You did it again! Anyway, I’m not bothered by catholic views on my sexuality as my church is fine with it so I’m not worried about a thing.I only did those posts because I was hoping to find some Catholics who were ok with gay people.
Monster,
You may find people that accept “gay”…recognize this…Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, you probably don’t like him much either, says homosexuals can change…and to identify as “gay” is to define yourself by other than attraction, rather as a socio-political entity…
Much has been written in recent years about embracing the gay lifestyle and “coming out of the closet.” “Coming out” is said to mean throwing off the burdens of fearfulness and self-deception to embark on the road to freedom and personal integrity.
Yet there is a certain group of homosexual men who will never seek fulfillment through coming out into a gay identity. These men have chosen to grow in another direction.
The word “homosexual” names an aspect of such a man’s psychological condition. But he is not gay. “Gay” describes a contemporary socio-political identity and lifestyle which such a man will never claim. Therefore, I call him a “non-gay homosexual.”
The non-gay homosexual is a man who experiences a split between his value system and his sexual orientation. He is fundamentally identified with the heterosexual pattern of life. The non-gay homosexual feels his personal progress to be deeply encumbered and by his same-sex attractions. He usually holds conservative values, is identified with a religious tradition, and holds no deep resentments toward Judeo-Christian teachings on homosexuality. In fact he most likely finds them reinforcing and supportive of his struggle.
So, I am a one man band eager to cause those that accept the notion of “gay” to reject it in favor of heterosexual struggling with homosexual attraction.
You may or may not know about Alfred Korzybski…you may like him…he wrote a book called “Science and Sanity”…the basic tenet of the book summarized in “Manhood of Humanity” and the basis of NLP and Neurosemantics is this…
The map is not the territory
What you choose to call something is not what it is…words define what you believe it is and the map in your head is the total of your experience…
I believe that it is crucial for the public and those reading these posts, other than you to take up the charge and reject anyone wanting me or anyone to accept someone as “gay”…
I am not at all OK with “gay” people…I am on a journey to educate others including you that no one should be alright with “gay” people because this is a construct that exists only in your head…
We have men…we have women…
Some men and some women have same sex attraction…that is about the only definition I am going to accept…
Call yourself “gay” and then we have a problem…because I do not have to accept that term…in my head, in my map…and since my map is not the territory and neither is yours…I have the right to define my map…
The map is made up of Man/XY…Woman/XX…that are attracted to their own sex…beyond that calling it something else exists only in the map in your head…it is your map and not mine and I can reject this definition…
With that in mind, No…I am not OK with “gay” people…I am OK with people that tell me that they struggle with same sex attraction…that I am OK with and it fits my map and the territory…OK…:bounce: