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Flimmy
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Before any questions are typed out, I have a first question that might actually debunk all the rest.
People throughout time have given me a little personal feedback here and there, and one of them has often been that I “think too much.” Since I am fairly present-minded (not like, spacing out
), they say it to mean over analytical or, maybe even scrupulous. In that case, any of my questions may be products of a fair amount of irrational over-thinking. OR, it could be that some people do not think enough–and of course not in any derogatory sense.
When it comes to being and interacting with people, how much responsibility do I have toward their needs and person…? This is kind of a vague, sort of relative question… but, how much responsibility I have towards another is a fairly big determining factor in how I would interact with someone–how carefully I would prepare myself to be.
But if these questions are products of over-thinking and over-analyzing, and I am just not playing things “as they come,” and treating people more on a case-by-case basis than I have, these questions might be completely irrelevant and too specific. But since I interact with a lot of people, these potentially accurate generalizations may be helpful (one pretty general is the case of “the four temperaments”… which is hard to use because it may be too general). (I mean, perhaps me generalizing things has turned into me judging people and not letting them “define themselves”/present themselves enough to me… you know, me not using plain common sense enough which would cover a multiple of ‘unknowns’ as the answers would present themselves… I do have a lot of questions.)
I’ve read books on gentle-manners and social grace and all sorts of things like that, but yet those guidelines don’t cover too any details on personal relations, and rather mainly how to be gracefully “transparent” with new acquaintances, and how to handle yourself in business situations.
And lastly, I’d love to get into stuff about human dignity, and how treating and seeing people as remarkably dignified and internally mature, smart people really can do great things. It can give a person a lot of breathing room to finally exercise and work on being more decent, if per say they’ve just been crummy for a long time and have really butchered their own reputations. I guess this one is relative too.
People throughout time have given me a little personal feedback here and there, and one of them has often been that I “think too much.” Since I am fairly present-minded (not like, spacing out
), they say it to mean over analytical or, maybe even scrupulous. In that case, any of my questions may be products of a fair amount of irrational over-thinking. OR, it could be that some people do not think enough–and of course not in any derogatory sense.When it comes to being and interacting with people, how much responsibility do I have toward their needs and person…? This is kind of a vague, sort of relative question… but, how much responsibility I have towards another is a fairly big determining factor in how I would interact with someone–how carefully I would prepare myself to be.
But if these questions are products of over-thinking and over-analyzing, and I am just not playing things “as they come,” and treating people more on a case-by-case basis than I have, these questions might be completely irrelevant and too specific. But since I interact with a lot of people, these potentially accurate generalizations may be helpful (one pretty general is the case of “the four temperaments”… which is hard to use because it may be too general). (I mean, perhaps me generalizing things has turned into me judging people and not letting them “define themselves”/present themselves enough to me… you know, me not using plain common sense enough which would cover a multiple of ‘unknowns’ as the answers would present themselves… I do have a lot of questions.)
I’ve read books on gentle-manners and social grace and all sorts of things like that, but yet those guidelines don’t cover too any details on personal relations, and rather mainly how to be gracefully “transparent” with new acquaintances, and how to handle yourself in business situations.
And lastly, I’d love to get into stuff about human dignity, and how treating and seeing people as remarkably dignified and internally mature, smart people really can do great things. It can give a person a lot of breathing room to finally exercise and work on being more decent, if per say they’ve just been crummy for a long time and have really butchered their own reputations. I guess this one is relative too.