Should this 30-something grow up?

[JLCecilia]

So I know this gal who’s 34 and she is a fad follower, dress, fitness, lifestyle, the works. She follows Oprah to the nth degree and follows just about every reality show that MTV has to offer. She and her hubby have been married for 12+ yrs and they have an 8yo son.

She has her hair cut and colored at least once a month, she goes to every madonna and janet jackson concert that comes to town (sometimes even leaving the state w/ her sister to attend), she has a new outfit for every family dinner . . .so on and so forth. At Christmas, when I complimented her on her shoes, she openly admitted that her hubby had to drive her to 3 different malls/stores just to get them in her size (in the city, this can mean a 20+ mile drive to each location). They have said that they take DS to the mall for dinner EVERY Friday (30 mi away).

It goes w/out saying that this family is of zero faith. Anybody else know someone like this? What is up w/ this? I mean, I know what’s up, but really, WHAT IS UP WITH THIS???!!!

 

[Katie1723]

Be glad you aren’t married to her.
Kathy

 

[JLCecilia]

No kidding, they split up several years ago and part of her condition for getting back together was for him to get a vasectomy. I cannot tell you how BAD this man wants more children and it will never happen.

 

[happymommy]

Is she unkind to her husband or child?

Is she asking you to pay for her things? No, then she can buy whatever she wants.

Is going out to eat once a week wrong? My in-laws go out to eat every Sat. night, they have for years. Friends of ours have pizza night every Friday and yes they get it out, with their children

Is she telling you she doesn’t like your hair cut or that it needs colored? A lot of women get their hair done, doesn’t mean that they are a bad person or they need to grow up. Maybe she has grey hair! Most ladies I know get theirs cut every 6 weeks if you want to keep some styles.

If her husband is willing to drive her around to different stores, who cares.

So she goes to concerts, that is allowed. I don’t like the same kind of music, but going to concerts is fun.

Not sure how any of this is your business. I’m not sure what this thread is about. She likes Oprah, so, a lot of people watch Oprah everyday. And she is not the only one who watches reality t.v. that’s why it’s so popular right now!

You haven’t written anything that makes me think this woman is doing anything wrong. Just because you wouldn’t do it, doesn’t mean you are right.
You also haven’t written anything to support

It goes w/out saying that this family is of zero faith.

You’ve just really slammed some lady for the way she lives her life. I call it gossip and not very nice.

No kidding, they split up several years ago and part of her condition for getting back together was for him to get a vasectomy. I cannot tell you how BAD this man wants more children and it will never happen

I guess not real bad if he came back and had it done…again, none of our business.

 

[Sarabande]

So I know this gal who’s 34 and she is a fad follower, dress, fitness, lifestyle, the works. She follows Oprah to the nth degree and follows just about every reality show that MTV has to offer. She and her hubby have been married for 12+ yrs and they have an 8yo son.

She has her hair cut and colored at least once a month, she goes to every madonna and janet jackson concert that comes to town (sometimes even leaving the state w/ her sister to attend), she has a new outfit for every family dinner . . .so on and so forth. At Christmas, when I complimented her on her shoes, she openly admitted that her hubby had to drive her to 3 different malls/stores just to get them in her size (in the city, this can mean a 20+ mile drive to each location). They have said that they take DS to the mall for dinner EVERY Friday (30 mi away).

It goes w/out saying that this family is of zero faith. Anybody else know someone like this? What is up w/ this? I mean, I know what’s up, but really, WHAT IS UP WITH THIS???!!!

If you’re not friends with her or that close to her, why don’t you just ignore her lifestyle instead of letting it get under your skin. I can understand the frustration, but it just makes us more angry and bitter if we harp and focus on things about another person that we may not approve.

Is she being judgemental towards you regarding your lifestyle? Is that why you are so frustrated about hers? If she isn’t, I’d recommend just letting it go. Life is too short.

Some people have different priorities in life and that’s that. We can pray for them if their life choices are sinful, but unless we have a say in their lives or if they ask us our opinion about it, there really isn’t much more to do. Granted, I may not think much about the way she leads her life, but that’s ok. I can choose not to hang around her and you could too - unless she is actually family. Then you’d have to learn how to coexist at family functions.

I hope I don’t sound harsh… I don’t mean to be if I do. Just giving my opinion on what I’d do.

 

[kevinsgirl]

What happymommy said.

That’s really sad about the vasectomy, though.

 

[PaulinVA]

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It goes w/out saying that this family is of zero faith. Anybody else know someone like this? What is up w/ this? I mean, I know what’s up, but really, WHAT IS UP WITH THIS???!!!

No, but I read an internet posting from someone today that was judgmental and uncharitable and should really never have been written.

 

[jmcrae]

I have a sister who behaves like that. I don’t consider it any of my business what she does with her money or her free time - she’s having fun, and she isn’t hurting anyone.

 

[Angels_Unaware]

What happymommy said.

That’s really sad about the vasectomy, though.

Yeah, I agree. I’m not like that, but I’m not sure what exactly is wrong with it. So she’s trendy and likes to have fun. That isn’t the same thing as being irresponsible.

 

[Sarabande]

Yeah, I agree. I’m not like that, but I’m not sure what exactly is wrong with it. So she’s trendy and likes to have fun. That isn’t the same thing as being irresponsible.

Yeah, I agree as well. Life’s too short to get your stomach all tied up in a knot over something you (in general) may not agree with or like yourself.