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Have you discussed the situation with your priest?
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White_Peony
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Yes! Fr. Mark doesn’t want me to go for the same reasons I don’t want to. But I’m afraid to tell my mother that my priest said it’s a bad idea. My mom tends to think that the commandment “Honor thy mother and father” is superior to all other precepts of God. But Jesus said, “If anyone loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me.” I want to respect my mom, but I don’t want her to get between me and my Beloved!
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puzzleannie
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children are to obey their parents in all things that are not sinful, 4th commandment, that applies no matter what religion you profess, and even for atheists.
for the record the Bill of Rights applies only in public places, once you go on private property, including a church or family home, they no longer apply.
Negotiate, but not by whining and claiming your rights, but as you would for any other privilege, by showing how your conscience is leading you, displaying maturity in words, thoughts, decisions and actions, and proving yourself responsible in other ways. If you want to claim to be Catholic, prove it, by demonstrating to your parents what a good committed Catholic teen is like, including her happiness, purity of heart, and peaceful spirit.
since your family, sadly, is in a divorce situation, if there is a custody issue, and this arises when one parent tries to force religious choices, you might enlist the help of your dad, his lawyer, or the judge who enforces the custody agreement, that you be allowed to keep your faith.
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JRKH
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Since the OP says that she is 14 years old, it appears that obedience to her mother is indeed mandatory.
Honor your Mother in the responsibilities that she carries for you.
Jesus stayed behind at the temple at age 12 to be “In my Father’s house” but then he went back to Nazareth with Mary and Joseph and was subject to them.
I wonder…
To the other great posters here…
I’m sure there are some great women saints who went through similar things - perhaps some names will give peony some places to go for reading and prayer support…
I’m thinking maybe St Rita…
Any others??
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James
Do not confuse Love and honor here. Love Jesus with all of your heart.
Honor your Mother in the responsibilities that she carries for you.
Jesus stayed behind at the temple at age 12 to be “In my Father’s house” but then he went back to Nazareth with Mary and Joseph and was subject to them.
I wonder…
To the other great posters here…
I’m sure there are some great women saints who went through similar things - perhaps some names will give peony some places to go for reading and prayer support…
I’m thinking maybe St Rita…
Any others??
Peace
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Denise1957
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It’s really good that you talked to your priest about it. If you can arrange to not go to the SDA church, still try to be a kind, thoughtful, and patient with your mom.
A similar thing happened to me when I was in the process of converting. I had mentioned to the priest from whom I was taking instruction for baptism that I still occasionally went to a New-Age Theosophical camp with my husband. I told him that I didn’t participate in and had no interest in any of the New-Age activities, and that I would talk about Catholicism with the New-Agers there. But he said that no, I should not go there again. He said that if I continued to go there, that it would give the impression that Catholicism is somehow compatible with the beliefs of the people there, and that it would give a bad impression. He said that I could socialise with them on nuetral territory, such as a community center - but not at their facility. So I’ve not been back there since, and my husband was very upset about this, and it caused problems, but eventually he got used to the idea. And now - he doesn’t go there much himself anymore, which is a good thing.
Listen to you priest, and maybe he can give you ideas on how to cope with the situation. We must love our parents, but there’s still the first commandment to consider.
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Bballer32
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I dealt with the same things you are dealing with right now. When i stayed with my mother’s parents (who are hardcore WELS Lutherans) i had to go to their church because i couldn’t drive to a Catholic Church. So, i would have some fun and try to see how many things are messed up in their worship.
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White_Peony
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Wow, I could try that! I suppose I could see how much they have in common with Catholics (that would make them so mad if they knew). I had to sing with my school at mom’s church (we did awful btw) and we stood as the elders and pastor came up. I thought, whoa! This is sorta like Catholicism…I dealt with the same things you are dealing with right now. When i stayed with my mother’s parents (who are hardcore WELS Lutherans) i had to go to their church because i couldn’t drive to a Catholic Church. So, i would have some fun and try to see how many things are messed up in their worship.
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Angel_Gabriel
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White Peony,
My prayers are with you. Reading your posts has brought me back to when I was your age and my parents had just divorced. Every other weekend my brother and I were at my dad’s. He refused to take us to Mass…refused. I remember confessing this one time saying that I had missed mass b/c of my dad not taking us (I was 15) and if I remember correctly, the priest told me that it wasn’t my fault and there for was not a sin on my part. Talk to your priest about it. There isn’t much you can do for your mom other than pray for her.
My dad is also an SDA and my mom is Roman Catholic. I know how you feel and it isn’t fun…I HATED going to my dad’s church and HATED it when they said obviously false things about the Church. SDAs are so misinformed!
My prayers are with you. Reading your posts has brought me back to when I was your age and my parents had just divorced. Every other weekend my brother and I were at my dad’s. He refused to take us to Mass…refused. I remember confessing this one time saying that I had missed mass b/c of my dad not taking us (I was 15) and if I remember correctly, the priest told me that it wasn’t my fault and there for was not a sin on my part. Talk to your priest about it. There isn’t much you can do for your mom other than pray for her.
My dad is also an SDA and my mom is Roman Catholic. I know how you feel and it isn’t fun…I HATED going to my dad’s church and HATED it when they said obviously false things about the Church. SDAs are so misinformed!
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White_Peony
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I know, right! I simply despise it.
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DL82
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Maybe you could ask her how Jesus understood the 4th commandment, and how He understood it to include honoring God as Father too. As you at least share some measure of Christian faith, you could read and pray together using the finding of the child Jesus in the temple, and use that as a starting point.
I know it isn’t easy when those close to you don’t share your faith. I will pray for you.
I know it isn’t easy when those close to you don’t share your faith. I will pray for you.
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Bballer32
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That’s an idea
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