Thanks. I realise that now. I didn’t when they first suggested it. Forgive me for my stupidity. Not all the angles were clear then.
Well… there are no flights avaliable. And, we’re not going to go. This is probably the thoughest desicion we’ve ever made… but we don’t want to set an example for any other young Catholic couple (or Christian, or whatever) who want to remain pure, and might not be as blessed with the grace to remain pure as we have been. We don’t want to make our siblings think they can do the same thing, or our possible future children.
I’ve already received some opposition from my friends, who think it’s silly to throw away a free trip when they all know we’d be fine, temptation-wise, for complete strangers who might think we’re having sex, or for others who might follow our example… but I feel a strange sense of peace about the whole thing. I think it is the right desicion. We’re not doing it out of fear for ourselves, but to try and protect others.
However, we will take the original suggestion of his parents: we’ll offer the trip to them, and they will give us free airfare and accomadations someday, when we can enjoy the trip properly(read: married (which is a very strong posibility for us, believe me!)) so that would essentially be a free honeymoon for us someday.So we’ll get to go to Florida eventually… just not in 2 weeks… sighs
I think you made a great decision and the fact that you feel so much peace about it confirms this 
. The sacrifices you make now for eachother’s best interests and purity will bring a lot of graces into the marriage, should you decide to get married, or even in future relationships if that is the case. Plus, you are an example, not just to strangers, but to your friends and family and who knows who else will be affected by this. Also, should future children come along and request the same, you can say that you and your husband were in a similiar situation and opted for not going and it was a decision that affected the rest of your lives 
. I give you a lot of credit for standing up and doing what’s right together, even when most would think you were silly for doing so. God bless!Oh, man … I DREAD my children ever asking me about my own life before marriage. What a scary thought. I think I’ll just keep it, “We’re not here to talk about me, we’re here to talk about you!”
Me too…I like your anticipated response though
. When I was teenager, I REALLY wanted to be able to wear a two-piece bathing suit and my mom flat out said “no” every time. Well, one day while looking at photo albums, I came upon pictures of my mom in her late teens/early twenties wearing bikinis!!! 
And what I was asking for wasn’t nearly that immodest! When I brought this up, she stopped me mid-sentence and, with a look that could kill that stopped me dead in my tracks, said, “Don’t even go there. That was BEFORE I knew what immodesty did to guys.” End of story. I wasn’t allowed to ever bring it up again, and I didn’t. And then I rebelled behind her back, but only for a little while before realizing myself what modesty was all about.