Should my wife convert?

[FrDavid96]

Once again, I’d like to remind everyone here that the RCIA is a learning process. One need not accept every belief of the Church while that person is still a catechumen–and no one should expect them to do so. That’s what the RCIA is all about, teaching and learning. Again, if the catechumen accepted every belief of the Church from day-one, we would not have any need for RCIA.

 

[joandarc2008]

OK, this my IMHO - I am getting married in 7 days so take it for what is worth. My fiance and I have a very good spiritual relationship. He did not push me to take my full sacraments he only had certain requirements for the marriage:

1. We raise any adopted children (I am infertile due to a medical issue) Roman Catholic.
2. I continue a spiritual journey in some Christian religion.
3. We marry in the Catholic Church.
4. If I did do RCIA I did it for me and my relationship with God and not for him or because he is Roman Catholic.

This worked out quite well and because he did not pressure me I asked him to sponsor me through RCIA. It has helped us grow spiritually as a couple as well. Even to the point that even though we made the wrong decisions to start and were cohabitating in all forms of the word we are now living as brother and sister until we are married. Our deacon was astonished at that one - he said it is much harder to give that up when you know what you are giving up rather than someone who has remain chaste all their life.

as far as transubstantiation - let me add this if it helps your wife. I am a recovering alcoholic with almost two years of sobriety. I do take both parts of the eucharist. Why can I do this? Simple it is not wine - it is the Holy Spirit. I cannot even smell alcohol on someones breath and not feel ill from it yet when I take the blood it does not even taste like wine to me. I taste nothing and I feel nothing but calm and peace. To an alcoholic that is proof that it is the blood of Christ and not a sip of wine.

God bless,

 

[universalist]

It seems odd that a Lutheran Christian doesn,t believe in the real presence in the lord,s supper as all Lutherans are taught that the body and blood of jesus reside in the bread and wine.