Sins against purity/chasity

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Walking_Home:
So I am glad you are well aware how this applies to you to — and really start reflecting on this.
thank you for the opportunity. Do you think it also applies to you? Do you think it applies to people who dress immodestly?

Also, casting off the saints’ advice so casually as “they spoke for their time and culture” is pretty galling. You must not have read the quotes either – nowhere did they really mention specific modes of dress, just the instance of drawing others into temptation. Is that really a problem that existed in one age and is no longer relevant in the 21st century?

You’ll find that the basic problems of humanity have not really changed at all, and when I read St. Augustine’s Confessions I’m struck with how something written 1700 years ago is still so completely relevant and true in 2011. There is a bias we as a culture have, and even we as Catholics have against things that are in the past. The writings of saints are always relevant. They are not always true for every instance, but we are obliged to at least consider them thoughtfully instead of to place them in the corner like a quaint old relative, thinking they’re cute and well meaning, but not really important to listen to or heed

A currently dressed woman – short sleeves–knee length skirt or slacks – would have been a “scandal” at the time of the saints – so it is not “galling” – to say-- they spoke for their time and culture.

We can cause “scandal” by teaching – to look down upon others - for how they “look” – the color of their skin – the clothes they wear.
 

A currently dressed woman – short sleeves–knee length skirt or slacks – would have been a “scandal” at the time of the saints – so it is not “galling” – to say-- they spoke for their time and culture.

We can cause “scandal” by teaching – to look down upon others - for how they “look” – the color of their skin – the clothes they wear.
It’s useless to expect you to actually address my arguments
 

We can cause “scandal” by teaching – to look down upon others - for how they “look” – the color of their skin – the clothes they wear.
I think that there is definitely a difference between teaching someone to dress modestly and teaching them to “look down upon” or “devalue” someone who dresses differently.

We have to be taught to stop at at stop sign, to tell the truth, and not to commit adultery, for example. Somehow we seem to manage to teach and learn these things without at the same time teaching/learning to denigrate those who are unable to follow those guidelines.
 
I think these teachings by some of the Doctors of the Catholic Church (the 33 canonized Saints whom the Church regards as “doctors” or “teachers” of the Faith) are relevant:

**'You carry your snare everywhere and spread your nets in all places. You allege that you never invited others to sin. You did not, indeed, by your words, but you have done so by your dress and your deportment. . . When you have made another sin in his heart, how can you be innocent? Tell me, whom does this world condemn? Whom do judges punish? Those who drink poison or those who prepare it and administer the fatal potion?

You have prepared the abominable cup, you have given the death dealing drink, and you are more criminal than are those who poison the body; you murder not the body but the soul.

And it is not to enemies you do this, nor are you urged on by any imaginary necessity, nor provoked by injury, but out of foolish vanity and pride.’ **

St. John Chrysostom, Father and Doctor of the Church

**‘In all your movements, let nothing be evident that would offend the eyes of another.’ **

St. Augustine, Father and Doctor of the Church

**'Miserable is the man that gives scandal! Our Lord says: He that shall scandalize one of these little ones that believe in Me, it were better for him that a millstone should be hanged about his neck, and that he should be drowned in the depth of the sea.

Is there the least glimmer of hope for a man who is cast into the sea with a millstone about his neck? The Gospel appears to say that there is no greater hope for the salvation of the authors of scandal.

St. John Chrysostom writes that the Lord is more inclined to show mercy to those who commit other more grievous sins, than to those who are guilty of the sin of scandal. What! says the Lord to the authors of scandal, are you not satisfied with offending me by your own sins? Do you wish to induce others also to insult me? In the Mirror of Examples, it is related that Jesus Christ said one day to a scandalous sinner, “Accursed wretch, you have despised what I have purchased by my blood.”

A mortal sin of scandal is committed by women who go about with their bosom immodestly exposed, or who expose their limbs improperly. Also by actors in immodest comedies, and still more by the persons who compose such comedies; also by painters who paint obscene pictures, and by the heads of families who keep such pictures in their houses. The father who speaks obscenely, or blasphemes the saints, in presence of his children, and the mother who brings into her house to live among her daughters young men who are in love with them, or betrothed to them, or other suspected persons, are guilty of a still more grievous sin of scandal. Some mothers say: do not suspect any evil. I answer, that it is their duty to suspect; otherwise they will have to render to God an account of all the sins which may follow.

