Smoking Cigarettes

[cheeto1]

What would you do if someone sits next to you at Mass with body odor or bad breath? Do you not consume from the cup because they have halitosis? What about all the cold/flu, etc. germs that are on the rim of the cup that you can’t see or smell, but you know they are there?

I am making a judgement on the person’s intention. Did the peron with body odor or bad breath do that on purpose? I don’t think so. But the smoker did it on purpose because they just didn’t care about others. As far as germs go, I accept them, including aids, because it’s the very least I could do for Jesus. I know I am wrong to judge people’s intentions as not being of goodwill, but I can’t seem to help it. That’s why I don’t move if God sits a smoker down beside me at mass. He’s trying to help me deal with my wrong thinking and help me learn the right way.

We certainly can’t start condemning people to hell because of their odor.

I’ve never understood remarks like this. We don’t do any end of life decision making even for ourselves let alone others. Because
I am offended by a smoker, doesn’t mean I have the powers of God. I just means I don’t love properly as in Corinthians 13 when it says, “love does not take offense”. For that matter, I don’t seem to be following the part about love being patient and kind either. Come to think of it, I seem to be slightly snobbish and prone to anger on this too, and there is quite a large limit on my
forbearance and trust. O.k., you’ve convinced me, I’m in much worse shape than you!!!

 

[RosaryFan]

Here’s food for thought… or should I say drink? and a big one at that!

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Cardinal Ratzinger certainly enjoys his beer.

And let’s not forget that Jesus Himself drank wine. He also attended the wedding at Cana where He turned the water into “good wine” which is supposed to be served prior to everyone “drinking freely”, and then after everyone has “drunk freely” and is a little tipsy, the bad wine, presumably, so they don’t notice the difference.

 

[RosaryFan]

I am making a judgement on the person’s intention. Did the peron with body odor or bad breath do that on purpose? I don’t think so. But the smoker did it on purpose because they just didn’t care about others. As far as germs go, I accept them, including aids, because it’s the very least I could do for Jesus. I know I am wrong to judge people’s intentions as not being of goodwill, but I can’t seem to help it. That’s why I don’t move if God sits a smoker down beside me at mass. He’s trying to help me deal with my wrong thinking and help me learn the right way.

Many people have bad breath or body odor due to bad hygene habits. That, to me, is as on-purpose as lighting a cigarette.

I’ve never understood remarks like this. We don’t do any end of life decision making even for ourselves let alone others. Because
I am offended by a smoker, doesn’t mean I have the powers of God. I just means I don’t love properly as in Corinthians 13 when it says, “love does not take offense”. For that matter, I don’t seem to be following the part about love being patient and kind either. Come to think of it, I seem to be slightly snobbish and prone to anger on this too, and there is quite a large limit on my
forbearance and trust. O.k., you’ve convinced me, I’m in much worse shape than you!!!

 

[RosaryFan]

Uugghh! You just don’t know what that coat smells like, and the rest of you. The gum is just an extra scent, believe me, a non
smoker smells that smokey smell.

When people’s perfume is too strong, at least it’s for the reason that they are trying to smell good and make others happy. But
it seems like a smoker just doesn’t care about others. They don’t
even seem to care about themselves.

Being a smoker does not mean you don’t care about others and if you’re trying to get across that smoking cigarettes in moderation (i.e. social smoking) is a mortal sin, that is absolutely absurd. Do you even realize how ridiculous that sounds? Many, many, many priests smoke cigarettes, cigars, pipes. If it was a mortal sin, I don’t think they’d do it so openly. Smoking cigarettes while socializing with friends (regardless of what the person sitting next to you at Mass the next morning thinks about the odors coming from your breath, coat, hair, whatever), is certainly not a mortal sin. I’d bet my life on it. Venial, maybe. Mortal, no way.

 

[m134e5]

But the question is, just what exactly or how much is excess? What do you think?

If you have a cigarette once in awhile because you want to (not because of an addiction), it is not excessive.

It is sinful to smoke in a way that is not courteous to others (this includes smoking, then coming inside so others have to smell you).

 

[Soutane]

I think smoking should be a mortal sin. It is a disordered use of the lungs. Fr Corapi agrees.

