Skincare for a pre teen

[pensmama87]

I think I can tell you why . I make soap and work with a lot of oils. Certain solid oils or butters will have a grainy texture if they melt and harden without being tempered. Coconut oil has a melting point of 76 degrees, and that causes it to melt and harden over and over depending on the climate in your house. It doesn’t affect the overall quality, it’s more of an aesthetic thing. The good thing is, it melts right into your skin and doesn’t feel that way after a couple of seconds. It’s nowhere near being an exfoliant or harsh on the skin because of that. But it does have antifungal and antibacterial properties, making it a good choice for most people. I promise I’m not a rep for the coconut oil council lol. Just know a lot about oils.

That makes sense, especially considering the time of year and not using AC.

Still, though, i’ll stick with olive oil around the eyes.

 

[EasterJoy]

There is nothing better or more effective than drinking lots of water on a daily basis. Just remind your sister to drink more water as often as you can remember. And then, when she actually is drinking a lot of water, be sure to say, “You’re still not drinking enough water.” Because it’s true. It sounds easy to do, but it’s not. We slack off. Honestly: there is nothing more miraculous for the skin than huge daily amounts of water. It’s impossible to stress that enough.

Yes, but be careful: it is not true that it is impossible to drink too much water. Over-hydration is most common during an endurance sport, because the excessive sweating already lowers the person’s electrolytes and greatly increases thirst, or when there are other specific risk factors, but people should not be lead to believe that they always ought to drink as much water as possible. If a normal person’s urine is light-colored and not at all cloudy, they are usually getting enough fluids. If their urine is nearly colorless, that might be getting into too much and could have bad health effects.

If one has sweat a lot and feels extremely thirsty, drinks with some electrolytes are probably better than plain water. It is best to consult with your doctor about this before getting into long-distance running or sports played in extreme heat. (The doctor’s advice is important, because over-hydration and extreme dehydration can have similar symptoms.)

 

[EasterJoy]

So funny, because I heard the opposite advice that we should really just listen to our bodies and drink when we are thirsty. That God created our bodies perfectly and our bodies send us signals when we need water, this is part of His Divine design. The advice I heard was from more than one source, and pointed at the trend in recent years to drink tons of water,(some even when we were not thirsty), actually did nothing but cause our kidneys to work overtime when they didn’t need to.

I am not saying you are wrong, it is a blessing that you have reaped many benefits from drinking water! Just very interesting that there are so many different opinions out there on something so simple. God bless your day.

Modern life can sometimes get in the way of the body’s signals. I was dehydrated for many years and didn’t realize it. Oddly enough, what I found when I started getting enough water wasn’t that I felt thirsty less often, but that I felt hungry less often. Others find that they do not feel tired as quickly or as often when they stay properly hydrated. Obviously, it can take a little training to learn to listen to one’s body! You are right, however, that the equation is (yet again) not a simple “more is better” matter.

 

[Lea101]

I don’t do much either. I’m 18 and I mainly just use water and a washcloth every now and then and perhaps a few different cleanser/moisturisers from time to time, depending upon how my skin is doing. I have also read about how honey and things like that can be good for your skin- I have never done it long enough to say if it works 100% of the time or not though.

I personally think that the best approach is to be as simple as possible with your skin as you don’t want to be putting lots of chemicals on your skin or making it dry.
It’s also cheaper this way.
Of course, though, everyone’s skin is different.

My skincare isn’t so simple. I use micellar water to remove makeup, then a cleanser or a scrub, and then sometimes I use this mild chemical exfoliant toner (if I have a bad breakout), and then 2 drops of rosehip oil all over my face. A clay mask once or twice a week if my skin looks gross

But i have friends that use way more products. Anyone heard of the Koreans’ skincare? They use a million products and their skin is perfect They believe in spending a lot of time on skincare (if you can spend 15 minutes putting on your makeup, you can spend 15 minutes taking it off and treating your skin) of course it seems so expensive to do that, but I’m always envious of their glowing skin.

Sunscreen however, is very important IMO. But I can’t get her to put it on. She has dark skin so she thinks she doesn’t need it (wrong!) and I’m afraid to be THAT person that forces her to worry about her weight/skin/etc. As of now she is just using my cleanser. Although I’m not sure whether it is enough?

 

[pensmama87]

If she’s a preteen, I would not push her at all to worry about her looks.

 

[misspriss]

Modern life can sometimes get in the way of the body’s signals. I was dehydrated for many years and didn’t realize it. Oddly enough, what I found when I started getting enough water wasn’t that I felt thirsty less often, but that I felt hungry less often. Others find that they do not feel tired as quickly or as often when they stay properly hydrated. Obviously, it can take a little training to learn to listen to one’s body! You are right, however, that the equation is (yet again) not a simple “more is better” matter.

