Paul was addressing very serious and very specific problems when he wrote his letters to the Church in Corinth - factions and divisions, gluttony, immorality, etc. Paul addresses the issue of disorder in the Church in chapter 14.
If any speak in a tongue, let there be only two or at most three, and each in turn; and let one interpret. (1 Corinthians 14:27)
Disorder was the problem. Everyone was speaking at the same time and there was great chaos.
So, my brethren, earnestly desire to prophesy, and do not forbid speaking in tongues; but all things should be done decently and in order. (1 Corinthians 14:39-40)
The lesson we should take away is that Church activities, especially the liturgy, should be orderly and not chaotic. One person should speak at a time and most should keep silent and just listen. Order vs. chaos is the lesson we should take away.
Paul did not intend to address the role of women in the Church. The role of women isn’t his subject. It’s an historical fact that women were more subservient to men in those days and we need to accept that and move past it. The Corinthian women were disorderly too. Paul is just using the social standing of women at the time to instruct the congregation on orderly worship. It has nothing to do with the role of women in the Church.
Paul’s teaching on the dignity of women is beautiful, especially 1 Timothy 5 where he says all women should be treated like mothers and sisters and their purity should be honored. Most especially Ephesians 5 which exhorts husbands to be willing to die for their wives as Christ died for the Church. Paul always upheld the great dignity of women.
-Tim-