I suppose smoking COULD be a mortal sin if one deliberately smoked to destroy oneself(suicide) but most of us started as CHILDREN(13-17 years of age)and NONE of us tried that first cigarette in order to become ADDICTED or to commit suicide.We tried it because it was cool and those of us who are older had NO idea as to the health implications.All we knew was that it MIGHT stunt ones growth.Tobacco is supposed to be more difficult to quit than HEROIN.And I’m sure we don’t perceive heroin addicts as being anything more than SLAVES who wish they never started.I have NEVER met a smoker who is glad they started smoking-All have regretted it.I quit smoking June 1,2008 after 45 years of slavery and it is THE MOST DIFFICULT THING I HAVE EVER DONE.I had tried quitting before to no avail.In addition to other measures my priest gave me the sacrament of the sick and it worked,thank God! I resent the HELL out of other people INCLUDING Father Corapi whom I love, PONTIFICATING on whether or not smoking is a mortal sin.IT IS A SICKNESS!!! AN ADDICTION!!!AND smokers do NOT give free and willing consent which is a prerequisite for a sin being mortal.They are enslaved by a SOMETIMES unbreakable addiction.I don’t think that someone who has never experienced this disease should EVEN COMMENT on its sinfulness.It is simply HOLIER THAN THOU TALKING THROUGH ONES HAT.

 

[Soutane]

The smoking ads say ‘every cigarette does you harm’. I’ve been told smoking isn’t a sin unless you are attached to it. I don’t personally know many smokers who aren’t attached to it, including myself. I don’t think God likes me smoking. A little boy came up to me after mass not so long ago and said 'did you know people who smoke don’t live as many years as people who don’t smoke?". I nearly asked him if he had just started his discipleship for God. I also looked at pics of the incorrupt saints and figured they probably didn’t smoke. When it comes to smoking I am learning towards the idea yes we are temples and it probably isn’t a very good idea to smoke at all. Smoking a few cigarettes probably isn’t an excess, but then if one weren’t attached to it, they probably wouldn’t smoke, hence for most smokers it probably is a sin, and if ever cigarette does you harm, then I’ve got my answer. I spent a lot of time trying to justify if God was ok with smoking or not, and what kept coming to me was this ‘we are temples’. I don’t know how God feels about others smoking, but I really don’t think he is too impressed I do.

The difference between you and GOD is that He is all merciful and HE understands exactly what addiction is.Instead of assigning SIN so blithely and cavalierly why instead don’t you pray for those afflicted with this CURSE,so that they may be freed instead of looking down your long,long,nose. .
And guess what,I agree with you completely! You have absolutely NO IDEA how God feels so don’t pretend to !

 

[ElizabethPH]

With food I might argue that eating too much or unhealthy food that it adds to significant weight gain and negative consequences (such as diabetes and heart disease) while not necessarily a mortal sin might be sinful, especially if one is responsible for providing for a family or others.

Smoking can be a terrible addiction which I think could lessen the moral culpability somewhat if the individual had intentions to try to quit smoking or cut back on their consumption.

With smoking I would add that exposing others to dangerous secondhand smoke could be sinful.

My husband is a smoker . He doesn’t smoke in the house or near our kids. He’s been trying to quit (at least he says) for several years now. He’s tried cold turkey, hypnosis, nicotine patches, wellbutrin and chantix with no luck so far .

Whenever he makes a quit attempt he gets very emotionally touchy. I never know how to react. If I nag about quitting I’m being pushy. If I’m optimistic and praise him for his progress I’m putting too much pressure on him and laying guilt on him for if he fails. If I say nothing I’m not appreciating his effort at cutting back, or not being supportive enough or not believing him. And invariably when he tries to quit something stressful will happen like the vacuum will break or who knows what - stressful things happen all the time but when he’s trying to quit they seem to be magnified at least to him. I try to help him but its hard and frustrating

I had a dream that if I prayed the rosary for a year with the intention of helping him quit he would be able to break his addiction. Prayer is powerful and it can’t hurt:thumbsup: I think that will be my New Years resolution.

Does anyone have any advice on quitting smoking or supporting a spouse to quit smoking?

I think being encouraging is all you can do. You might suggest the next time he tries to quit to read up on it as much as possible. Learning about triggers that makes him want to smoke, like stressful situations becoming aware that they happen and that there are things he can do in those situations instead of smoke. Learning new behaviours and new healthy habits instead of smoking. The more you learn about quitting will help him as well as help you understand why it’s so hard for him.

 

[ElizabethPH]

So unfair! A support group for family members of smokers is long overdue. Why isn’t there one?

