So..it's been a while, need those prayers please

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Hey guys.

I feel like it has been ages since I posted on these forums. I will give the short version of the last few years.

Went to seminary, left seminary. Fell in love with a girl who’s Catholicism is…not so Catholic. Kinda fell away from the Lord over the course of this relationship. Still in relationship with that girl. Thinking I need to break up with her, but I am torn.

Then today, I was offered a mission trip for 6 months to Africa. On one hand, I really really want to go. I imagine it would bring me closer to God, and my best friend in the world is at the place I would be going. He has been there about 6 months and plans to stay for another year. I just want out of this Godless funk I am in. I have not felt Him in so long and it is tearing me up. Praying has become near impossible. I even skipped Mass for the first time in Lord knows how many years. I am in deep trouble here.

On the other hand, being in love and realizing that they may not be right for you sucks bad. Never in my life did I think that I would be the type of man who had trouble breaking up with a girl when it wasn’t right, but yet, here I am. I just can’t seem to do it.

I already know what the right thing to do is. I just need some serious prayer to have the strength to do it. I know this place is a powerhouse of prayer considering I used to pray for everyone who posted here, so I am just asking for some of that now. Thanks guys.
 
Unfinished said:
Hey guys.

I feel like it has been ages since I posted on these forums. I will give the short version of the last few years.

Went to seminary, left seminary. Fell in love with a girl who’s Catholicism is…not so Catholic. Kinda fell away from the Lord over the course of this relationship. Still in relationship with that girl. Thinking I need to break up with her, but I am torn.

Then today, I was offered a mission trip for 6 months to Africa. On one hand, I really really want to go. I imagine it would bring me closer to God, and my best friend in the world is at the place I would be going. He has been there about 6 months and plans to stay for another year. I just want out of this Godless funk I am in. I have not felt Him in so long and it is tearing me up. Praying has become near impossible. I even skipped Mass for the first time in Lord knows how many years. I am in deep trouble here.

On the other hand, being in love and realizing that they may not be right for you sucks bad. Never in my life did I think that I would be the type of man who had trouble breaking up with a girl when it wasn’t right, but yet, here I am. I just can’t seem to do it.

I already know what the right thing to do is. I just need some serious prayer to have the strength to do it. I know this place is a powerhouse of prayer considering I used to pray for everyone who posted here, so I am just asking for some of that now. Thanks guys.
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Tell her it’s obvious that you’re not pursuing the same goals, and break up with her.

Go on to Africa–it should do your faith wonders.

Blessings,
Cloisters
 
Unfinished said:
Hey guys.

I feel like it has been ages since I posted on these forums. I will give the short version of the last few years.

Went to seminary, left seminary. Fell in love with a girl who’s Catholicism is…not so Catholic. Kinda fell away from the Lord over the course of this relationship. Still in relationship with that girl. Thinking I need to break up with her, but I am torn.

Then today, I was offered a mission trip for 6 months to Africa. On one hand, I really really want to go. I imagine it would bring me closer to God, and my best friend in the world is at the place I would be going. He has been there about 6 months and plans to stay for another year. I just want out of this Godless funk I am in. I have not felt Him in so long and it is tearing me up. Praying has become near impossible. I even skipped Mass for the first time in Lord knows how many years. I am in deep trouble here.

On the other hand, being in love and realizing that they may not be right for you sucks bad. Never in my life did I think that I would be the type of man who had trouble breaking up with a girl when it wasn’t right, but yet, here I am. I just can’t seem to do it.

I already know what the right thing to do is. I just need some serious prayer to have the strength to do it. I know this place is a powerhouse of prayer considering I used to pray for everyone who posted here, so I am just asking for some of that now. Thanks guys.
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Tell her it’s obvious that as a couple, you’re not pursuing the same goals, and break up with her. She sounds like she’s dragging you down spiritually.

A trip to Africa should help with the dark night of the soul–which is what it sounds like you’re going through.

Blessings,
Cloisters
 
You know the answer but you don’t want to cause hurt to this girl because you know her and care about her. God bless you for that! It’s also hard to throw away a dream; and takes courage to begin with a new one, even if it is more tru to you.

I’ll be praying for you and remembering you in daily Mass. And the girl you’ve been dating as of course she will grieve.

I ask Jesus to be with you and to give you the courage.

God bless you…Trishie
 
I feel for your situation as I’ve been there. It seems like you were an extremely spiritual person at one time. That part of you is still there, it’s just hidden. You’ve let the ungodless portion of your relationship (call it what you will) cover up the real part of you that loves God. Here’s what I suggest:
  1. Return to your faith. Be convicted in it. Either she’ll follow you, or she’ll walk away, or push you to walk away. But you’ll be standing up for your Lord, who will take care of you in the process.
  2. Get away from the relationship for a while. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a permanent move unless she’s drowning you in self and in faith. Then you need to sprint for the door. If there’s promise there, just take a sabatical, go to Africa and go find your soul again. Go find Jesus. I think you’ll find He’s not far away.
  3. The struggle you feel could also be God working in you to bring you back stronger than you were when you first entered the seminary. St. John of the Cross went through the dark night of the soul. Perhaps you too are walking in darkness. But the light isn’t far off.
  4. Pray. Pray as often as you can. Whisper thanksgiving, a Hail Mary, an Our Father, or whatever you feel at the time. Engulf yourself in the things that made you a spiritual and even contemplative individual to begin with. If it doesn’t come all at once, try to increase it daily.
  5. Remember why you wanted to be a priest. Think of that image you had of yourself. Imagine finding that person again.
One last thing to remember. God called you once, which means you are a chosen one. He hasn’t forgotten you. In His father’s house are many rooms. And one is being prepared just for you!

I will pray for you too.
 
If you read your post it is very obvious what you want.
Enjoy Africa and your new beginning of a deeper walk with God!
I will be praying for you.
Jollyoki
 
Hi

This is actually my first ever message I am sending to someone,I am new here.
Your message touched my heart I am in tears as we speak:blush: :crying: .God is bigger than any problem and His will won’t take you where his Grace will not keep you.Keep praying brother,I will definitely keep you and girls like me in my prayers…Please go to that mission please , you need it…dump her as well.

Confession
I have been in a relationship with A SEMINARIAN before and I feel so bad about it right now.Thank you for this message I think God sent you to me.Look at it this way He still uses you to touch other peoples’ lives;)
 
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Remember, O Most Gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided…
 
From your thread you have a choice to make-one is happiness & love and the other is unhappiness and missing your relationship with God. Go to Africa and at least you will know for sure if you are being called to become a priest. It is obvious she isn’t the one for you. I’ll be praying for you. Keep us posted!
 
It’s lonely without God, especially when you have been close to him in the past. It’s like losing a best friend. Where did the friendship go? Little by little the distance grew. Now you are longing for a Stranger-God, and trying to feed your loneliness with a person who is not meant for you.

Do not be afraid to be lonely. Do not be afraid to be on your own. You don’t need her for support, God’s got your back. Plus, the desert is the best place to find yourself and to find God. Because in all reality, God doesn’t walk way, that’s our choice. Sometimes it is the hardest thing ever, but we have to turn around and look at our mess, see it for what it was, and work to change it.

You are already on the right track. You are thinking with your soul and seeing with opened eyes. Trust your instincts (aka the Holy Spirit) and you will take the correct steps.

Africa wouldn’t be a bad place to do some soul searching either! 😉

You’ll be in my prayers,
Kristina
 
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