Single and not really loving it!-Really need prayers

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Hello,

Not sure how to begin-but here goes

I’m 28 and am actively praying(To God, Mother Mary , the Saints…to any and all who would listen in heaven!!) and looking to find ‘the one’ to whom i wish to be my life partner, my companion , my bride…but no luck so far. I have never been married before or have had sexual relations(that’s right i am a weirdo).

One major challenge i have is that i come from an Asian country(where i was born and raised) . I came to the US to study and now work here. It’s really really really difficult to meet Catholics from where i am and pursue a relationship. I have tried to change my job and location multiple times-but nothing has worked.

The only people i can talk too(that i have an interest in) are really really long distance. It’s really difficult to get a feel for a possible relation ship when that person is so far away.

What hurts the most is that i have seen friend after friend(mostly of other religions) get married almost effortlessly to really nice women.I also have a very diminished friends circle because all have got married and moved on.

Needless to say when i see couples i feel doubly lonely and exasperated.

I have tried to faithfully obey all the church’s teachings on sexual relations and have always tried to be faithful to the teachings of Christ(regularly attend mass, prayer meetings, adoration, read the bible) etc…i will admit i had some impurity issues which by God;s grace he is healing me. But i don’t know if doing all that really produced any fruit…because i see so many guys who did not bother with such things land up with really nice partners…did i do everything wrong? was i too naive and think it will all work out eventually?

Was i too picky? did i miss my chance?

It is so hard to remain pure and think pure thoughts, while i am single and have all these emotions and desire for intimacy. I really don’t know what to do, i feel like a square peg in a round hole. I think very differently and am usually the quiet, reserved and thinking type and lets face it…it does not bode very well in meeting girls. Don’t get me wrong - i can be very friendly and i talk to people easily…but only after i feel ‘safe’.

Please pray that God makes a breakthrough and he sends someone in my life-and that i will know when it is time. If it is to a different location then so be it…but something…something has to change …i am tired of waiting…and praying for very little fruit…

I think i may have vented out more than requested a prayer…but yes…i am on my knees pleading to God for a breakthrough. My confidence levels also are at a low because i feel that i have somehow ‘failed’ in finding someone, because i did not care enough to be very serious about it and i am now being ‘punished’ for it.

Will it every happen? Will i ever find the Godly, beautiful and kind hear-ted woman that i always prayed for? or will i always be single…
 
Try St. Raphael:

Novena to St Raphael for young people desirous of making a good marriage

NOVENA PRAYER TO ST RAPHAEL

O Glorious St. Raphael, Patron and Lover of the Young, I call upon thee and plead with thee for thy help.In all confidence I open my heart to thee, to beg thy guidance and assistance in the important task of planning my future. Obtain for me through thy intercession the light of God’s grace, so that I may decide wisely concerning the person who is to be my partner through life. O Angel of Happy Meetings, lead us by the hand to find each other. May all our movements be guided by thy light and transfigured by thy joy. As thou didst lead the young Tobias to Sara and opened up for him a new life of happiness with her in holy marriage, lead me to such a one whom in thine angelic wisdom thou dost judge best suited to be united with me in marriage.

St. Raphael, loving Patron of those seeking a marriage partner, help me in this supreme decision of my life. Find for me as a helpmate in life that person whose character will reflect the traits of Jesus and Mary. May he (she) be upright, loyal, pure, sincere and noble, so that with united efforts and with chaste and unselfish love, we both may strive to perfect ourselves in soul and body, as well as the children it may please God to entrust to our care.

St. Raphael, Angel of chaste courtship, bless our friendship and our love, that sin may have no part in it. May our mutual love bind us so closely that our future home may ever be most like the home of the Holy Family of Nazareth. Offer thy prayers to God for both of us and obtain the blessing of God upon our marriage, as thou wert the herald of blessing for the marriage of Tobias and Sara.

St. Raphael, Friend of the Young, be thou my friend, for I shall always be thine. I desire ever to invoke thee in my needs. To thy special care I entrust the decision I am to make as to my future wife (husband). Direct me to the person with whom I can best cooperate in doing God’s Holy Will, with whom I can live in peace, love, and harmony in this life and attain to eternal joy in the next. Amen.

In honor of St. Raphael recite one Our Father, Hail Mary, and Glory be.
 
Wow. I cannot write enough to tell the whole story now. Suffice it to say, you are a pearl of great price.

I will try to write more tomorrow. For now, I leave you with these words from experience. The best place to find a great partner, is in the line for the Sacrament of Penance.

Here you will find a sould connected with objective truth, life, and the way.

God bless you!
 
God has a plan dude. Trust in it.
I’ll say a prayer for you.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Hello JSAD,

you are not “weird” and I would suggest you do not put yourself down by using such words (said with kindness 🙂 ). You are very special and I wish there were more people like you in the world today who would hold to God’s values and morals. I am a mother of five and pray for my sons and daughter to find someone with good morals, and that my sons and daughter will have the morals as taught to them.

Your prayers will be answered: God is no doubt planning to send you a very special and wonderful lady your way. Just stay true to God and have patience! Your future wife, a godly woman, is worth waiting for. 🙂

God’s blessings to you,

CEM
 
Catholic Prayer for Seeking a Devout Husband or Wife:

O Jesus, lover of the young, the dearest Friend I have, in all confidence I open my heart to You to beg Your light and assistance in the important task of planning my future. Give me the light of Your grace, that I may decide wisely concerning the person who is to be my partner through life. Dearest Jesus, send me such a one whom in Your divine wisdom You judge best suited to be united with me in marriage. May her/his character reflect some of the traits of Your own Sacred Heart. May s/he be upright, loyal, pure, sincere and noble, so that with united efforts and with pure and unselfish love we both may strive to perfect ourselves in soul and body, as well as the children it may please You to entrust to our care. Bless our friendship before marriage, that sin may have no part in it. May our mutual love bind us so closely, that our future home may ever be most like Your own at Nazareth.

O Mary Immaculate, sweet Mother of the young, to your special care I entrust the decision I am to make as to my future wife/husband. You are my guiding Star! Direct me to the person with whom I can best cooperate in doing God’s Holy Will, with whom I can live in peace, love and harmony in this life, and attain to eternal joys in the next.
Amen.
 
Hey, JSAD, I wish you all the best in whatever the future brings you and I wouldn’t actually be pessimistic about that. I can relate to everything you say, in fact, I could have written much of your post myself (also male, 28 etc., even have diagonal eyes and pronounced cheekbones on a blond European as a souvenir from some Asian ancestor centuries ago). What a coincidence.

By the way, it’s admirable how aptly and adeptly you can express yourself in English, especially given how different Far Eastern languages are from the Indo-European ones. This shows you as a very intelligent or hard-working person, or, more likely, both, which is a trait highly regarded by well-adjusted Catholic women, of whom I’m sure many would wish to be able to meet someone like you, as opposed to settling for whatever they can get, which is the sad reality sometimes.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen.
 
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