and didn’t encourage other to, why do you believe she should go to confession?
What she might want to do, is offer her next Holy Communion for their repentance, and their eyes to be opened regarding stealing.
 
pianistclare said:
If she didn’t sin (steal), and didn’t encourage other to, why do you believe she should go to confession?
What she might want to do, is offer her next Holy Communion for their repentance, and their eyes to be opened regarding stealing.
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The OP is referring to her friend’s anger.
 
Rosebud77 said:
The OP is referring to her friend’s anger.
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She can pray about it. I suppose she could confess it. But it’s an anger at the sin, not the people, no?
I think we’re supposed to be angry when we observe sin taking place.
Maybe disappointment is a better emotion.
 
pianistclare said:
She can pray about it. I suppose she could confess it. But it’s an anger at the sin, not the people, no?
I think we’re supposed to be angry when we observe sin taking place.
Maybe disappointment is a better emotion.
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Maybe it was how she expressed the anger… that was the impression I was given
 
The first thing your friend needs to do is find some new friends. Real friends do not put their friends in those type of situations.

Secondly, she could talk to her confessor about it at her next confession but I do not believe she sinned in any way.

Peer pressure can be very powerful. Like I said, if these were truly “friends”, they wouldn’t put her in that position. I would advise her to seek out new friends that do not steal. They may be good friends but they are leading her down the wrong path.
 
Yes she should go to Confession. This issue is clearly troubling her conscience, and if in doubt go to Confession. Regardless of this people should go to regular Confession anyway, once a month is recommended, more frequently is even better.
 
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