Woe to that man by whom the scandal cometh. Listen to a horrible thing that happened in the city of Savona in the year 1560. I have read it in the chronicles of the Capuchins, and it is also related by Father Ardia. There was a woman who, even after marriage, did not cease giving scandal. This woman one day fell into a fit, and while she was in a state of unconsciousness, she saw the Lord condemning her to eternal fire. When she recovered the use of her senses, she did nothing but cry out, “Alas! I am damned, I am damned!” A confessor came to comfort her, but she answered, “What have I to do with confession? I am damned.” Then her daughter approached the bed, in order to encourage her, but she cried out: “Ah, accursed child! on your account, too, I am damned: for through you I have given scandal to others.” After these words the devils, in presence of all who were in the apartment, raised her up to the ceiling, and then dashed her so violently against the floor that she instantly expired.’ **

St. Alphonsus Maria de Liguori, Doctor of the Church
Part of what you quoted from a saint yesterday on a thread on immodest dress:

'“There are mothers who have so little religion or, if you like, are so ignorant that if they want to show off their baby to some neighbouring mothers, they will show it to them naked. Others, when they are putting on diapers, will leave the babies, for a long period of time, uncovered before everyone. Now even if there is no one present at all, you should not do this. Should you not respect the presence of their Guardian Angels? It is the same thing when you are feeding them. Should any Christian mother allow her breasts to remain exposed? And even if they are covered, should she not turn aside to some place where there is no one else? Then there are others who, under the pretext of being foster-nurses, are continually only half-covered. This is very disgusting. It is enough to make even the pagans blush. People are compelled to avoid their company in order not to expose themselves to evil thoughts.”

As I have said, if anyone wants to see sin and evil, they will see it.
 

Have you ever thought of how this applies to you – L piperatus – Paddy1989 etc. Think about it – people who wouldn’t go around paying attention to what others wear --like in church and/or thinking badly others–read what you – L piperatus – etc. post – and how this influences them – to turn and check out the “attire” of others – and think badly of them. Think – there is a millstone – in your sizes too.
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Walking_Home:
We can cause “scandal” by teaching – to look down upon others - for how they “look” – the color of their skin – the clothes they wear.
Who is teaching that? Another red herring…

Apparently you have missed – how women have been referred to in threads like this. “Dressing like prostitutes” – “looking like sluts” – made out to be some type of “evil” “causing men to lust” — and let us not forget – “filth”. Everyone of these negative connotations – “teach”.
 
I was wondering, why do a lot of men/young men get sucked into watching porn and hooked???
For me it was becasue my Parents never instructed me about sexuality-and they weren’t practicing catholics…
If it wasn’t appealing it wouldn’t be looked at, simply.
 
Who’s blaming? The sins are separate.

It seems that you think there is absolutely no such thing as immodest dress. Is that right?
The bolded part is what needs to be answered. In all these discussions on modesty, I can see that people might argue what is or isn’t modest attire. However, what at least some see, tp argue is that there is no such thing as modest attire- that how we dress has no effect whatsoever on anyone around us. If that were true, than Popes, Saints, and Doctors of the Church, have been totally and completely wrong from the 1st century to the 20th.

Pax Christi
 

Apparently you have missed – how women have been referred to in threads like this. “Dressing like prostitutes” – “looking like sluts” – made out to be some type of “evil” “causing men to lust” — and let us not forget – “filth”. Everyone of these negative connotations – “teach”.
It would greatly help the discussion if you would cite the posts you’re referring to.

Not everyone who disagrees with you holds those views. By not citing the specific posts, it appears that you’re tarring all who disagree with you with that brush. It wasn’t intended that way, was it?
 
Paddy1989, I would like some clarification as well. I understand that in order for a sin to be mortal, people have to know it’s a sin and deliberately choose to sin anyway, among other things. That people can’t mortally sin unintentionally, or by accident. You have stated that often, young women who dress immodestly have no idea the sort of attention it would attract. Well, if they have no idea about this, how could they be guilty of a mortal sin?

Yet, the post you quote with apparent approval does not make this distinction. So, do you think that these women are dressing immodestly but not meaning to cause scandal, are still culpable of it? That is, are they committing Mortal Sin that needs to be confessed? The people you quote seem to think so, that people can commit “the mortal sin of scandal” and be damned, regardless of whether they intend to lead others into sin.

