Social issues: are you losing friends?

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I know and work with many people who are pretty liberal. I’m not sure how that happened.
Are any of you having issues with friends/coworkers due to your opposing issues on sexual liberalism?
Do you use those conversations to evangelize or do you stay quiet?

I am having trouble understanding all of it, quite frankly.
 
JillyAnn said:
I know and work with many people who are pretty liberal. I’m not sure how that happened.
Are any of you having issues with friends/coworkers due to your opposing issues on sexual liberalism?
Do you use those conversations to evangelize or do you stay quiet?

I am having trouble understanding all of it, quite frankly.
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Most of my friends already know my views and are respectful. I don’t try to push too hard against anyone else’s beliefs either. I will respectfully discuss an issue to a point and then if the conversation becomes too heated or disrespectful, I decline to discuss further. I’ll say something like “We will just have to agree to disagree.”

I evangelize with my actions. I try to show my beliefs not through words, but through how I live my life.
 
I generally keep quiet.

When asked, I usually say things like “Personally I could never have sex before marriage/etc”. My liberal friends don’t hate me for that, probably because it seems like a ‘personal choice’ rather than me being bound by the rules set by ‘patriarchal men’ or whatever.
 
Don’t discuss anything related to sex with your coworkers!:eek: That’s basic life advice 101!
 
BlueEyedLady said:
Don’t discuss anything related to sex with your coworkers!:eek: That’s basic life advice 101!
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It’s easier to not talk about our faith then the above in this world, or at least in my millennial generation.

That being said, I would usually refrain until someone forced me to do something contrary to my faith. For example, of my cousin who got into a discussion with why going to Stripclub is okay and not against 6th commandment, or when he tell me to seperate faith from finding a girlfriend.
 
Hot button topics like anything related to sex are better off NOT discussed in the workplace. Just smile and change the subject to sports, the weather, somebody’s vacation…
Same for evangelizing in the workplace. Just don’t. If somebody is your friend and you see them for lunch on Saturday outside work that’s a different matter.

As for friends elsewhere, people end friendships because they don’t share interests with the other person or sometimes because the other person makes them uncomfortable. You may have made them take a long look at their own morals and they didn’t like what they saw, so now things are awkward. You shouldn’t worry about it and should just focus on finding friends more in line with your own preferences and views.
 
Jestersage said:
It’s easier to not talk about our faith then the above in this world, or at least in my millennial generation.
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I am in my 20’s, right there in the same generation. I’ve worked in low wage positions, and in very professional positions, in very liberal environments, and for extremely conservative organizations, and I have never talked sex at work. Ever.

If other people do, then stay out of it. Let them hurt their own careers and reputations.
 
Sometimes you just end up in an unlucky work environment. I had a job for a year where I was in an office with five opinionated middle aged women who were armchair philosophers, administrators, heads of state, heads of culture, and anything else. The following year, I was working with normal people again. They weren’t necessarily conservative or liberal, they were just normal and conversed like normal people.

In the social dynamics of any given place, sometimes it just takes one influential person, an alpha, to reshape the atmosphere. Like, in that place where I worked for a year, it was probably just one person who started aggressively bringing things up conversations, and then the others - maybe without realizing it - fell into the same mold.
 
One of my best friends is a fairly liberal Saudi Sunni Muslim. Generally, we get along fine. Most of our misunderstandings are due to his limited English vocabulary (you can be near native, which he is, and still not get certain nuances). By far one of the nicest people I know.
 
Let me be more specific…I was more referring to LGBTXYZ… and all the names and medical manipulations that go with it.
Not really talking about the act of sex.
People in my office talk A LOT of politics.
I generally excuse myself because the people I work with are generally godless.
There are some subjects that I feel are a call to evangelization…
Especially in matters that involve families (sometimes broken) and children…
 
JillyAnn said:
Let me be more specific…I was more referring to LGBTXYZ… and all the names and medical manipulations that go with it.
Not really talking about the act of sex.
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With all due respect, LGBT issues are not a good office topic either. I have been in offices where people (usually a certain handful of people) like to talk politics, but unless it relates directly to the work being done - for example, you work on Capitol Hill, in a political lobbying organization, in a think tank, for CNN, etc. - it’s usually just not a great subject. People will pop off with all sorts of views and basically be looking for either agreement or an argument. I’d avoid all of it if I were you, unless like I said you work in politics.
 
Tis_Bearself said:
With all due respect, LGBT issues are not a good office topic either. I have been in offices where people (usually a certain handful of people) like to talk politics, but unless it relates directly to the work being done - for example, you work on Capitol Hill, in a political lobbying organization, in a think tank, for CNN, etc. - it’s usually just not a great subject. People will pop off with all sorts of views and basically be looking for either agreement or an argument. I’d avoid all of it if I were you, unless like I said you work in politics.
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LOL! I don’t bring them up, I just listen to the dribble. LOL!
Just curious what others do.
 
I lost a lot of friends when I came home to the Church in 2007. I lost them because I couldn’t join them in sin any longer. I said goodbye to drunkenness and parties. Plus they didn’t agree with my views and thought I was weird for going to Church (Church attendance is frowned upon in England).

Then I realised that family is the most important thing. My friends are my cousins, my siblings, my nephews and my aunties. I’d like a wider circle but Catholics are as rare as the dodo around here. I associate with people but don’t have any intimate friends outside of the family. I’d like a good social circle but it’s difficult to meet other Catholics/Christians on my wavelength.
 
TechieGuy said:
Sounds horrible - I’m glad I work with computers and not so much people…
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Programming, I guess, because I am working in IT, and my co-worker keep cracking sex jokes and how good looking some girls are. And he has two daughters, and a wife who is one of the leaders in their Prebysterian church.

One of these days I am gonna ask how he feel about me looking at his daughters with the same eyes.

Anyway, when I mean talk about sex all the time, I do not mean like my co-worker. Instead, we have people who keep talking about how good the recent gay parade is and etc. (Note that I am in Vancouver)
 
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