M
Markus2007
Guest
Hello,
I’m not sure if this is the right sub-forum, if not please just move my thread to where it belongs.
Ever since coming back home to the faith I wondered about the issue of being “in a relationship” with a woman, and how to go about it in a godly way while not yet married. I understand that the purpose of such a relationship, or of “dating” in general is finding the right person for marriage, and that sex belongs inside the covenant of marriage.
Yet I still have to admit that there is a huge difference between a woman who I would call my girlfriend, and any other person. Obviously, she is much closer to me and means much more to me then other people. Therefore there is a desire to treat her differently, too. That includes the physical level.
When it comes to physically showing affection, how can I discern what’s appropriate, and what’s sinful? For example, the image of Mary Magdalene passionately kissing Jesus’ feet was of course a gesture of showing great honor and devotion to Christ. Do you think I could kiss the feet of my girlfriend in a similar way, to honor her and to show her affection and devotion, or would this lead to sinful thoughts or even be sinful in itself already? This is particularly a scene I always have in my mind.
I understand for some this could already be considered sexual foreplay, or even a sexual act itself (considering fetishes etc.). But for me it would be more about honoring this very special person in a physical way. But then again, isn’t sex also in part to physically honor your spouse? Not an easy subject.
Anyways I’m curious to what you think about this topic and thankful for every response.
I’m not sure if this is the right sub-forum, if not please just move my thread to where it belongs.
Ever since coming back home to the faith I wondered about the issue of being “in a relationship” with a woman, and how to go about it in a godly way while not yet married. I understand that the purpose of such a relationship, or of “dating” in general is finding the right person for marriage, and that sex belongs inside the covenant of marriage.
Yet I still have to admit that there is a huge difference between a woman who I would call my girlfriend, and any other person. Obviously, she is much closer to me and means much more to me then other people. Therefore there is a desire to treat her differently, too. That includes the physical level.
When it comes to physically showing affection, how can I discern what’s appropriate, and what’s sinful? For example, the image of Mary Magdalene passionately kissing Jesus’ feet was of course a gesture of showing great honor and devotion to Christ. Do you think I could kiss the feet of my girlfriend in a similar way, to honor her and to show her affection and devotion, or would this lead to sinful thoughts or even be sinful in itself already? This is particularly a scene I always have in my mind.
I understand for some this could already be considered sexual foreplay, or even a sexual act itself (considering fetishes etc.). But for me it would be more about honoring this very special person in a physical way. But then again, isn’t sex also in part to physically honor your spouse? Not an easy subject.
Anyways I’m curious to what you think about this topic and thankful for every response.
Please do not do this, because it is really bizarre and weird, not because it may be sinful.
) and am starting to read my way through it. I’s already been a real blessing to me and I hope a lot of people will have a look at it.