Hmm, this seems to be another case of past saints and “Doctors of the Church” making statements that seem to be in conflict with current Church teaching…this actually is one of my barriers to crossing the Tiber…but as that would be OT, will not comment further.
I will answer this, if you won’t mind. You are probably referring to this quote:

A mortal sin of scandal is committed by women who go about with their bosom immodestly exposed, or who expose their limbs improperly. Also by actors in immodest comedies, and still more by the persons who compose such comedies; also by painters who paint obscene pictures, and by the heads of families who keep such pictures in their houses. The father who speaks obscenely, or blasphemes the saints, in presence of his children, and the mother who brings into her house to live among her daughters young men who are in love with them, or betrothed to them, or other suspected persons, are guilty of a still more grievous sin of scandal. Some mothers say: do not suspect any evil. I answer, that it is their duty to suspect; otherwise they will have to render to God an account of all the sins which may follow.

Woe to that man by whom the scandal cometh. Listen to a horrible thing that happened in the city of Savona in the year 1560. I have read it in the chronicles of the Capuchins, and it is also related by Father Ardia. There was a woman who, even after marriage, did not cease giving scandal. This woman one day fell into a fit, and while she was in a state of unconsciousness, she saw the Lord condemning her to eternal fire. When she recovered the use of her senses, she did nothing but cry out, “Alas! I am damned, I am damned!” A confessor came to comfort her, but she answered, “What have I to do with confession? I am damned.” Then her daughter approached the bed, in order to encourage her, but she cried out: “Ah, accursed child! on your account, too, I am damned: for through you I have given scandal to others.” After these words the devils, in presence of all who were in the apartment, raised her up to the ceiling, and then dashed her so violently against the floor that she instantly expired.’

St. Alphonsus Maria de Liguori, Doctor of the Church

I think St. Alphonsus is talking about people who received Church instruction and are fully aware how does the Church regard the sins they are committing, yet they choose to flaunt the teachings and disobey the instructions received from the Church.

Also, people who fall short of the requirements of purity and chastity (including through immodest dress) established by God and the Catholic Church, without actually intending to sin or to cause scandal, are still guilty of a sin that needs to be confessed, however their culpability is reduced due to their ignorance. These people are still objectively harming themselves and others through their immodesty and/or other sins against purity/chastity, but they are causing harm through ignorance rather than conscious malice.

Let’s compare the above to someone who feeds an infant a lethal dose of sleeping pills. If the one who poisoned this infant to death was his/her 4-year old sibling, the child’s culpability is reduced to minimal or non-existent due to ignorance. However, if it was a parent who knew fully well that the amount of drug (barbiturate, whatever) was going to kill the child, the person’s level of culpability may amount as high as to first degree murder. The objective damage is the same, whether caused by a 4-year old or by a fully aware parent - an infant was poisoned to death. But the level of culpability is not the same.

Returning to someone who dresses immodestly, the objective damage is the same - harming the immodest person’s own dignity, and presenting a temptation/stumbling block to others (tempting others to dress in a similarly immodest fashion; tempting others to feel envious; tempting others to sins of lust). However, even though the objective damage is the same, the level of culpability of the immodest person varies according to how well he/she is aware of Church teaching, of the harm caused to others, and according to how deliberately is he/she harming others and disobeying the authority of the Church. A similar case could be made about people who engage in premarital sex (fornication), masturbation, pornography, artificial birth control, etc. They are objectively harming themselves and others through their sins, but their level of culpability depends on how well they are aware of the teachings of our Church, and of the damage being caused to others and to themselves.
 
Paddy1989, I would like some clarification as well. I understand that in order for a sin to be mortal, people have to know it’s a sin and deliberately choose to sin anyway, among other things. That people can’t mortally sin unintentionally, or by accident. You have stated that often, young women who dress immodestly have no idea the sort of attention it would attract. Well, if they have no idea about this, how could they be guilty of a mortal sin?

Yet, the post you quote with apparent approval does not make this distinction. So, do you think that these women are dressing immodestly but not meaning to cause scandal, are still culpable of it? That is, are they committing Mortal Sin that needs to be confessed? The people you quote seem to think so, that people can commit “the mortal sin of scandal” and be damned, regardless of whether they intend to lead others into sin.

