Snubbed?

[gurneyhalleck1]

Sounds like you did get snubbed, Lutheranteach. Sorry it happened, too. I know you’re not a recognition hound, you’re just looking for equtiy for all the non-Catholic parents. What a bummer…Sorry it happened. If it’s any consolation, my Catholic parish here has priests who will NEVER call you back, return emails, meet with you, or much less give a crud…and that’s to Catholics! LOL…But strangely enough the people that donate tens of thousands of dollars to the Church get speedy service! lol…The Church is full of human beings, muffed-up human beings, and it’s easy to shrug and scratch your head about priests who behave this way? I’m so frustrated and fed up with the priests here and in this area in general that it doesn’t make me want to get involved…Again, sorry it happened! Keep on pluggin along…

 

[dianaiad]

i agree with you. many Catholics come against the authority of the Church for those outside the Church. i am sure he appreciate all people but it doesnt have to be said at all times.

people do not understand Catholics and all they want do is complain.

you can’t look at the CC and compare to be equal to all other religions. it is not. we have a different belief. we are different from other religions. one cannot expect Catholics to act just like them. it is impossible.

Oh, this is funny. We are expected to understand you and make allowances for your bigotry, even as you go blithely on to figure that there is absolutely nothing wrong with accepting the hard work and donations of non-Catholics–and then treat them with disdain.

It would not have been all THAT hard to have acknowledged the hard work done by those who were not Catholic, especially when that hard work contributed to obviously to the success of the event.

I do note the number of Catholics here who also think that the priest here acted inappropriately.

 

[RebeccaJ]

As some may know I am the Lutheran half of a interfaith marriage. I spent the last month or so arranging parts of a charity auction for the Catholic school our son attends. Much time, much effort. Tonight was the big night. The Priest came and gave his pre dinner blessing and then welcomed those from other local parishes and then “all the other good Roman Catholics” in attendance. The 10-15 non Catholics who have kids attending the school and additional family members were not mentioned even though they, and I (not to brag) blew the previous fundraising marks out of the water tonight. Is if to much to ask to be recognized even if its as “and others”? Oddly, alll the non-Catholics also somehow ended up being placed in a separate “overflow” area and served last.

Hello Lutheranteach, living in an area that is predominantly one religion (not Catholic), I can relate. This happens a lot, sometimes to the point of not being involved at all. But I honestly don’t believe people are purposely snubbing. More like, very focused on themselves, and not remembering the “others”.

Take heart in knowing the good you’ve done for the school and most importantly, your son.

 

[kalt]

We had a bishop from India visit our church a few months ago. He talked about what poor Christians Indians go through to worship (loss of government benefits is a big thing). Yet they gladly do it because they want to be part of the one true Church created by Christ and led by his Apostles.

Their masses are three hours long on Sundays. Even at my good and orthodox parish, I think some people would throw fits if Church lasted half that time!

You see, in America we worry so much about ‘being thanked’ or ‘getting that recognition.’ Yes it is nice, but it is a side issue. Charity is supposed to be always flowing from us as we imitate Jesus Christ.

Beyond that, I think it is very generous of the Church today to so freely allow inter-faith marriages. I mean, it’s not as if the Protestant schism did not have severe consequences. Several wars were fought. Catholics know that we are correct and that the Protestant confessions are wrong. Therefore I am not seeing why it should be expected for a priest to go out of his way to say something like ‘thank you to Mr. X, who is of the Missouri Synod/Presbyterian USA/etc.’ I mean, priests don’t usually segment thanks into which quarter of town support comes from.

It is sad to see people calling a priest a ‘dunce’ or ‘jerk’ or ‘lacking social skills.’ I think this is exactly what Jesus talked about when he warned against judging others.

Again, sorry if this seems like I’m being a grumpy person because I really don’t intend that. I just strongly feel that this is a silly thing to get into a fit about.

I know what you mean, but the priest was addressing the whole crowd. In doing that, you have to be sure (as host) to address everyone. If he said “parish members” then the man was addressed, even if he doesn’t know it. But if he didn’t, and only mentioned Catholics then he missed some people. “Honored guests” is a good catch-all. Or less formally, “And anyone I might have missed.”

After rereading the OP, it seems that the priest didn’t name the members of his own parish. It sounds like he considered members of the parish (as a whole) as hosts together with him. He was welcoming those who aren’t usually there–members of other local parishes and any other Catholic who might be there.

So, it seems that this man was considered a host himself. Why would he feel like he needed to be welcomed to the parish he attends–or his wife and kids attend, and at which he is very active.

Instead of seeing this as a snub, shouldn’t he see it as being considered one of the home team? It’s hard to tell from the lilttle information given.

 

[kalt]

Oh, this is funny. We are expected to understand you and make allowances for your bigotry, even as you go blithely on to figure that there is absolutely nothing wrong with accepting the hard work and donations of non-Catholics–and then treat them with disdain.

It would not have been all THAT hard to have acknowledged the hard work done by those who were not Catholic, especially when that hard work contributed to obviously to the success of the event.

I do note the number of Catholics here who also think that the priest here acted inappropriately.

I didn’t respond to Wisdomseeker, because I couldn’t make sense of the post. What was he trying to say? That priests don’t have to thank non-Catholics? Or that a priest shouldn’t be expected to be a gracious host?
Where in the world (if that’s what he meant) did he get that?

 

[MercyMia]

Sorry that you had a bad experience. It does sound like this Priest was being very insenstive and he should have seen how blessed the school was to have you be active in the school. He should also remember that non-Catholics pay tuition as well and deserve equal respect.
Maybe you can write him a letter telling him that his reprsentation left you with a very sour feeling.
I mean on the one hand, I understand him perhaps mentioning you in umbrella terms as Catholics to not single out the non-Catholics by name. I would not see that as an issue except that you mentioned being seated off to the side and served last - was it really every non-Catholic or was it a mix? That seems very cold.

 

[Xavierlives]

As some may know I am the Lutheran half of a interfaith marriage. I spent the last month or so arranging parts of a charity auction for the Catholic school our son attends. Much time, much effort. Tonight was the big night. The Priest came and gave his pre dinner blessing and then welcomed those from other local parishes and then “all the other good Roman Catholics” in attendance. The 10-15 non Catholics who have kids attending the school and additional family members were not mentioned even though they, and I (not to brag) blew the previous fundraising marks out of the water tonight. Is if to much to ask to be recognized even if its as “and others”? Oddly, alll the non-Catholics also somehow ended up being placed in a separate “overflow” area and served last.

I think you need to check your motives and decide what you want. God’s word says if you seek the praise of man by doing good works, then that is your reward. If you want to do good works to advance God’s Kingdom, then sit back and relax. God saw your work. Now, I think you are probably just trying to vent here, but the problem with the whole dilemma is, well, you had to reveal your works to this community to tell your story. God says, give in secret that I may reward you openly.