Spaghetti straps on little girls' First Communion dresses

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It’s finally come to this. I saw two dresses like this at Mass this morning (First Communion was yesterday, and the communicants were encouraged to come to Sunday Mass wearing their outfits). Your opinions?
 
these seem to be quite common :(. I’ve seen them for several years now.

I don’t think they are really appropriate but I suppose if there was a cover up to go with it then that would make it a bit better. Unfortunately I think that First Communion anymore is more of an occasion for dressing little girls up like mini-brides and less about focusing on the Eucharist…
 
Not my favorite look, but they’re very little girls. I’m not offended by their shoulders:shrug:
 
My opinion, not appropriate on little girls for any occasion but especially inappropriate for First Communion.
 
unless the Priest directs otherwise, there is not much anyone can do. I’ve seen priests give directions about such things like no spaghetti straps or gloves and then people get upset about it.
 
Why are you so fixated on how eight year old girls are dressing? Jesus is on the altar.
 
MarcusAndreas said:
Why are you so fixated on how eight year old girls are dressing? Jesus is on the altar.
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I think that is probably why the OP said anything, I am sure we all realize that Jesus is there, and respect is definitely called for. Perhaps putting a small, light, white shawl or sweater, weather permitting, with it.
 
They probably just bought them because they were cute dresses…not trying show skin. Ultimately, it’s just a dress, it’s about what they’re experiencing, not what they’re wearing. They’re eight, they aren’t going out to be “sexy”.
 
Sneaux said:
They probably just bought them because they were cute dresses…not trying show skin. Ultimately, it’s just a dress, it’s about what they’re experiencing, not what they’re wearing. They’re eight, they aren’t going out to be “sexy”.
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Well, how one dresses their daughter at 7/8 is a forerunner to what they wear when they are making their confirmation and if you think this is mild or bothered by it then one is in for a big surprise at what girls wear for confirmation and those bodies are not “little” any more. Overall, there is a sexualization of our children and younger and younger girls are wearing skimpier clothes. One may disagree here if spaghetti straps on young girls for first communion is not in greatest tastes but if one sees nothing wrong with that and follows the culture 6 years later when they are now 13/14, then it becomes a distraction to everyone around you, especially 13/14 boys.
 
robwar said:
Well, how one dresses their daughter at 7/8 is a forerunner to what they wear when they are making their confirmation and if you think this is mild or bothered by it then one is in for a big surprise at what girls wear for confirmation and those bodies are not “little” any more. Overall, there is a sexualization of our children and younger and younger girls are wearing skimpier clothes. One may disagree here if spaghetti straps on young girls for first communion is not in greatest tastes but if one sees nothing wrong with that and follows the culture 6 years later when they are now 13/14, then it becomes a distraction to everyone around you, especially 13/14 boys.
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Have you ever seen how short little girls’ dresses were in the 40s, 50s and 60s? My mom made her first communion in 1960 and that dress was SHORT. We routinely let our toddler girls run topless at the beach. Kindergarteners flip around on the bars without a care as to whether their panties are showing… There is a level of innocence in these little ones that we need to protect, and I think that it starts with not obsessing about things like how wide a shoulder strap is. No eight-year-old looks in the mirror and contemplates the sex appeal of a shoulder. There is a time for teaching modesty, and a time for girls to carry that burden, but we also need to let them be kids and dress up and not worry too much about it until they need to. I don’t see this:
dhgate.com/beautiful-floor-length-first-communion-dress/p-ff80808136a65aef0136a667762705c2.html

As the gateway ensemble to shocking confirmation attire.
 
robwar said:
Well, how one dresses their daughter at 7/8 is a forerunner to what they wear when they are making their confirmation and if you think this is mild or bothered by it then one is in for a big surprise at what girls wear for confirmation and those bodies are not “little” any more. Overall, there is a sexualization of our children and younger and younger girls are wearing skimpier clothes. One may disagree here if spaghetti straps on young girls for first communion is not in greatest tastes but if one sees nothing wrong with that and follows the culture 6 years later when they are now 13/14, then it becomes a distraction to everyone around you, especially 13/14 boys.
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I agree that there is a sexualization of children, but I don’t thing spaghetti straps are the main cause. As a child, I wore them all the time. I had several dresses, and tops that were spaghetti straps. Now, I’m one of the modest people you will meet. I won’t even wear sleeveless shirts or dresses. My oldest nieces, are the same way. They’re 11 and 9, they used to wear them, and now they’re modest. I know several people like this. Several of my friends don’t wear them anymore, they dress more modest now. So, how you dress when your 8, doesn’t really mean anything. All depends on how you’re raised.
 