Or even support groups for folks that are trying to quit is far and few between. You can find them on the internet; but I don’t know of any in my community, there certainly wasn’t any when I quit.

I think it is something someone can start up though if they are so inclined. Along the lines of AA.

 

[kaws]

I think being encouraging is all you can do. You might suggest the next time he tries to quit to read up on it as much as possible. Learning about triggers that makes him want to smoke, like stressful situations becoming aware that they happen and that there are things he can do in those situations instead of smoke. Learning new behaviours and new healthy habits instead of smoking. The more you learn about quitting will help him as well as help you understand why it’s so hard for him.

Thank you for your helpful advice . He says reading about the negative health effects of smoke just makes him feel guilty, which makes him feel like he needs a smoke. However he has read up some on triggers and has managed to figure out some of his triggers, like talking on the phone (or conversation in general), leaving a store, or having a drink, or any stressful situation.

He was having more success when we were both eating healthier and exercising more. He was able to get a minor endorphin rush from exercise that he said was a little like a smoking buzz. We should both get back into a healthier mode.

I know that my own experience is atypical. I socially smoked a few cigarettes in college (mostly clove or mint) but intentionally never smoked more than one or two a day because I didn’t want to get addicted . I never really developed a nicotine addiction. I had a really bad reaction to a clove cigarette and that was my sign to stop. After that point I just decided it was probably best just to give them up entirely.

Or even support groups for folks that are trying to quit is far and few between. You can find them on the internet; but I don’t know of any in my community, there certainly wasn’t any when I quit.

I think it is something someone can start up though if they are so inclined. Along the lines of AA.

I have found good internet resources on quitting and online support groups for quitting smoking. I haven’t found much out there in terms of resources for spouses or other friends and family in terms of helping someone quit.

 

[kaws]

I suppose smoking COULD be a mortal sin if one deliberately smoked to destroy oneself(suicide) but most of us started as CHILDREN(13-17 years of age)and NONE of us tried that first cigarette in order to become ADDICTED or to commit suicide.We tried it because it was cool and those of us who are older had NO idea as to the health implications.All we knew was that it MIGHT stunt ones growth.Tobacco is supposed to be more difficult to quit than HEROIN.And I’m sure we don’t perceive heroin addicts as being anything more than SLAVES who wish they never started.I have NEVER met a smoker who is glad they started smoking-All have regretted it.I quit smoking June 1,2008 after 45 years of slavery and it is THE MOST DIFFICULT THING I HAVE EVER DONE.I had tried quitting before to no avail.In addition to other measures my priest gave me the sacrament of the sick and it worked,thank God! I resent the HELL out of other people INCLUDING Father Corapi whom I love, PONTIFICATING on whether or not smoking is a mortal sin.IT IS A SICKNESS!!! AN ADDICTION!!!AND smokers do NOT give free and willing consent which is a prerequisite for a sin being mortal.They are enslaved by a SOMETIMES unbreakable addiction.I don’t think that someone who has never experienced this disease should EVEN COMMENT on its sinfulness.It is simply HOLIER THAN THOU TALKING THROUGH ONES HAT.

If I have said anything to offend you I apologize. My husband has struggled several years with trying to quit so I do understand what you are saying about addiction being a sickness and not giving free and willing consent. I don’t think that smoking for those who are chemically addicted is a mortal sin.

I know that fast food is bad for me, but I don’t think it is sinful to eat it occasionally and in moderation. If I overindulged to the point that it was having severe health consequences, then maybe it would be sinful. (and fast food is not chemically addicting like nicotine)

Is it is a sin for someone to start smoking today if they are informed of the health implications (unless as you stated it is with suicidal intent)? I don’t know. I do think it is possible (and not sinful) for some people to occasionally enjoy a cigar or cigarette without too much damage to their health, however the risk of getting addicted is pretty high.

 

[ElizabethPH]

Thank you for your helpful advice . He says reading about the negative health effects of smoke just makes him feel guilty, which makes him feel like he needs a smoke. However he has read up some on triggers and has managed to figure out some of his triggers, like talking on the phone (or conversation in general), leaving a store, or having a drink, or any stressful situation.

He was having more success when we were both eating healthier and exercising more. He was able to get a minor endorphin rush from exercise that he said was a little like a smoking buzz. We should both get back into a healthier mode.

