Shouldn't husband stand by my side, not on the opposing side

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Dacinom said:
It is inappropriate to ask children this kind of question. It’s not the same as asking the children if they want ice cream, you are asking the children how they feel about totally changing custody arrangements. These kinds of decisions are made by adults hopefully working together. I am sorry you are unhappy in your marriage, I will pray for you.

The children are not Catholic, which is sad, however the parents have the authority and the free will to make that decision. God respects our free will, we need to respect the free will of each other even though it’s hard.
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Aside from the specific content of the question (which has already been discussed), it’s really, really bad to ask kids if they want something that you aren’t currently in a position to offer them.

Example:

mom: Would you like some ice cream?
kids: SQUEEEEEE!!!
mom: We don’t have any. Sorry!

or

husband: Would you like to go out tonight?
wife: SQUEEEEE!!!
husband: I’m working tonight.

It’s potentially a really hurtful thing to do, to build up expectations like that.
 
I pretty much agree with what others hve said. Divorce is never easy, especially with kids involved. Your husband probably had to go thru a lot to get the time he does have with his kids, so I can see his getting angry.

But, I also see that you do have a lot to offer a child. You obviously have a good time with your stepchildren, and get along with them. Why not look into adoption, or foster care? It’s in your favor that you don’t have to work full time. And, you obviously have room in your heart!

But, remember, your stepchildren are just that…stepchildren. Just concentrate on being the best stepmom you can be. And, when you feel the time is right, you can speak to your husband about adopting a child. Your relationship with your stepchildren will definitely be taken into account, here. Best of luck and God Bless!
 
Sorry but everything that you are saying is wrong.
It’s not right to feel it’s your place to “take” someone else’s children to fill a gap because you couldn’t have your own or because you can provide more material things for them or more expensive education.
I’m very sorry for your situation that you were unable to have children but your husband and you need to be selfless and do what’s bests for his children’s emotional wellbeing and for the harmony of the whole situation.

Sorry if this comes across harsh but I don’t mean it to sound harsh:)
 
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