I have heard that sometimes when you feel you are hungry, you are actually thirsty. We sometimes mix up the signals. I drink a ton of water, not “just to be drinking” but because I drink it when I’m thirsty. I’m breastfeeding two kids though, so I probably need it!

 

[Lea101]

If she’s a preteen, I would not push her at all to worry about her looks.

Yes we shouldn’t push anyone at all when it comes to looks in my opinion. It’s just that her hygiene sucks She doesn’t see the point in taking a shower if she is not going somewhere, have to remind her to wash her hair etc. Skincare is a pain in the butt

 

[EasterJoy]

Yes we shouldn’t push anyone at all when it comes to looks in my opinion. It’s just that her hygiene sucks She doesn’t see the point in taking a shower if she is not going somewhere, have to remind her to wash her hair etc. Skincare is a pain in the butt

In that case and if she doesn’t get more than an occasional pimple, do not try to remake her from the ground up. Work with what she offers, or later you will find your (name removed by moderator)ut is not accepted at all and perhaps even pointedly ignored just to show you who is her own woman.

I’d mostly emphasize that she not use harsh body soaps–like Irish Spring, that kind of thing–on her face. Other than that, if she can’t be convinced to take a shower, encourage her to wash her hands very well and then wash her face with water, at the very least. It is refreshing, and many people find their pores are self-cleansing if the dirt doesn’t build up on the surface. Sunscreen, besides helping to prevent skin cancer and premature aging, also helps to prevent freckles, odd spots, and uneven color from developing.

If you can only convince her to do one thing, convince her to use sunscreen when her sun exposure is going to be more than a few instances of building-to-car and then later gently flush off the dirt that will have been attracted to the sunscreen over the course of the day.

If she starts getting pimples, excessive redness, and the like but nothing that warrants a dermatologist, the suggestions here are a place to start. Go with the least expensive and least tedious first, as those will suit her beauty-routine temperament.

Speaking of, a place you might want to look for ideas for her is Real Simple magazine. Libraries carry it, and it gives advice for people who want the best of the least-complicated solutions to life’s choices.

 

[Catholic4ever98]

My skincare isn’t so simple. I use micellar water to remove makeup, then a cleanser or a scrub, and then sometimes I use this mild chemical exfoliant toner (if I have a bad breakout), and then 2 drops of rosehip oil all over my face. A clay mask once or twice a week if my skin looks gross

But i have friends that use way more products. Anyone heard of the Koreans’ skincare? They use a million products and their skin is perfect They believe in spending a lot of time on skincare (if you can spend 15 minutes putting on your makeup, you can spend 15 minutes taking it off and treating your skin) of course it seems so expensive to do that, but I’m always envious of their glowing skin.

Sunscreen however, is very important IMO. But I can’t get her to put it on. She has dark skin so she thinks she doesn’t need it (wrong!) and I’m afraid to be THAT person that forces her to worry about her weight/skin/etc. As of now she is just using my cleanser. Although I’m not sure whether it is enough?

Hi,
As I said before, everyone’s skin is different- skin care really varies on a lot of different factors, like weather for instance.
One thing I never did mention, though, is that I do not wear make-up so I guess I don’t really have to deal with making sure I take it off and things like that.
I do agree, though, that sunscreen is important when going out into the sun for long periods of a time in the middle of the day, especially in the summer. Sunburns, as well as just damaging your skin in general, are no fun.

 

[Mary_Gail_36]

When I was a preteen I had pretty oily skin, and some break outs on my forehead.

I used a gentle cleanser to wash my face. I used to use the “Neutrogena” bar. Sometimes I would add a little bit of sugar to the suds for a gentle facial scrub.

 

[His_helpmeet]

1. She shouldn’t wash her face more than twice a day - and NO harsh cleansers. This will just make her skin produce more oil.
2. I second the idea of non-comedogenic (won’t clog pores) makeup if she wears any. Make sure she knows to take it off every night before she goes to bed.

I have polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) which means that I’m more prone to acne (even now, in my 30s!) because of high testosterone levels. Personally, I’ve found that cutting dairy products out of my diet has been helpful. Many women with PCOS find that dairy has inflammatory effects that cause harm to their skin. She might find it helpful even if she does not have PCOS. (It is still very important that she get enough calcium, especially because the body only builds fresh calcium matrix until the mid-20s. She might try almond milk instead. One glass has 30% of your daily calcium requirement. I recommend unsweetened vanilla flavoured.)

 

[Lea101]

1. She shouldn’t wash her face more than twice a day - and NO harsh cleansers. This will just make her skin produce more oil.
2. I second the idea of non-comedogenic (won’t clog pores) makeup if she wears any. Make sure she knows to take it off every night before she goes to bed.

