Small hurts form the past

[Greenfields]

With smallish things that were said or done in the past that may still affect your life
is it healthier to talk to that sibling,parent,friend quietly about it and work through it or just to let it go without doing that?
Just wondering

 

[oldgraymare2]

I’m the kind of person that likes peace between others, and who likes to be in peaceful relationships too, whenever possible.

So, I’m the kind of person who will try and reach out to someone else, if a relationship hasn’t been working out.

However, I think that it might depend on the other person too, as to whether or not they might be receptive to working on the relationship.

I have reached out to others, only to find that they weren’t interested in reciprocating, so I think if you do try and reach out, you would have to be ready for that possibility, especially if they haven’t been in touch with you in some time.

God bless you!

 

[Mollymultiple160]

What seems “smallish” to one person may be incredibly upsetting to another. Ask forgiveness for what you know you should and let it be, is what I think. Things build up over time and can create distance and resentment if left unchecked.

 

[TheLittleLady]

Speak to your confessor, find a spiritual director or councilor, and speak to God.

When you talk to that person or even the most well meaning third party, you can sow little seeds of animosity, dislike or distrust between that third party and the person who hurt you.