Spin-off: Did you go to a "wedding" of a gay family member or friend?

[sanctamaria17]

I would go just to pray for them. Same as if a non-practicing relative married in a Protestant/civil ceremony or anything. I really think that people are on different walks in terms of spirituality and feel that it’s better to at least commit to a partner, rather than going on for years and never doing anything or going from one to the next. I think to me, it’s just a symbol that I support them through their walk in life, even if I don’t agree with the actions, simply because their actions are done out of a (misguided) love.

I would NOT go to a wedding where both cheated on their spouses and got divorced to marry each other.

But then again, I am slightly biased as my dad is not a practicing Catholic and married my mom (who was at the time Protestant, though she’s now Catholic) in her Protestant parish. They have one of the best marriages I’ve ever seen.

 

[BeauSoleil]

I would absolutely go. I would go, not because I agree with their lifestyle( I don’t) but because I love my friend (s). Jesus ate dinner with prostitutes and tax collectors. Did he agree with their lifestyle? No way. Did he show them love and kindness? Yes. I will not do any less.

 

[maggiemay2u]

I would go just to pray for them. Same as if a non-practicing relative married in a Protestant/civil ceremony or anything. I really think that people are on different walks in terms of spirituality and feel that it’s better to at least commit to a partner, rather than going on for years and never doing anything or going from one to the next. I think to me, it’s just a symbol that I support them through their walk in life, even if I don’t agree with the actions, simply because their actions are done out of a (misguided) love.

I would NOT go to a wedding where both cheated on their spouses and got divorced to marry each other.

But then again, I am slightly biased as my dad is not a practicing Catholic and married my mom (who was at the time Protestant, though she’s now Catholic) in her Protestant parish. They have one of the best marriages I’ve ever seen.

I don’t get the difference–maybe after years of unhappiness the two cheating spouses have found their “soul mate”. Wouldn’t you want to go and celebrate their walk through life together?

The abomination remains the same. Though I dearly loved my gay cousin, I would not have attended his “marriage” to another man. I know parents who allow their unmarried children to have their significant other spend the night in the same bed. The failure to confront evil is becoming the most serious problem facing the Church.

 

[sanctamaria17]

Because with cheating, the intent is to steal a spouse. With homosexual “marriage”, the intent is to commit to a life of love and is pure and innocent without an outright intent to disobey God, because they do believe that God made them that way.

 

[maggiemay2u]

Because with cheating, the intent is to steal a spouse. With homosexual “marriage”, the intent is to commit to a life of love and is pure and innocent without an outright intent to disobey God, because they do believe that God made them that way.

But isn’t the act itself inherently evil in homosexual sex? There can be no pure and innocent about it. To take marriage, a sacrament instituted by Christ, and recognized by all major religions, as solely between a man and a woman, and ape it into something that feels good, is wrong.

To say that the intent of two cheating spouses is to steal another’s’ seems a bit presumptuous. It is possible their marriages were broken from the beginning and they simply happened upon one another. In that scenario, they could repent, have their marriages annulled and become a functioning married couple in good standing.

This could never happen in the case of a homosexual union, regardless of the circumstances.

 

[hawkeye]

If not, why didn’t you go?

No, and I would never put my foot near it… why ? because it’s an abomination, apart from being totally obhorrent and disgusting, and my being there would only add credibility to it.

 

[mansr27]

There is only one real answer to this, and a lot of excuses.

You could never attend such an event.

To attend would be the equivalent of supporting it. The issue is that this involves real people. I have family members that may choose to go this route and it would be very difficult and hurtful to family to do the right thing. It is not always easy to do what is right, but it remains the right thing.

 

[nobeerinheaven]

To attend would be the equivalent of supporting it. The issue is that this involves real people. I have family members that may choose to go this route and it would be very difficult and hurtful to family to do the right thing. It is not always easy to do what is right, but it remains the right thing.

This, I think, is the bottom line. Many people think that they could go, not in support of the decision to “marry”, but in support of the people getting “married.” However, Catholics must also worry about the sin of scandal: if, by attending, you give others the impression that you support the event you are attending, and follow the example they think you set, then there is real - and grave - sin involved. We should be careful in everything we do so that people can clearly see that we stand for Christ, and his offering of redemption from the slavery of sin.

 

[a_cermak]

First of all they didn’t know what term meant (neither do I–as opposed to what-- ancient homosexuality?)

What I mean by modern homosexuality is a relationship of equals where both have made an open choice to be with each other. In the ancient world, homosexuality might be thrust upon a prisoner of war or a purchased slave.

As for homosexuality, I was given a quick primer which revealed that your views are probably that of Reform Judaism, Reconstructionist Judaism or possibly the liberal wing of Modern Orthodox. How does that fly with you?

Yes, I am a Reform Jew. Not only doesn’t my wing of Judaism not have a problem with it, but as a Reform Jew, I do not expect anyone else to follow the rules of my religion but me, nor does my religion have a concept of “condoning” as we are all on different walks with the Divine, and our own way of doing so.

 

[maggiemay2u]

What I mean by modern homosexuality is a relationship of equals where both have made an open choice to be with each other. In the ancient world, homosexuality might be thrust upon a prisoner of war or a purchased slave.

Yes, I am a Reform Jew. Not only doesn’t my wing of Judaism not have a problem with it, but as a Reform Jew, I do not expect anyone else to follow the rules of my religion but me, nor does my religion have a concept of “condoning” as we are all on different walks with the Divine, and our own way of doing so.

 

[catharina]

Nope. I know that I would never attend such a ceremony. I have a few gay friends and I know none would ever ask me to attend such an event since I could only see attendance as an offense against God and my faith.

 

[motherofsix]

OK First, I didn’t read every post, I am simply going to answer your question.

I would not go if I were invited. Not only because they shouldn’t be “married”, but because the wedding, no doubt, is not a Catholic one.

I have been taught that I can only attend Catholic weddings. Why? Because to go to another religion’s wedding is to give my approval of that religion. I do not. This is the one true Church. I recently did not attend a cousins wedding, and have been asked to me a bride’s maid in another, I will have to turn down that invitation. Sad. I know that the human side of us all would say that is doesn’t matter and family and friends come first, but, NO!

GOD is first then spouse then kids, that’s right then kids, no exceptions.