I know that my own experience is atypical. I socially smoked a few cigarettes in college (mostly clove or mint) but intentionally never smoked more than one or two a day because I didn’t want to get addicted . I never really developed a nicotine addiction. I had a really bad reaction to a clove cigarette and that was my sign to stop. After that point I just decided it was probably best just to give them up entirely.

I have found good internet resources on quitting and online support groups for quitting smoking. I haven’t found much out there in terms of resources for spouses or other friends and family in terms of helping someone quit.

I think it’s because you really can’t help someone quit it is entirely up to them!! Like I said one can only be encouraging no matter what. Learning from a slip up; why it happened for instance IE; putting a bicycle together drove me to smoking; a fight with my wife drove me to smoking. It’s not the fight or the bike it’s what we didn’t do to NOT smoke. There’s like 101 things you can do instead of smoke. One thing I learned is that the urge passes I kept busy doing whatever till the crave eased. it’s the addiction. It plays havoc on both parties it’s not easy. But if anything I learned not to give up on quitting, keep on trying to quit eventually it WILL work!! Tell hubby it’s OK try not to to give up trying to quit. So it didn’t work this time, it doesn’t mean it can’t work at all. And when he’s ready he’ll try it again. Prayer and meditation really helped me as well. And my prayers go out to you both.

Elizabeth

 

[kaws]

I think it’s because you really can’t help someone quit it is entirely up to them!! Like I said one can only be encouraging no matter what. Learning from a slip up; why it happened for instance IE; putting a bicycle together drove me to smoking; a fight with my wife drove me to smoking. It’s not the fight or the bike it’s what we didn’t do to NOT smoke. There’s like 101 things you can do instead of smoke. One thing I learned is that the urge passes I kept busy doing whatever till the crave eased. it’s the addiction. It plays havoc on both parties it’s not easy. But if anything I learned not to give up on quitting, keep on trying to quit eventually it WILL work!! Tell hubby it’s OK try not to to give up trying to quit. So it didn’t work this time, it doesn’t mean it can’t work at all. And when he’s ready he’ll try it again. Prayer and meditation really helped me as well. And my prayers go out to you both.

Elizabeth

Thank you

 

[kaws]

Being a smoker does not mean you don’t care about others and if you’re trying to get across that smoking cigarettes in moderation (i.e. social smoking) is a mortal sin, that is absolutely absurd. Do you even realize how ridiculous that sounds? Many, many, many priests smoke cigarettes, cigars, pipes. If it was a mortal sin, I don’t think they’d do it so openly. Smoking cigarettes while socializing with friends (regardless of what the person sitting next to you at Mass the next morning thinks about the odors coming from your breath, coat, hair, whatever), is certainly not a mortal sin. I’d bet my life on it. Venial, maybe. Mortal, no way.

I know several priests that smoke, but I have never met any around here that do it openly (perhaps at the request of the bishop??). Perhaps they don’t want to be seen as encouraging children who may see them as role models to start smoking.

I found it funny that a lot of the priests at my Catholic school would sneak outside the rectory or school for a quick smoke like a teenager sneaking off for a smoke

I don’t think smoking in most cases is a mortal sin. A venial sin in many cases probably.

 

[rinnie]

Here is the thing, how many cigarettes is too much. One. Why because it hurts you lungs. Now say you are a very very nervous person and you smoke a cigarette to calm your nerves, or take a nerve pill to ruin your liver. Which is worse.

Now gossip, is it better to smoke a cigarette or talk smack on your neighbor. Well lets see, breaking a commandment or having a smoke?

Is smoking a mortal sin. Well lets see, what is a mortal sin, A mortal sin is to offend God and be aware that you are offending him. So no its not mortal. Its not gonna send you to hell, It may send you to hell or heaven sooner but not the reason for it. Unless you say I am smoking to offend God, then you may be in a little of a mess there.

Smoking is a habit, a bad one that is not easy to break. But it can be broken the bible tells us that. But did the bible say its easy Nope.

For anyone that WANTS to quit. I have the answer. IT works and I did it! Smokeless I am and have been for 20 years.

To smoke is different then to drink for SOME people. I can drink and not have one for a month year forever if I want. But when I smoked it wasn’t like that. Once I started I wanted one every single day, morning noon and night. a pack a day I was and was working on 2 packs a day when I quit. It is one of the hardest things I did!

 

[Soutane]

If I have said anything to offend you I apologize. My husband has struggled several years with trying to quit so I do understand what you are saying about addiction being a sickness and not giving free and willing consent. I don’t think that smoking for those who are chemically addicted is a mortal sin.

