Sin, porn and mast

[billcu1]

I really need some help or advice on masturbation. My most confessed to sin that has me is it and porn and not surprisingly, IMO gluttony. My Pastor is my confessor. He told me that fasting (and I mean food in this matter) was the best way to combat this. I believe it is. But here’s the thing. I live alone with my cat and boredom has some influence too. He has mentioned several time the “desert masters”. He might be referring to, is it St. Andrew? I am tired and embarrassed of having to confess this so much. I need I think a good devotional, better than the gospel reading of the day. Has anyone conquered this problem? Who are the “dessert fathers”?

 

[billcu1]

Thanks you much for your thorough and honest response. maybe it is libido with me. I do need to lose weight and fast though OK thanks much for the dessert fathers. Would you happen to know why he mentioned them? Were they recluse ?

 

[billcu1]

There is a way I have forgot but used once and it was very effective. When one is tempted to ask that God remove the temptation and it works.

 

[NM505StKate]

I really need some help or advice on masturbation. My most confessed to sin that has me is it and porn and not surprisingly, IMO gluttony. My Pastor is my confessor. He told me that fasting (and I mean food in this matter) was the best way to combat this. I believe it is. But here’s the thing. I live alone with my cat and boredom has some influence too. He has mentioned several time the “desert masters”. He might be referring to, is it St. Andrew? I am tired and embarrassed of having to confess this so much. I need I think a good devotional, better than the gospel reading of the day. Has anyone conquered this problem? Who are the “dessert fathers”?

Have you tried going out and meeting people? How about chat rooms online? Have you visited a counselor or looked for psychiatric help?

 

[billcu1]

Have you tried going out and meeting people? How about chat rooms online? Have you visited a counselor or looked for psychiatric help?

I get out some. I stay away from online chat. I see a Psychiatrist every 3 months for depression,anxiety, and panic attacks. That might not help matters and could possibly even hurt.

 

[billcu1]

Have you tried going out and meeting people? How about chat rooms online? Have you visited a counselor or looked for psychiatric help?

Another thing too. The psychological community goes by the DSM-V and maybe the old DSM-IV-TR, which is highly politically motivated. If I went in saying there was a masturbation problem. I am quite sure they would say “What do you think is wrong with you?” They see masturbation as “quite normal”. Psychology, hardly a science. There’s some good ideas there I am sure there’s something to. But not “Scientific Method”.

 

[NM505StKate]

I get out some. I stay away from online chat. I see a Psychiatrist every 3 months for depression,anxiety, and panic attacks. That might not help matters and could possibly even hurt.

Okay. I would highly suggest you talk to your Psych about this. See if you can go more. Do they have you on medication? Your gluttony may be based on being depressed. I hope you find the help you need.

 

[billcu1]

Okay. I would highly suggest you talk to your Psych about this. See if you can go more. Do they have you on medication? Your gluttony may be based on being depressed. I hope you find the help you need.

Boredom and I am on many, maybe too many meds. That makes you want to eat.

 

[NM505StKate]

Boredom and I am on many, maybe too many meds. That makes you want to eat.

Talk to your doctor. There might be something else you can take. The DSM-V politically motivated? How?

 

[Rbaker]

I agree with this. Weekly confession is a great idea. Also, make sure to pray for yourself, as well as others who struggle with the same thing.

Never give up

 

[billcu1]

Talk to your doctor. There might be something else you can take. The DSM-V politically motivated? How?

Version 1 or 2 said homosexuality was a disorder. Of course that had to be changed. The LGBT people couldn’t have it. People don’t seem to know right from wrong so they just make wrong right. So they can do as they please. There were many complaints from activists. I spoke to a Psych therapist a PhD I used to see about masturbation and if he thought is was a disorder. He said it was normal as far as he was concerned. biggest waste of money ever. There’s no “cognitive behavioral” therapists around here.

 

[billcu1]

I agree with this. Weekly confession is a great idea. Also, make sure to pray for yourself, as well as others who struggle with the same thing.

Never give up

Sounds good but wouldn’t father get tired of it? I guess if you keep doing the same thing you don’t do other things.

 

[billcu1]

Yes you feel worse and disgusted with it more. I go to confession a lot. But as far as venial sin, I think the Eucharist forgives that. I have not decided on the rosary, or one of the Christology devotions. I like mariology a lot. That builds faith. And then there’s the works of mercy.

 

[Brassring]

As someone who struggled with similar problems, I’ll say that regular use of the Medal of St. Benedict and the Vade Retro Satana was very helpful to me in times of temptation.

 

[billcu1]

I have a blessed Miraculous Medal key ring I carry. Something nice to have around. I have heard of the Benedict medal, but IDK is there are any initiations needed with it like there are scapulars or not.

 

[Estevao]

St. John Cassian is another Desert Father

osb.org/lectio/cassian/conf/

 

[HungerNThirst4R]

I have the same problem, and honestly Ive been failing with it lately.
I like St. Mary of Egypt, checkout her story. Shes a desert mother of sorts. Truthfully I need to be calling on her help more.

 

[Expatreprocedit]

I really need some help or advice on masturbation. My most confessed to sin that has me is it and porn and not surprisingly, IMO gluttony. My Pastor is my confessor. He told me that fasting (and I mean food in this matter) was the best way to combat this. I believe it is. But here’s the thing. I live alone with my cat and boredom has some influence too. He has mentioned several time the “desert masters”. He might be referring to, is it St. Andrew? I am tired and embarrassed of having to confess this so much. I need I think a good devotional, better than the gospel reading of the day. Has anyone conquered this problem? Who are the “dessert fathers”?

1. There often is a connection between anger and lust. There may be an anger problem.
2. I found prostrations to be very helpful. When the Devil wants you to put your body to a sinful use, put it instead to a holy use.

God bless.

 

[isu]

I don’t know if this will help, but for me it felt like praying made it worse. I was also in denial that I have a chemical addiction to this problem. I came across this website that is currently helping me see the science behind my problem. I always failed because my body would start having withdrawl symptoms. I orginally thought my body was weird and actually needed it…funny how blind we can be to ourselves. Now this is a secular site so I highly recommend to NOT follow the steps that are against church teaching but everything else has been helpful to me so far.

yourbrainonporn.com

 

[billcu1]

1. There often is a connection between anger and lust. There may be an anger problem.
2. I found prostrations to be very helpful. When the Devil wants you to put your body to a sinful use, put it instead to a holy use.

God bless.

Oh yes anger. There seems to also be a connection in anger and eating meat. IDK about Kosher meats. When they kill the animals they’re angry and scared. I have talked to vegetarians whom I admire. They say the biggest difference to them; when eating meat or not, is not so angry.