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reen12
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If the human psyche may be “pictured” as three areas,
then, basically, what we might have is
-a Parent part
-an Adult/Rational part
-a Child part
I don’t claim that this theory is, of necessity, expressive
of reality, but it is an elegant theory - in the sense that it describes
many realities, with brevity, clarity and great insight -
and this theory does not ‘dodge’ other realities, IMO.
When these three areas are nicely balanced,
[Parent, Adult/Rational, Child] all goes well in life -
no matter what adversities are encountered, on
our way back home to God.
A difficulty arises, if the three parts work not in harmony.
Take the person who is constantly in their “Parent.”
[It doens’t matter how old the person is.
You can find this “constant Parent” in a 20 year old.]
All becomes a matter of “shoulds.” The self is highly distrusted.
It is held - metaphorically, at arms length.
The Parent part, of the human psyche, holds all of the training
that one has received, while growing up.
This material is ingested - unmetabolized - from parents
and other authority figures in one’s life - as childhood,
and then the approach toward young adulthood, is traversed.
The rational skills, and the experience of adulthood, are not yet in place,
and all is taken in, uncritically, e.g.
“You should always shop at ________.”
Well, maybe you should, and maybe you shouldn’t.
Adult critique - will be brought to bear - on the injunctions received, as growing continued.
Blessed are those who find that, what they were taught, is reflective of reality.
**
A person constantly in their Parent, is oftimes a complete bore -
totally lacking in a sense of humor.
[Of course! they are. A sense of humor requires a sense of proportion.]
Having lost contact - with the playful, curious Child part, of the human psyche - a kind of dessicated, juiceless approach to life, seems to be embraced.
Any mention that - the material in Parent ought now be assessed, by Adult/Rational,
brings cries of alarm and distress - from one stuck in constant Parent.
A kind of blustering, “tut-tut” attitude, may often evince.
I think that the main characters, in Wind in the Willows, exhibit
the constant Parent, constant Adult/Rational, and constant Child.
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Badger is in constant Parent.
Ratty is in near constant Adult/Rational.
Toad is all Child - in the sense of childish, not childlike.
Toad is all appetite - and knows not the meaning of
‘delayed gratification.’ A childish mindset, to be sure.
Only Moley is well-rounded and balanced.
Moley consults his Parent, when needed. He applies
the logic of Adult/Rational thought, as called for.
He consults his own experience, for partial guidance.
And he is childlike, in his Child state. Very lovable,
is Moley.
The conclusion that I draw is this.
If one is in constant Parent - or in constant Adult
[a tedious quality, this reality] - or in constant Child,
our relationship to God may be based on same.
And a distortion of Who God is, may occur.
One in constant Parent seems to see God as soley lawgiver.
One in constant Adult/Rational, may seek to parse
the parable of the Good Samaritan - losing the
loveliness that God gave, in giving to us this beautiful parable.
Constant Adult/Rational may seek to find parallels
to this parable, in the writings of surrounding cultures.
The parable, as spoken, never seems to reach the heart.
One in constant Parent, may well be critizing the lack of
prudence displayed - by the man, set upon by thieves.
“He should have travelled with others, or taken a different route.”
Constant Parent is all ‘shoulds.’
In constant Child, [in the sense of childishness]
no patience is brought to bear - in listening to this parable.
One who is in constant Child state, may be looking
for the next exciting thing to come along - and wishes
that the story would be over, so that something
really exciting might be done.
It’s just a theory that I hold to be most useful, when
interacting with others. The moment I sense the
“tut, tut” in the air, I head for the hills - to be with
Moley, hopefully. Moley might be going out to
pick blueberries, to make jam. Badger would,
no doubt, be full of 'be careful’s," and grave thoughts
on *how *blueberries “should” be picked.
Ratty would be driving me looney, with statistics on last years crop of blueberries.