I have polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) which means that I’m more prone to acne (even now, in my 30s!) because of high testosterone levels. Personally, I’ve found that cutting dairy products out of my diet has been helpful. Many women with PCOS find that dairy has inflammatory effects that cause harm to their skin. She might find it helpful even if she does not have PCOS. (It is still very important that she get enough calcium, especially because the body only builds fresh calcium matrix until the mid-20s. She might try almond milk instead. One glass has 30% of your daily calcium requirement. I recommend unsweetened vanilla flavoured.)

Do you think moisturizers are necessary? (I remember using a light one when I was 13 but I have no idea whether they helped or not)

I personally don’t think I should encourage her to cut her dairy/etc intake unless it’s a threat (I had restrictive eating problems and I’m afraid that she might develop those habits too if she is encouraged not to eat certain foods or something!)

 

[EasterJoy]

Do you think moisturizers are necessary? (I remember using a light one when I was 13 but I have no idea whether they helped or not)

I personally don’t think I should encourage her to cut her dairy/etc intake unless it’s a threat (I had restrictive eating problems and I’m afraid that she might develop those habits too if she is encouraged not to eat certain foods or something!)

As her older sister, you would do well to keep advice to a minimum and listening and respect for her right to make her own decisions to a maximum. It will be to her advantage if a little alarm goes off in her head when you make an uncharacteristically forceful case, tipping her off that the matter truly is of great importance because you are usually so loathe to butt in on anything that is her decision to make, even when you have a strong opinion on the subject.

 

[Lea101]

As her older sister, you would do well to keep advice to a minimum and listening and respect for her right to make her own decisions to a maximum. It will be to her advantage if a little alarm goes off in her head when you make an uncharacteristically forceful case, tipping her off that the matter truly is of great importance because you are usually so loathe to butt in on anything that is her decision to make, even when you have a strong opinion on the subject.

I currently let her use any of my products as long as she doesn’t waste them but she doesn’t want to
Honestly, I don’t care if she has pimples, we all get them, but she is at the age where she is interested in makeup. I’m thinking of telling her that I’ll talk to my dad and see whether she can play with some (she’s 11, so obviously just powder or lip gloss) as long as she is hygienic? I mean it’s just a bad idea to let someone play with makeup if she can’t even wash her face properly. Is that a good idea?

 

[lifeandhope]

I struggled with cystic acne from my teens until about nine months ago; I’m now 40 (!!still can’t get used to that number!!). I have a cancer disease and a lot of health problems and nine months ago I was not healing well from a head surgery. I was given a massive dose of steroids for five days and while the recovery finally progressed, the treatment caused dozens of new tumors on my head (these are lipomas; I also have tumors in the brain). The tumors came with severe dandruff and I lost my hair, which is down to my waist, in fistfuls. In my attempts to treat this excruciating problem, I discovered a skincare and scalp/hair regimen that has completely cleared my complexion. The tumors will need surgical removal but in trying dozens upon dozens of products I have found a few to be highly effective.

Shea Moisture African Black Soap: I use the entire line but the items I use daily are the bar soap, toner, and Problem Skin Moisturizer. Best thing is that this is a very affordable brand and I’ve found various products at Target, Walgreens, and Ulta. I have also ordered these products online.

I drink a crazy amount of ice water. I discovered that I can buy Sonic ice by the bag for two dollars; their ice is pellet size and very soft for chewing. I love to chew ice but was always concerned about damaging my teeth. I go through about three bags a week and eat/drink H2O constantly. I’m feeling better and my skin is clearer than ever.

Bragg (or any brand if Bragg is unavailable) Apple Cider Vinegar. This is a wonder drug I never knew existed! It is excellent for balancing the pH on the scalp, clarifying hair, and works beautifully as a facial toner, especially if you add in some Witch Hazel and a drop or two of Tea Tree Oil.

Tea Tree Oil 100%: this is very potent and very effective. Add it to anything: shampoo, conditioner, facial lotion. Start drop by drop; you can also put some on your face (diluted) and if it begins to burn, rinse with cool water. So invigorating!

I hope this, or anything you can discover, helps you and your sister. Everything I listed is inexpensive, which is an awesome bonus. Everyone has different skin and must tailor skincare according to her needs, problems, sensitivities, and allergies if applicable. Keep trying things–you’ll both find something that works. I wish you both good luck and send many blessings your way. I love that you’re trying to help your sister. She’s blessed to have you.

 

[lifeandhope]

I currently let her use any of my products as long as she doesn’t waste them but she doesn’t want to
Honestly, I don’t care if she has pimples, we all get them, but she is at the age where she is interested in makeup. I’m thinking of telling her that I’ll talk to my dad and see whether she can play with some (she’s 11, so obviously just powder or lip gloss) as long as she is hygienic? I mean it’s just a bad idea to let someone play with makeup if she can’t even wash her face properly. Is that a good idea?

