It must be hard being 24 y.o. and never having been in a relationship. Realize we are currently in some very strange times. What is normal is now being considered abnormal. What is abnormal is now being considered normal.
So, people who are virgins today are sometimes even ridiculed! They are thought of as some kind of abnormality! In older times, it was the norm before marriage! Virginity, say, used to be held in very high esteem.
Did you realize that saints have told us that in heaven, people who are able to conserve their virginity, say, a lifetime, are given a crown?!
Now, just because youāre 24 y.o. doesnāt mean itās the end of the road, here. Youāre hardly a āwashed-up, old, has beenā! Your life it just beginning! Youāre hardly an old maid!
There are a lot of advantages to never having been in a relationship before. Well, you donāt have any sexually-transmitted diseases, havenāt had any children out of wedlock, no abortions. At lot of people your age, have.had numerous sexual partners already and many of the above list.
A lot of people of both sexes WISH they had saved their virginity for the right person, their spouse, instead of wasting it on someone who could care less and will move on to the next conquest right after that.
Youāre actually in a very good position, though it might not seem like it right now to you.
I happen to know there are a number of men who want, desperately, to find a good, Catholic girl. Many are absolutely convinced they are so scarce, that they hardly exist. Some give up altogether in this search, believing itās like āMission Impossible!ā
Donāt give up quite yet. What have you tried so far? One place to meet people would be through Catholic single groups. Does your church offer any?
Universities are another good place for young people to meet. Some have Newman Centers which are mainly for Catholic students, but anybody can also go to mass there.
That would give you a common element, your faith.
For some people, especially introverts, dating can be tougher, but why not at least try a few things?
Also, what about some kind of volunteer work or hobby, clubs where you can get out to meet people a bit more? Look for people who are like yourselfā¦similar beliefs and interests, preferably, so you have more in common.
As to your fall, I know, itās upsetting. All you can really do is repent, go to confession and sin no more. Weāre all sinners, here, so join the club! We just have to keep picking ourselves up, dusting ourselves off and moving forward, though, hard as it is.
Stop beating yourself up, since that wonāt help. Satan loves it when we lose hope, faith, and want to just give up, despair. Ask God to forgive you, and move forward.
Sounds like you fell a lot out of loneliness. So, you can try harder to work on that issue, since God didnāt design you to be alone. Anyway, good luck, and God bless you!
Iāll close with a prayer for you. Hail Mary, Full of Grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blest is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
