Spouse as Best Friend?

[EasterJoy]

No, I didn’t meant they still have that authority…Not in the same way. But perhaps this is somewhat cultural…I tend to be “old-school” about social roles. The parent being older is always going to have more experience to draw from, more guidance to offer, more wisdom to share. As the child grows into an adult, of course the role of the parent shifts to more of a coach/mentor, and less of a benevolent dictator.

I can see how a now-grown child would say that his/her parent is “my best friend,” but what does the parent get out of that imbalanced relationship?

I don’t know, the whole idea of referring to these social roles, either spouse or parent, as a “best friend” just doesn’t sit right with me. I’m probably not explaining it well, but it’s something I can’t do. I don’t even have a “best friend” right now. I have a lot of friends, and a husband I love and respect, and kids I am growing to appreciate more as they become adult men, but “best friends” seems rather juvenile to me.

Maybe I’m just an old fart.



You kids get off my lawn!

I think sometimes a chip off the old block is easier to relate to than the rest of the world!

Still, I know what you mean. I don’t think this actually happens very often, and it is nothing that is reached by striving for it. In fact, I think a lot of damage would be done by striving for it! It is more like the parent and adult child look around and say, “you know, I don’t have a friend better than my dad/son. He gets me. It’s been a nice suprise.”

Spouses who are best friends are more common, and even that is something that is not some sort of a necessity.

 

[ErinTherese25]

My husband is my best friend in the sense that we tell each other everything, enjoy each other’s company, and are closer to each other than anyone else. So yes, he is my best friend! But I also have “best” female friends that I spend time with.

 

[runningdude]

from the original article posted:

Officials said there isn’t an absolute ban on the items, in that they do get included on some exams on a case-by-case basis.

“The intent is to avoid giving offense or disadvantage any test takers by privileging prior knowledge,” said Robert Pondiscio, a spokesman for the Core Knowledge Foundation, an education group.

Read more: nypost.com/p/news/local/out_of_the_question_YegJJGCOo33j0CQsccdZuL#ixzz1qVvvNcs8

Even by the city’s own admission, this is just a small effort to keep off topic material off exams. Keep in mind that New York City has 6-12 million people, and every time a slightly controversial topic is mentioned, the school board probably receives dozens or even hundreds of complaints.

It would be a gross example of bureaucratic indifference for school officials to ignore a fairly reasonable request from their constituents to include only material directly relevant to the subject tested.

 

[TheRealJuliane]

Even by the city’s own admission, this is just a small effort to keep off topic material off exams. Keep in mind that New York City has 6-12 million people, and every time a slightly controversial topic is mentioned, the school board probably receives dozens or even hundreds of complaints.

It would be a gross example of bureaucratic indifference for school officials to ignore a fairly reasonable request from their constituents to include only material directly relevant to the subject tested.

Wrong thread perhaps?

 

[runningdude]

Wrong thread perhaps?

Oh my! Yes indeed

 

[Lovemyfaith]

Being my husband’s wife trumps any other friendship. It includes all the niceties of friendship (other than shopping) but is so much deeper than all the others. How could I not give him the term “best”?
The funny thing is, yesterday I told my daughters, “I am not your friend, I am your mom and that is so much better than any friend could every be to you”. I love hanging around with my daughters, and talking to them and just about every other thing that a person would enjoy with a friend, but being mom to them trumps any friendship.

 

[TheRealJuliane]

Being my husband’s wife trumps any other friendship. It includes all the niceties of friendship (other than shopping) but is so much deeper than all the others. How could I not give him the term “best”?
The funny thing is, yesterday I told my daughters, “I am not your friend, I am your mom and that is so much better than any friend could every be to you”. I love hanging around with my daughters, and talking to them and just about every other thing that a person would enjoy with a friend, but being mom to them trumps any friendship.

:yup::clapping:

Thanks for saying it more succinctly that I could!

 

[SurlyMermaid]

Being my husband’s wife trumps any other friendship. It includes all the niceties of friendship (other than shopping) but is so much deeper than all the others. How could I not give him the term “best”?
The funny thing is, yesterday I told my daughters, “I am not your friend, I am your mom and that is so much better than any friend could every be to you”. I love hanging around with my daughters, and talking to them and just about every other thing that a person would enjoy with a friend, but being mom to them trumps any friendship.

Nice!!! :hug1:

 

[SummerSmiles]

Being my husband’s wife trumps any other friendship. It includes all the niceties of friendship (other than shopping) but is so much deeper than all the others. How could I not give him the term “best”?
The funny thing is, yesterday I told my daughters, “I am not your friend, I am your mom and that is so much better than any friend could every be to you”. I love hanging around with my daughters, and talking to them and just about every other thing that a person would enjoy with a friend, but being mom to them trumps any friendship.

Exactly!