I know that fast food is bad for me, but I don’t think it is sinful to eat it occasionally and in moderation. If I overindulged to the point that it was having severe health consequences, then maybe it would be sinful. (and fast food is not chemically addicting like nicotine)

Is it is a sin for someone to start smoking today if they are informed of the health implications (unless as you stated it is with suicidal intent)? I don’t know. I do think it is possible (and not sinful) for some people to occasionally enjoy a cigar or cigarette without too much damage to their health, however the risk of getting addicted is pretty high.

No need to apologise I just get a little hot about the subject.Cheers.

 

[zachsmom]

I thought this might be helpful, this is listed at the end of How to Make a Good Confession taken from a search engine found here, freerepublic.com/focus/f-religion/1544145/posts:
There are many habits and shortcomings we all deal with, I hope by examining ones conscience it will put everyone’s thoughts and comments in a better perspective.
*Venial Sins and Imperfections
**

• Imperfections are not sins so they do not need to be confessed.
  No distinction is made on this sheet between venial sins and imperfections because it is not always easy to make the distinction. Some things are imperfections because they are very small, other things are imperfections because they are dispositions of the soul and not willful actions or failures, still others because they are habitual.

1. I am the Lord your God. You shall not have strange gods before me.

• Failure to pray on a daily basis
• Not trying to love God with my whole mind, heart, soul and strength
• Trying to control things rather than seek God’s will
• Entertaining doubts against the Faith
• Failing to seek out or learn the teachings of the Church
• Indifference or ingratitude to God
• Lukewarmness in the relationship with God
• Not trying to grow spiritually; being content with mediocrity
• Acedia (spiritual sloth)
• Putting other things or people before God, e.g., TV, radio, sports, hobbies, etc.
• Attachment to human respect or affection, i.e., caring more about what others think than what God thinks in order to fit in or be liked
• Not trusting God
• Failure to fulfill the duties of one’s state in life
• Playing Dungeons and Dragons or similar games
• Tempting God
• Being angry at God
• Embarrassment of being Catholic
• Failure to defend the Church when ridiculed
• Failure to support the work of the Church monetarily and/or with time and ability
• Not taking part in the work of evangelization
• Being willfully distracted at Mass or in prayer
• Putting off confession needlessly
• Failing to accept or offer up suffering
• Refusing or denying the mercy of God
• Not trying to practice recollection or the frequent remembrance of God’s presence
• Failure to pray when tempted
• Failure to examine one’s conscience daily
• Giving into depression, self pity or self deprecating thoughts

1. You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain.

• Using the Lord’s name lightly, in surprise or in anger (habitual, not thinking)
• Cursing thoughtlessly
• Using the names of Mary, a Saint, the Pope or other sacred persons irreverently
• Using vulgar or inappropriate language
• Telling bad jokes about sacred persons or objects
• Speaking badly of the Church
• Inappropriate or irreverent use of Scripture

1. Remember to keep holy the Lord’s Day.

• Doing unnecessary work on Sunday
• Failing to keep Sunday as a day for family and recreation
• Failing to spend extra time on Sunday in prayer and study of the Faith
• Allowing sports or other schedules to dictate the Sunday schedule
• Being irreverent in church
• Not paying attention or participating at Mass
• Coming late to Mass or leaving early without a serious reason
• Desecrating the day by sinful amusements, bad company, inappropriate entertainment, etc.

1. Honor your father and mother.

• Fighting with siblings
• Disobedience to parents or authorities
• Failure to give proper respect to parents or those in authority
• Treating those under one’s authority disrespectfully
• Failure to respect the dignity of children
• Speaking badly about parents
• Speaking badly about children
• Speaking badly about one’s spouse
• Neglecting duties toward spouse or children
• Failing to give good example to one’s family
• Not trying to cultivate peace in the family
• Taking one’s spouse for granted
• Making fun of or failing to help the elderly or handicapped
• Not praying for those entrusted to your care
• Failing to pray for those in authority over you, e.g., parents, teachers, employers, government officials, etc.
• Failure to teach children adequately about God and the spiritual life
• Lack of gratitude toward parents
• Nagging spouse or children
• Treating adult children like minors
• Meddling in the affairs of married children
• Too lax with rules, boundaries and discipline
• Too strict with rules, boundaries and discipline
• Breaking just civil laws without serious reason
• Being ashamed of or embarrassed about parents

