Dear Dave and Friends,
Continuing with teachings from St. Therese which she seems to have learned from the Imitation.
Chapter 16, Of Bearing Other Men’s Faults: Such faults as we cannot amend in ourselves or in others, we must patiently suffer until our Lord of His goodness will dispose otherwise. And we shall think that perhaps it is best for the testing of our patience, without which our merits
are but little to be considered.
If all men were perfect, what would we then have to put up with in our neighbors, for God’s sake? Therefore, God has so ordained that each one of us shall learn to bear another’s burden, for in this world, no man is without fault.
St. Therese’s words from
The Trial of Faith, pg. 220:
I understood how imperfect was my love for my Sisters. I saw I didn’t love them as God loves them. Ah! I understand now that charity consists in bearing with the faults of others
, in not being surprised at their weakness, in being edified by the smallest acts of virtue we see them practice.
Some examples of her living out everything she taught are found throughout:
- pg. 222 with a disagreeable Sister whom she convinced that this Sister’s character was very pleasing to Therese, despite our saint’s constant struggle to overcome her natural antipathy.
- pg. 247 with Sister St. Pierre who was rather contrary and exacting in the services she desired from Therese.
- pg. 249 with the Sister who made a strange noise resembling the rubbing of two shells against each other and grated terribly on Therese’s nerves.
- pg. 250 with the Sister who threw dirty water in her face in the laundry room.
I have been struggling with this lately, for my neighbor’s dog barks incessantly, and it has become a real difficult matter for me to bear. At bedtime, I even insert ear plugs to be able to sleep. As I consider
bearing with my neighbor’s faults and weigh Therese’s advice, I see how far short I am of her virtue. I am almost ready to check into ordinances of our borough with respect to noise pollution, and filing a complaint.
As we read the Imitation where it says that these things are for the testing of our patience, and for obtaining merits, I can see the motivation in St. Therese. Her whole purpose in Carmel was to be a victim of love for God, to win for His children the graces they need. These “bearing” opportunities were occasions of meriting graces for others, and she was eager to bear them both as a means to conquer herself and to please our Lord.
My concern is that some who are reading this thread might think that her doctrine consists in becoming a doormat ready to absorb all the nasty things humanity wants to dump on us. Not so - we have to understand her in this light, I believe. She herself was quite ready to correct and admonish those in her charge; in fact, they found her to be rather severe at times.
http://forum.catholic.com/images/smilies/ani/love.gif Carole