Hmm, this seems to be another case of past saints and “Doctors of the Church” making statements that seem to be in conflict with current Church teaching…this actually is one of my barriers to crossing the Tiber…but as that would be OT, will not comment further.
Well i never used to believe year’s ago that premarital sex was a mortal sin or many other basic’s of church teaching, does that mean i wouldn’t be guilty of those sin’s if i had of practiced it then? Therefore do i think it is sinful if they dressed immodestly even if they didn’t know, yes however it may not be as grave as consciously separating yourself from God. How separate though must one be from God to not know that such basic’s are sinful, i mean i used to look at women in revealing clothing the same as secular society does, at one time they would of been what i most desired and wanted like most men therefore because i didn’t know such a thing was wrong and my heart filled with lust is it therefore not a sin? Ignorance does not excuse or prevent something being sinful

We must understand the why behind sin’s. It is not just a sin as it another rule for Catholic’s. The effect’s of these behavior’s are what make it so sinful, how men treat, behave and see women, how women see men and themselves and behave etc It distort’s our dignity, value and merely animalizes us, the secularist’s ironically use the animal excuse to justify such behavior like one friend i know, then in other subject’s such as on social justice they invoke some sort of higher morality that is based upon the objective FACT that all human being’s are of equal value and dignity. This is what you call the society based on the EGO (Me me me society)
 

Have you ever thought of how this applies to you – L piperatus – Paddy1989 etc. Think about it – people who wouldn’t go around paying attention to what others wear --like in church and/or thinking badly others–read what you – L piperatus – etc. post – and how this influences them – to turn and check out the “attire” of others – and think badly of them. Think – there is a millstone – in your sizes too.
Who goes around paying attention to what other’s wear? This thread is about pornography and how it and impurity has become so normalized, we are talking about how this is normalized in our everyday live’s by fashion’s that are designed to sexualize women. This create’s a new mentality among men and women, one which is heavily indulged in casual sex and lust at will, this in and of itself has caused many societies to accept the like’s of porn and even prostitution as being normal. You however seem to defend those fashion’s and accuse people who attack it as being self-righteous, i do not understand why any Catholic women here are defending that which does more harm to them than men
 
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Walking_Home:
Apparently you have missed – how women have been referred to in threads like this. “Dressing like prostitutes” – “looking like sluts” – made out to be some type of “evil” “causing men to lust” — and let us not forget – “filth”. Everyone of these negative connotations – “teach”.
It would greatly help the discussion if you would cite the posts you’re referring to.

Not everyone who disagrees with you holds those views. By not citing the specific posts, it appears that you’re tarring all who disagree with you with that brush. It wasn’t intended that way, was it?

Lets take this thread:
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ChiRho:
you might not tell someone who dresses like a tramp that they dress like a tramp,…
L piperatus:
I can cope with it easier when I see such things in the secular world. But to see it in God’s House, to see this filth invading our very churches, that deeply disturbs me.
Another thread:
L piperatus:
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Debora123:
I have never seen any man or woman dressed like a prostitute at Church.

(I don’t use the word “hooker” because I think it is degrading and inappropriate for a Christian site.)
Good for you. I see them all the time, inside the church. It makes me sick to my stomach.
And Yes-- it does happen often – as Lost Wanderer – attest to below. Statements like “looking like a hooker”-- “prostitute”-- “slut” – etc. have been made. There are many, many more instances – but some threads have ended up deleted.
Lost Wanderer:
It is also shallow to judge a woman because they think they “look like a hooker” but you’d be surprised how I’ve seen a lot of posters here say that about girls dressed in “immodest” clothing.
 

And Yes-- it does happen often – as Lost Wanderer – attest to below. Statements like “looking like a hooker”-- “prostitute”-- “slut” – etc. have been made. There are many, many more instances – but some threads have ended up deleted.
OK, fair enough–thanks for showing those. I agree with you completely–the name-calling and disparaging views of women, regardless of dress, are unequivocally un-Christian and have no place in a serious discussion.

I’m trying to better understand your views, though. Earlier, I thought the discussion boiled down to different ideas on the definition of “immodesty”. I find it easy to “agree to disagree” on this point–seems to me that some subjectivity and changes over time are inevitable.

But some posts make it appear that you might think that there really is no such thing as “immodest” dress. Is that true? And if so, why do you feel that way?
 
OK, fair enough–thanks for showing those. I agree with you completely–the name-calling and disparaging views of women, regardless of dress, are unequivocally un-Christian and have no place in a serious discussion.

I’m trying to better understand your views, though. Earlier, I thought the discussion boiled down to different ideas on the definition of “immodesty”. I find it easy to “agree to disagree” on this point–seems to me that some subjectivity and changes over time are inevitable.

But some posts make it appear that you might think that there really is no such thing as “immodest” dress. ** Is that true?** And if so, why do you feel that way?

No – for ex. wearing something so short – that the behind hangs out.
 
Thanks, WH–maybe we’re not so far apart on this, if we agree there is a limit. Might not agree on exactly what the limit is, but that’s understandable, and not something I’m interested in debating.

May God bless you and yours.
 
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