1. You shall not kill.

• Pride, arrogance
• Vanity
• Stubbornness without good reason
• Rudeness
• Failure to apologize
• Fighting or arguing over slight matters
• Anger
• Using obscene or vulgar gestures
• Prejudice
• Harboring a grudge
• Seeking revenge or retaliation
• Wishing evil upon another
• Impatience
• Selfishness
• Listening to bad music
• Excessive watching of television
• Excessive playing of computer games
• Excessive use of the internet
• Watching TV or movies that promote sex or violence
• Playing computer games that promote sex or violence
• Refusing to forgive another
  **- Intemperance (overeating or drinking too much) **
• Driving carelessly
• Failing to care for one’s health
  - Smoking or chewing tobacco
• Abusing medications
• Sloth (laziness)
• Procrastination
• Lack of puncuality
• Failure to respect the dignity of self or others
• Giving scandal to another
• Treating another unjustly
• Failure to take medications if such are necessary
• Doing things willfully to anger others
• Violating friendships
• Failure to pray for deceased parents or relatives
• Using the “silent treatment” on others
• Failure to pray for sinners

 

[Light_Seeker]

EVERY cigarette is an excess, NO cigarette is morally justified.

*Oh brother! *Here we go … another holier than thou crusader gonna tell me how bad I am.

Only thing worse than smoking is some idiot telling you how bad it is.
And then Sam continues…

The only question is one of culpability: how much control does the addict have over his behavior?

Tobacco, used as directed, kills: everyone knows this. The only thing that may keep it from being a mortal sin is the level of addiction which keeps people from being really ‘rational’ about smoking.

And long before it kills you, it robs you of quality of life, making it impossible to lead a healthy, active life. It harms those around you, too.

Smoking is never a pleasure: it’s merely a way to temporarily quite the addiction monster *. No one likes their first cigarette, or their first pack.

Alcohol, used in moderation, is not only enjoyable, but has positive health benefits. Yeah, it damages a lot of lives, too. But at least it has SOME upside, unlike tobacco.*

Well, my first impression on this post … I was sadly mistaken.

Anyone who is addicted to nicotine, like I, can see the absolute truth in these words, and that this post comes from experience. Not a social smoker, a smoke with a drink, or a cigarette or two a day smoker. A nicotine addicted, first thing in the morning, last thing at night, smoker. A person who goes out in 0 degree sleet to satisfy the monster type of smoker.

Thank you , Sam.
Excellent post!

 

[lorenzo_help]

Whatevs. Rome has spoken, and based on the approved Catechism, the Church allows for tobacco use. Unlike some of the Puritans here, the Church allows for “even one cigarette”. So I will continue to smoke in what I perceive to be moderate amounts, and won’t worry about the hysterical Catholics who think they know better than the Church by saying even one cigarette is a mortal sin.

 

[Catherine_S]

With food I might argue that eating too much or unhealthy food that it adds to significant weight gain and negative consequences (such as diabetes and heart disease) while not necessarily a mortal sin might be sinful, especially if one is responsible for providing for a family or others.

Smoking can be a terrible addiction which I think could lessen the moral culpability somewhat if the individual had intentions to try to quit smoking or cut back on their consumption.

With smoking I would add that exposing others to dangerous secondhand smoke could be sinful.

My husband is a smoker . He doesn’t smoke in the house or near our kids. He’s been trying to quit (at least he says) for several years now. He’s tried cold turkey, hypnosis, nicotine patches, wellbutrin and chantix with no luck so far .

Whenever he makes a quit attempt he gets very emotionally touchy. I never know how to react. If I nag about quitting I’m being pushy. If I’m optimistic and praise him for his progress I’m putting too much pressure on him and laying guilt on him for if he fails. If I say nothing I’m not appreciating his effort at cutting back, or not being supportive enough or not believing him. And invariably when he tries to quit something stressful will happen like the vacuum will break or who knows what - stressful things happen all the time but when he’s trying to quit they seem to be magnified at least to him. I try to help him but its hard and frustrating

I had a dream that if I prayed the rosary for a year with the intention of helping him quit he would be able to break his addiction. Prayer is powerful and it can’t hurt:thumbsup: I think that will be my New Years resolution.

Does anyone have any advice on quitting smoking or supporting a spouse to quit smoking?

Keep praying my dear :byzsoc: .
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