Toad woulnd’t be there, because he’d think it was too much work.Only Moley would know of the glory, in picking blueberries, in the warm sun, to make his jam.
reen12
then, basically, what we might have is
-a Parent part
-an Adult/Rational part
-a Child part
I don’t claim that this theory is, of necessity, expressive
of reality, but it is an elegant theory - in the sense that it describes
many realities, with brevity, clarity and great insight -
and this theory does not ‘dodge’ other realities, IMO.
When these three areas are nicely balanced,
[Parent, Adult/Rational, Child] all goes well in life -
no matter what adversities are encountered, on
our way back home to God.
A difficulty arises, if the three parts work not in harmony.
Take the person who is constantly in their “Parent.”
[It doens’t matter how old the person is.
You can find this “constant Parent” in a 20 year old.]
All becomes a matter of “shoulds.” The self is highly distrusted.
It is held - metaphorically, at arms length.
The Parent part, of the human psyche, holds all of the training
that one has received, while growing up.
This material is ingested - unmetabolized - from parents
and other authority figures in one’s life - as childhood,
and then the approach toward young adulthood, is traversed.
The rational skills, and the experience of adulthood, are not yet in place,
and all is taken in, uncritically, e.g.
“You should always shop at ________.”
Well, maybe you should, and maybe you shouldn’t.
Adult critique - will be brought to bear - on the injunctions received, as growing continued.
Blessed are those who find that, what they were taught, is reflective of reality.
**
A person constantly in their Parent, is oftimes a complete bore -
totally lacking in a sense of humor.
[Of course! they are. A sense of humor requires a sense of proportion.]
Having lost contact - with the playful, curious Child part, of the human psyche - a kind of dessicated, juiceless approach to life, seems to be embraced.
Any mention that - the material in Parent ought now be assessed, by Adult/Rational,
brings cries of alarm and distress - from one stuck in constant Parent.
A kind of blustering, “tut-tut” attitude, may often evince.
I think that the main characters, in Wind in the Willows, exhibit
the constant Parent, constant Adult/Rational, and constant Child.
hotmoviesale.com/dvds/24299/1/The-Wind-In-The-Willows-A-Tale-of-Two-Toads.jpg
Badger is in constant Parent.
Ratty is in near constant Adult/Rational.
Toad is all Child - in the sense of childish, not childlike.
Toad is all appetite - and knows not the meaning of
‘delayed gratification.’ A childish mindset, to be sure.
Only Moley is well-rounded and balanced.
Moley consults his Parent, when needed. He applies
the logic of Adult/Rational thought, as called for.
He consults his own experience, for partial guidance.
And he is childlike, in his Child state. Very lovable,
is Moley.
The conclusion that I draw is this.
If one is in constant Parent - or in constant Adult
[a tedious quality, this reality] - or in constant Child,
our relationship to God may be based on same.
And a distortion of Who God is, may occur.
One in constant Parent seems to see God as soley lawgiver.
One in constant Adult/Rational, may seek to parse
the parable of the Good Samaritan - losing the
loveliness that God gave, in giving to us this beautiful parable.
Constant Adult/Rational may seek to find parallels
to this parable, in the writings of surrounding cultures.
The parable, as spoken, never seems to reach the heart.
One in constant Parent, may well be critizing the lack of
prudence displayed - by the man, set upon by thieves.
“He should have travelled with others, or taken a different route.”
Constant Parent is all ‘shoulds.’
In constant Child, [in the sense of childishness]
no patience is brought to bear - in listening to this parable.
One who is in constant Child state, may be looking
for the next exciting thing to come along - and wishes
that the story would be over, so that something
really exciting might be done.
It’s just a theory that I hold to be most useful, when
interacting with others. The moment I sense the
“tut, tut” in the air, I head for the hills - to be with
Moley, hopefully. Moley might be going out to
pick blueberries, to make jam. Badger would,
no doubt, be full of 'be careful’s," and grave thoughts
on *how *blueberries “should” be picked.
Ratty would be driving me looney, with statistics on last years crop of blueberries.
Toad woulnd’t be there, because he’d think it was too much work.Only Moley would know of the glory, in picking blueberries, in the warm sun, to make his jam.
reen12