So, what do you do with your ashes?

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If you go to church on Ash Wednesday and get signed with ashes, do you leave them on until they come off through attrition? Wash them off at the end of the day? Wear them to work? Do other people notice and tell you that your forehead is dirty?
 
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I leave mine until they wear off. Unfortunately I have bangs and am forever running my fingers through them, so the ashes are usually gone by the end of the day.

I work out of my house, so “wearing them to work” really isn’t a factor to your question. Because I do work out of my home, I am able to run errands throughout the day, so I am amongst the public. Where-as I live in a predominantely Catholic populace, no-one thinks my forehead is dirty. Even if they themselves can’t make it to Mass, they know what the ‘smudge’ is.
 
I would just leave them on all day, but I’m going to mass after work at 5:30, so I’ll just be wearing them home till I wash my face before I go to bed. Unless we go somewhere afterwards, which we don’t have plans of doing right now.
 
I always leave them on. Now that I am retired it doesn’t make much difference. However, when I worked at least one person would always ask about them and give me an opportunity to discuss the need for penance. Also one or two would say, “Oh, it’s Ash Wednesday. I’ll have to go to church after work.” So I got a good return for little effort.
 
I’m planning on going to an AM Mass, so I’ll probably have them on at work.

In the past, I’ve left them on! 👍
 
I’ve always left them on…and usually see many others walking around all day with them on too. Kind of nice - it’s the one day a year where if you’ve got ashes on your head, it’s pretty obvious you’re a Catholic. Nice to see how many of us are actually out there!
 
I wipe them off as soon as I can. They aren’t something to show off, and since I usually go to Mass on Ash Wednesday in the evenings, if I leave them on too long, I’ll forget they are there, and wake up the next morning with them smeared all over my pillow.
 
Why aren’t they something to show off? It’s a chance to evangelize without words. 😉

Anyway, at my parish they usually go too high on the forehead, so that, really, they’re on your hair, which is too bad, because then they’re not visible (grrr). But, since the Mass at my parish that I would be able to attend is at night, and that would leave me ash-less during school, I will be going elsewhere… Anyone in Vancouver (BC) know whether the cathedral does the ashes on the actual forehead for the 8:30 Mass?
 
People should know your faith by how you live your lives- day by day- even if they are just passing by. They should be able to tell whether you have ashes on your forehead or not. I have seen faith-filled Christians in the store- they aren’t dressed any different, or anything. They don’t even talk about their faith- they are just happy and show a certain peace that you don’t see every day. That does a lot more evangelization than wearing ashes do on your forehead- besides, around here, a lot of people only go to Mass on Christmas, Easter, and Ash Wednesday.

Besides…Jesus warned about using penitential practices to show off. It’s good to evangelize, but not by showing off what you do in reparation for your sins. That should be between you and God- alone.
 
I don’t mean show off as in actual showing off something that one does in reparation for sins, that never even went through my head until you mentioned it… I meant it more like just, show an outward sign of the Faith (who was it that was recently quoting something from a Pope saying that the outward signs, etc. used in the Mass should not be thought of as “conducive to impiety”?). I don’t know how it is where you live, but where I am, people don’t pay attention to each other unless something actually catches their eye. Those peaceful Christians you see would pass under the radar where I live. Not that all of us have that inner peace even though we do try to lead good lives, but that’s a different topic… Anyway, they’d pass under the radar unless they could catch someone’s eye. Usually, us Catholics who try to be faithful go completely unnoticed (could one say it is a side-effect of trying to be faithful? ah, but that’s a different topic again…), but this is a chance to give those who surround us a visible hint that the Church is still alive, that God is still there waiting for them. And how about those examples that have been given of people seeing the ashes on the forehead and thinking “oh yeah, it’s ash wednesday”? Or maybe by seeing the ashes another Catholic who may be a bit disheartened or lonely would be comforted a bit (we are allowed some small comforts, are we not?) and reminded that they are not the only one in the area; someone once posted that “Catholicism is not a lone wolf religion”, but it certainly feels like that most of the time.

Like I said, I don’t know how it is where you are, but where I live people don’t notice subtlety. This is a chance to try out bluntness. Well, subdued bluntness, anyway.

Unfortunately, you are right about those C&E&AW Catholics, though… sigh :nope:
 
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Aurelia:
If you go to church on Ash Wednesday and get signed with ashes, do you leave them on until they come off through attrition? Wash them off at the end of the day? Wear them to work? Do other people notice and tell you that your forehead is dirty?
I receive mine early in the morning and wear them all day, with my bangs pulled out of the way. I want everyone to see that I am catholic and that I believe what the church teaches and follow its precepts.
It never hurts to have an “outward sign of inward devotion” for all to see. Oh BTW I wear a crucifix all the time.
God bless,
maggiec
 
I’ll be going to Mass at Noon this Ash Wednesday, the ashes will stay on until I wash my face before going to bed.
 
Reading through this thread it struck me how truly penitential wearing the ashes throughout the day is. How often does one have the opportunity to perhaps be considered a “spiritual show-off”? THAT is a humbling experience even if no one says it to your dirty face. :getholy:
 
In the past I have left them on, because Ash Wednesday “gives me an excuse” to wear the ashes, which can potentially bring up the subject of faith.

On the other hand, I’ve never thought of it before, but wearing them certainly could feed spiritual pride.

When we are fasting or doing penance, we are told by Christ not to make a show of it. We are not to wear sackcloth and ashes in public.

On the other hand, wearing any item of faith could leave one subject to the same criticism.

I’ll probably wear them this year, but maybe not. I’ll have to think about it more now. Which one creates a bigger spectacle – wearing them or not wearing them – might depend on how many Catholics I intend to hang around with that day.

Alan
 
I kinda enjoy when people at school just say “you have something on your forehead” so I can just reply “I know” and start them wondering. Then if they are really curious and brave they’ll ask why I have them on my head. Then I’ll actually tell them.
 
wear them till they wear off (normally gone by end of the day anyway)
 
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