Just don’t share mascara as bacteria can be passed and possibly cause infection. My daughters are nine and twelve and the younger one plays with makeup here and there and my oldest is more and more into skincare and makeup. I don’t restrict her and she takes care of her products and earns allowance for higher end products. She is great about remaining true to her youth: a little foundation and concealer as needed to tone down breakouts, sometimes a light colored eye shadow, neutral lipstick or balm, and a bit of mascara on her mile long lashes. Her application is subtle and she looks fresh faced and young. No one ever taught me how to do my makeup and I learned by trial and quite a few errors, so I’ve always shown my girls proper care and application of makeup when they showed interest. My youngest went through a Taylor Swift red lipstick phase but thankfully that has passed; I wasn’t too keen on bright red and certainly didn’t let her wear it in public! Around the house, fine, and by not forbidding or battling the issue, the phase dissipated.

 

[mommy_k]

I currently let her use any of my products as long as she doesn’t waste them but she doesn’t want to
Honestly, I don’t care if she has pimples, we all get them, but she is at the age where she is interested in makeup. I’m thinking of telling her that I’ll talk to my dad and see whether she can play with some (she’s 11, so obviously just powder or lip gloss) as long as she is hygienic? I mean it’s just a bad idea to let someone play with makeup if she can’t even wash her face properly. Is that a good idea?/QUOTE

11 is too young to wear any makeup, especially powder that will clog her pores. I would think a flavored lip balm is the limit.

For skincare routine, it depends on their skin and also their commitment level for skincare.

Gentle and simple is best, but she can add a steam facial treatment and mask if she likes to play around with this.

I love to spend time with skincare and makeup, but it was a gradual process. It really bothers me to see very young girls with makeup.

 

[Lea101]

11 is too young to wear any makeup, especially powder that will clog her pores. I would think a flavored lip balm is the limit.

For skincare routine, it depends on their skin and also their commitment level for skincare.

Gentle and simple is best, but she can add a steam facial treatment and mask if she likes to play around with this.

I love to spend time with skincare and makeup, but it was a gradual process. It really bothers me to see very young girls with makeup.

I don’t mean to wear it in public, but play around in the house.

My mom had the same opinion as you, but it only made me play with her bobbi brown makeup even more

she’s more into foundation and tinted moisturizers and blush because she sees me wearing it (hell no!) but powder for oil control seems the safest IMO.

She does enjoy masks, it’s our “bonding activity” (yay)

Just curious, how old do you think girls should wear makeup? I was 13 when I secretly wore makeup to school (a catholic girls school too :doh2: )

 

[Lea101]

Just don’t share mascara as bacteria can be passed and possibly cause infection. My daughters are nine and twelve and the younger one plays with makeup here and there and my oldest is more and more into skincare and makeup. I don’t restrict her and she takes care of her products and earns allowance for higher end products. She is great about remaining true to her youth: a little foundation and concealer as needed to tone down breakouts, sometimes a light colored eye shadow, neutral lipstick or balm, and a bit of mascara on her mile long lashes. Her application is subtle and she looks fresh faced and young. No one ever taught me how to do my makeup and I learned by trial and quite a few errors, so I’ve always shown my girls proper care and application of makeup when they showed interest. My youngest went through a Taylor Swift red lipstick phase but thankfully that has passed; I wasn’t too keen on bright red and certainly didn’t let her wear it in public! Around the house, fine, and by not forbidding or battling the issue, the phase dissipated.

When I first wore makeup, I remember using a bb cream that was way too light for me (I have tan to deep skin, so imagine me wearing a bb cream that is made for white people) Your girls are lucky to have you!!

I love Taylor’s red lips (if anyone is curious, it’s Dragon Girl by NARS, and yes, I searched it up) but I think it’s too bold for me as well

 

[mommy_k]

I don’t mean to wear it in public, but play around in the house.

My mom had the same opinion as you, but it only made me play with her bobbi brown makeup even more

she’s more into foundation and tinted moisturizers and blush because she sees me wearing it (hell no!) but powder for oil control seems the safest IMO.

She does enjoy masks, it’s our “bonding activity” (yay)

Just curious, how old do you think girls should wear makeup? I was 13 when I secretly wore makeup to school (a catholic girls school too :doh2: )

It depends… I am a girly girl even now.
And i have daughters too.There are other lessons in body maintenance and hygiene and lessons of the dignity that comes of being a girl should come before makeup.

These things are natural progression. Lessons in how to shave legs and taking dd’s for eyebrow shaping( maybe in 7th grade,)deodorant, and things like this come first. How never to color hair except for lemon juice, and when they are older salon color only–less is is more.11 is just a child, and should continue to have the freedom to be one. I was at the pool the other day and an young girl would not swim because her mascara would run, how sad is that! She was about 12.It is freakish to me to see young girls with makeup as it reminds me of the show toddlers in tiaras. No class whatsoever imho.