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The day before Christmas eve, my guy friend and I decided to go to a comedy show and his older cousin came along because we went once with him and he lives in the area. This time, I said that I would bring my girl friend. My guy friend admitted to me his cousin had a DUI, because I figured it out once he said he couldn’t drive and his license is suspended. He said he also used to do drugs, but now he actually is really healthy and is a vegan. His cousin is also older and kind of desperate to find a girl. When I mentioned that I was bringing my girl friend he took it as he was going to try dating her (he didn’t even meet her yet), and I said that it’s not a date, and he said that it’s a double date. My girl friend also wants a boyfriend really bad, but she’s a lot younger than him (she’s 24 and he is 38!)… I told him that she doesn’t like guys that much older (she had told me that before). But, I guess he didn’t care. We go to the comedy show, and it was noticeable that he liked her and she liked him. He didn’t ask for her phone number, but I made plans with everyone to go out again. We did, and his cousin helped him ask for her # , so he did. But, he never told her his age or about his DUI, or drugs yet. And, I did not want to say anything because I felt like that’s not my place.
My girl friend and I hung out yesterday evening, and she said she had a date with him on Saturday… and that me and my friend could show up also. We started talking, and I said “do you know how old he is”? and she said, “no, how old is he”? I told her 38. And she was shocked. She said she thought early 30s. (in my opinion, I think she needed to ask him because when we hung out my guy friend said he was “25” and he said it not very serious, and I said “he’s not 25” but i did not say his real age). Well, she didn’t like that he was so much older, mainly because her mom and dad would not like that. Than, she said something about his license being suspended, and i said “he told you about his DUI?” And, she said no but that she kind of figured it out. I remember when my guy friend first told me about the DUI, he said he had more than 1 but i was not positive, so I was telling her that there is no way he is getting his license back that soon and that i will find out if she wants. I told her that my friend told me he used to do drugs also. He told her that he was getting his license back this year (which is a lie). She was not liking this, but I guess she wanted to know if he had more than 1 DUI. Because, than she would not talk to him at all.
My guy friend called me while we were just about to leave. So, I called him once I got home. He had me on 3 way with his cousin, discussing where we would hang out on Saturday night. When his cousin was not on the phone with us anymore, I asked my friend about his license trying to see if he was going to mention his 3 DUI’s, because I had remembered he told me something to that extent before. Well, he did… he said he had 3 DUI’s , but that was 3 or 5 years ago (which to me, is not that long ago). I told my guy friend that I don’t think my friend likes that. And, he kind of got upset with me that I told her his age and his DUI. I didn’t even tell him that I told her about the drugs because than I know he’d get really mad. But, I honestly didn’t think I was doing anything wrong, because him or his cousin never told not to say anything to her. I told him that, and I said if you don’t want me to say anything than just tell me that. And he told me not to say anything more. I said OK. She ends up calling me, and we start talking and I tell her that I don’t want to say anything else or get involved (she got a feeling that I said that because I found out something bad). So, she says “tell me”. And, I tell her that I don’t want to say anything. Than she tries tricking me and says "i want to ask you a question, and you can say either “yes”, “no” or “i dont want to say” … so she says was it more than a DUI that he had? I asked, “what do you mean by more than DUI?” She said like more than 1 DUI? Of course, I said “i dont want to say” and she took it was a “yes” because she said she can tell from the tone of my voice. Now, I feel TERRIBLE and that I let out more information that I should have. She told me that she told her parents everything, and she’s telling me that we shouldn’t hang out with them, but that’s not her decison to make for me. I wish I never said anything from the beginning, and she was acting like I should be telling her because we are girl friends. This girl is veryyy shy and insecure (in my opinion), and so she doesn’t want to ask him questions but instead has me going and finding out, which I just realized now. It’s not fair for me, and now I feel like I did something wrong. And, also if I hang out with my guy friend and his cousin she probably will think I am not being a good friend to her. Any advice???
My girl friend and I hung out yesterday evening, and she said she had a date with him on Saturday… and that me and my friend could show up also. We started talking, and I said “do you know how old he is”? and she said, “no, how old is he”? I told her 38. And she was shocked. She said she thought early 30s. (in my opinion, I think she needed to ask him because when we hung out my guy friend said he was “25” and he said it not very serious, and I said “he’s not 25” but i did not say his real age). Well, she didn’t like that he was so much older, mainly because her mom and dad would not like that. Than, she said something about his license being suspended, and i said “he told you about his DUI?” And, she said no but that she kind of figured it out. I remember when my guy friend first told me about the DUI, he said he had more than 1 but i was not positive, so I was telling her that there is no way he is getting his license back that soon and that i will find out if she wants. I told her that my friend told me he used to do drugs also. He told her that he was getting his license back this year (which is a lie). She was not liking this, but I guess she wanted to know if he had more than 1 DUI. Because, than she would not talk to him at all.
My guy friend called me while we were just about to leave. So, I called him once I got home. He had me on 3 way with his cousin, discussing where we would hang out on Saturday night. When his cousin was not on the phone with us anymore, I asked my friend about his license trying to see if he was going to mention his 3 DUI’s, because I had remembered he told me something to that extent before. Well, he did… he said he had 3 DUI’s , but that was 3 or 5 years ago (which to me, is not that long ago). I told my guy friend that I don’t think my friend likes that. And, he kind of got upset with me that I told her his age and his DUI. I didn’t even tell him that I told her about the drugs because than I know he’d get really mad. But, I honestly didn’t think I was doing anything wrong, because him or his cousin never told not to say anything to her. I told him that, and I said if you don’t want me to say anything than just tell me that. And he told me not to say anything more. I said OK. She ends up calling me, and we start talking and I tell her that I don’t want to say anything else or get involved (she got a feeling that I said that because I found out something bad). So, she says “tell me”. And, I tell her that I don’t want to say anything. Than she tries tricking me and says "i want to ask you a question, and you can say either “yes”, “no” or “i dont want to say” … so she says was it more than a DUI that he had? I asked, “what do you mean by more than DUI?” She said like more than 1 DUI? Of course, I said “i dont want to say” and she took it was a “yes” because she said she can tell from the tone of my voice. Now, I feel TERRIBLE and that I let out more information that I should have. She told me that she told her parents everything, and she’s telling me that we shouldn’t hang out with them, but that’s not her decison to make for me. I wish I never said anything from the beginning, and she was acting like I should be telling her because we are girl friends. This girl is veryyy shy and insecure (in my opinion), and so she doesn’t want to ask him questions but instead has me going and finding out, which I just realized now. It’s not fair for me, and now I feel like I did something wrong. And, also if I hang out with my guy friend and his cousin she probably will think I am not being a good friend to her. Any advice???
