We have been taught the difference between mortal sins and grave sins. We have been told that we need the sacrament of confession to confess our sins to Christ. We were told that we need to confess mortal sins before receiving the Eucharist.
This is all true, and I’m glad people are being taught it.
Why this would be different before we are confirmed, I don’t know - too many time constraints for him perhaps?
Confirmation is not the Eucharist. But in any case, it is possible to receive the Eucharist even in a state of mortal sin. The Eucharist does not stop being Jesus Christ just because we are in a state of mortal sin. That is why it is a sacrilege to do it.
The canon law for Confirmation says this:
"Code of Canon Law:
Can. 889 §1. Every baptized person not yet confirmed and only such a person is capable of receiving confirmation.
§2. To receive confirmation licitly outside the danger of death requires that a person who has the use of reason be suitably instructed, properly disposed, and able to renew the baptismal promises.
#1 says what is necessary for confirmation to be valid.
#2 says what is necessary for confirmation to be licit.
So you should not be confirmed if you are not in a state of grace, just like you should not receive the Eucharist if you are not in a state of grace. But you can do both. You would just need to confess it, because doing so (knowingly) is a mortal sin.
But if you think about it, it would be very difficult if this were not the case. Confirmation is like Matrimony and Holy Orders in that they all are indelible sacraments that it is possible to receive in a state of mortal sin. If that made the sacraments invalid, how would you ever know you were married? Even if you can be 100% sure that you were in a state of grace, you cannot likewise be 100% sure of your spouse.
And how could you possibly know for 100% sure that your priest was in a state of grace at his ordination? You couldn’t.
Now I am not saying that I know loads more than my fellow candidates, but I have been reading this website for a while and I know that we are not supposed to receive Communion while in a state of sin, because of that phrase somewhere in the NT which says (paraphrasing) that we would eat and drink condemnation on ourselves. Because I know this, I would be guilty of this, but I think the other candidates, if they aren’t aware of this, would not be culpable of a sin. But it says it in the Bible and that is why I have got confused over it. Our priest is otherwise ‘orthodox’ in his teaching ie not going against the Bible or Catholic traditions. So perhaps he knows of some acceptable reason for this?
There is no acceptable reason for encouraging people who are not near death to go to communion in a state of sin. OTOH, there is no requirement to receive the Eucharist at the Mass where you are confirmed. Plus, you said you were taught that you need to confess mortal sins before receiving the Eucharist. Weren’t the others in the class taught the same thing at the same time? NOBODY should be confirmed without knowing this. Your priest is not orthodox if he is considering confirming non-infants who don’t know this.
What is a bit trickier and perhaps less well-known (because it comes up much less often), is that it is a mortal sin to receive any of the “sacraments of the living” (Confirmation, Holy Eucharist, Anointing of the Sick, Holy Orders, and Matrimony) in a state of mortal sin. It’s clearer in the old baltimore catechism:
Baltimore Catechism #312:
What sin does one commit who knowingly receives a sacrament of the living in mortal sin?
He who knowingly receives a sacrament of the living in mortal sin commits a mortal sin of sacrilege, because he treats a sacred thing with grave irreverence.
So, it is a mortal sin to receive Confirmation in a state of mortal sin, but it does not make the sacrament invalid.
You have the right to receive the sacrament of Confirmation licitly. You can insist on beng allowed to go to Confession first. Keep in mind that going to Confession is different from going to a counselling session or receiving spiritual direction. There are many online and published aids to examination of conscience. Use those for preparation for your first confession, so that it doesn’t take up much time, and let the priest do whatever counselling or help he likes after the sacraments, for your second confession.
–Jen