Sins Regarding Improper Speech? Scruples?

[classica87]

I was examining my conscience and I remembered a conversation I had with a friend. I said something like, “Well, technically that could be suggestive.” I do not remember the whole conversation, but those words just popped out of my mouth. I remember saying, "Oh wait, that was bad. I shouldn’t have said that,"afterward when I realized what I’d said, but we were all laughing a bit, so I feel like my apology to Jesus wasn’t very sincere.

I know it isn’t right to use suggestive words. Did I commit a mortal sin? I just feel like I did something wrong. I can’t remember very well how much consent I gave to what I said, or if I just said it very suddenly. I just feel like I have done something wrong. I feel very anxious about it and I keep thinking maybe I am making excuses for myself. Should I refrain from taking Communion at Mass? I do not want to be scrupulous, but I do not want to commit sacrilege either.

Please help. I am going to First Friday liturgy and I want to be sure of what to do. Am I making a big deal out of nothing? Recently I have begun to feel very anxious about my sins, and I worry I am confusing temptations or venial sin with mortal sin. I worry that my posting this thread is simply me making an excuse for myself to not admit to sinning. I just do not know what to do.

 

[Richard_White]

I think that you are fine. If it just slipped out, then it is definitely not a mortal sin and you can receive Communion with ease. Inly yiu can know for sure where you are at in terms of sin, but from my knowledge and what you wrote in your post, no worries. Just don’t do it again.

 

[pwlj_christ87]

god has revealed to me through prayer that I should follow the teaching of Ephesians 5…

I recommend it to you, it will help you perfect yourself and your speech…

i struggle at times too because its easy to give into worldy talk but afterwards you realize what you say is unwholesome and essentially useless chatter…

its sort like training your muscles, you have to kkeep working on your speech to make it increase in holiness and whomesomeness… and youll find that as you get better youll like yourself more and find that your words are helping others in coming to know Christ as well as looking at you as someone who knows god… its a great way to build self esteem and appreciation of self as a child of god

in scripture it says that people will look at Christians and glorify the father because they see him working for you…

its easy to give into worldy talk because of all the jokes, immorality and such in the world but its one of those things that after the words or jokes are said you can quickly reflect and realize, wow that was useless… how did that help anybody around me? did it make me look like i am simply chattering … it is better to be silent and a woman or man of lttle words in holiness than for someone to talk and talk chatterly …but you are not a bad person , you just like me and everyone else need to increase in god!!

as far as scruples youll have to talk to your priest and director/ but the catholic church encourages every form of sin in confession and i love to say these as well!

god bless

 

[Nils]

Did you give this sin full consent? Did you even have time to reflect before you did this? Maybe the sin feels worse because you are also embarrassed and feel like you hurt your image of your self as a holy person?

You are probably taking your self too seriously. Get up, make an act of contrition and mention it in your next Confession.

Good luck!

 

[classica87]

Thank you all for your helpful replies. I just do not remember how much consent I gave, but I do remember right afterward I realized what I had said. I do not know if I should take Communion Sunday. I will not be able to go to Confession this weekend. I wish I knew if I gave full consent or not. I remember it was something stupid and I said it quickly, but I can’t remember if I thought about it or not.

 

[Nils]

Did you think “this is a mortal sin but I will do it anyway”?

I cannot read your soul, but I just want to remind you that we are not Jansenists.

Today is Sunday. If you still feel like you are not sure, go and ask the Priest for a quick Confession before Mass. If he is stressed, tell him that there is only one sin that will take you 30 seconds (and you confess the rest some other time).

I am similar to you when it comes to these things: “what did I really say and do?”, “What was my inner dispositions like?”, "Should I go to Communion?"etc. In the end I know that this is mostly about me, the fact that I am looking too much at my own feet and too little at Jesus.

Today I will go to Communion, asking for the faith of the Bleeding Woman. Jesus is so beautiful!

 

[classica87]

I went to Communion and received Jesus today; I knew logically that if I was not sure I had sinned, then it could not be mortal. I just decided to listen to what my RCIA teacher and my priest had told me, since they understand this better. I will just tell Father in Confession, and if I did something wrong he will help me understand so I do not do it again.