JackieMom said:
Have you ever seen how short little girls’ dresses were in the 40s, 50s and 60s? My mom made her first communion in 1960 and that dress was SHORT. We routinely let our toddler girls run topless at the beach. Kindergarteners flip around on the bars without a care as to whether their panties are showing… There is a level of innocence in these little ones that we need to protect, and I think that it starts with not obsessing about things like how wide a shoulder strap is. No eight-year-old looks in the mirror and contemplates the sex appeal of a shoulder. There is a time for teaching modesty, and a time for girls to carry that burden, but we also need to let them be kids and dress up and not worry too much about it until they need to. I don’t see this:
dhgate.com/beautiful-floor-length-first-communion-dress/p-ff80808136a65aef0136a667762705c2.html

As the gateway ensemble to shocking confirmation attire.
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JackieMom said:
Have you ever seen how short little girls’ dresses were in the 40s, 50s and 60s? My mom made her first communion in 1960 and that dress was SHORT. We routinely let our toddler girls run topless at the beach. Kindergarteners flip around on the bars without a care as to whether their panties are showing… There is a level of innocence in these little ones that we need to protect, and I think that it starts with not obsessing about things like how wide a shoulder strap is. No eight-year-old looks in the mirror and contemplates the sex appeal of a shoulder. There is a time for teaching modesty, and a time for girls to carry that burden, but we also need to let them be kids and dress up and not worry too much about it until they need to. I don’t see this:
dhgate.com/beautiful-floor-length-first-communion-dress/p-ff80808136a65aef0136a667762705c2.html

As the gateway ensemble to shocking confirmation attire.
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Really not liking that dress.

And I don’t think the OP is obsessing about the straps. Just wanted opinions. I don’t think we need to read too much into anybody not liking spaghetti straps for Church attire.

As a side note, I think I’ve mentioned before on CAF the mother that wore a strapless, sequined ballgown to my daughter’s First Communion. I thought Father was going to have a heart attack.
 
I think there needs to be the intent by the parent to want to focus on the Eucharist and the event that is taking place in their child’s life. I know local bakeries always have sign saying weddings, Christenings, First Communion because the town is a vary Catholic town, so there is a lot of those going on, any I do see some girls in spaghetti straps, and as long as the parent doesn’t make it a habit, then I think it usually turns out fine. But when it comes to confirmation there has to have been a good upbringing regarding dresses, because what girls where to Confirmation these days is just not right especially since the awareness has been there for a while. Also quit the cosmo magazines. to often I see young Women only wearing skin tight yoga pants, sneakers, and a thin shirt. No woman really looks like those on the front of Cosmo, really they don’t it’s all airbrushed, and photo-shopped, not saying you can’t look good, but it’s like they always dress to go to the gym or hit the track to work off the salad that they had an hour before.
 
It’s a great opportunity to teach girls to wear a sweater or wrap or whatever over bare shoulders for Mass.

It’s gotten so bad at Confirmation at our parish that the confirmandi wear robes. Publishing dress codes just didn’t cut it.
 
JackieMom said:
Have you ever seen how short little girls’ dresses were in the 40s, 50s and 60s? My mom made her first communion in 1960 and that dress was SHORT. We routinely let our toddler girls run topless at the beach. Kindergarteners flip around on the bars without a care as to whether their panties are showing… There is a level of innocence in these little ones that we need to protect, and I think that it starts with not obsessing about things like how wide a shoulder strap is. No eight-year-old looks in the mirror and contemplates the sex appeal of a shoulder. There is a time for teaching modesty, and a time for girls to carry that burden, but we also need to let them be kids and dress up and not worry too much about it until they need to. I don’t see this:
dhgate.com/beautiful-floor-length-first-communion-dress/p-ff80808136a65aef0136a667762705c2.html

As the gateway ensemble to shocking confirmation attire.
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That dress is adorable. Although I am sure there are people here totally scandalized by the fact that you can see the little girl’s collar bones.
 
Who cares? We are talking about 8-year-olds. It is not even clear how this is a respect issue, other than some arbitrary association with bare shoulders and disrespect. Hardly compelling.
 
MarcusAndreas said:
Why are you so fixated on how eight year old girls are dressing? Jesus is on the altar.
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Exactly. Jesus Is truly Present. This means it is not a place for spaghetti straps, shorts, Tight pants, low cut, back-less, ect. No matter what age or gender. Ultimately if Offends God. Jesus deserves our fullest respect. It makes me sad when I see this going on at mass. It is not about us and how we dress. It is about the Sacrifice Jesus makes for us. Not us. So lets Honor Him and dress our selves and kids appropriate.
 
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