Stagnant Existence

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I’m not quite religious, but I’m looking to anyone for help

It’s difficult finding self-confidence these days. Most ppl have families or groups that reciprocate unconditional support no matter the ups or downs, but I don’t have that at all.

I’m in grad school and have managed no friends. My childhood friends make me feel uneasy. I do my best to support their lives and progression, but I think they take offense to it and now rally around that. They never show support for me. I’m not trying to depict me as a martyr…i’m sure I’ve done something they don’t like but they don’t tell me so that I can fix it or explain my intentions

I have a father that constantly embellishes my achievements, which makes me feel inadequate even though I don’t even want his approval. The man has kicked me in the teeth when I was 14 so hard that he knocked 3 braces lose and broke skin only to apologize a few hours later. Then I pushed him down for a heightened situation that involved me pushing him down to which his response was “our relationship will never be the same”.

We’ve talked and I’ve told him that lately I’ve been really depressed, and all he could do was question how that could be. After that he never brought it up even to help

My mother also doesn’t contact me but I think it’s b/c she thinks she’s bothersome or she doesn’t want my dad thinking she’s taking sides. Either way, there exists no support network for me. No positive reinforcement. Just…void

So I ask: Could someone please pray for me. I’m out of options, I’ve seen a shrink, and we’re discussing medications. I hate medications but with no support or anyone I trust enough to talk to…i dunno what else to do. Please pray for me if you have the time
 
Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be
done, on earth as it is in heaven Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our
trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation
but deliver us from evil. Amen

Hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with thee
blessed art thou among women and
blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus
Holy Mary mother of God pray for us
sinners now and at the hour of our death
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end Amen
 
dentistk said:
I’m not quite religious, but I’m looking to anyone for help

It’s difficult finding self-confidence these days. Most ppl have families or groups that reciprocate unconditional support no matter the ups or downs, but I don’t have that at all.

I’m in grad school and have managed no friends. My childhood friends make me feel uneasy. I do my best to support their lives and progression, but I think they take offense to it and now rally around that. They never show support for me. I’m not trying to depict me as a martyr…i’m sure I’ve done something they don’t like but they don’t tell me so that I can fix it or explain my intentions

I have a father that constantly embellishes my achievements, which makes me feel inadequate even though I don’t even want his approval. The man has kicked me in the teeth when I was 14 so hard that he knocked 3 braces lose and broke skin only to apologize a few hours later. Then I pushed him down for a heightened situation that involved me pushing him down to which his response was “our relationship will never be the same”.

We’ve talked and I’ve told him that lately I’ve been really depressed, and all he could do was question how that could be. After that he never brought it up even to help

My mother also doesn’t contact me but I think it’s b/c she thinks she’s bothersome or she doesn’t want my dad thinking she’s taking sides. Either way, there exists no support network for me. No positive reinforcement. Just…void

So I ask: Could someone please pray for me. I’m out of options, I’ve seen a shrink, and we’re discussing medications. I hate medications but with no support or anyone I trust enough to talk to…i dunno what else to do. Please pray for me if you have the time
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Get your spiritual life in order first and get involved in a parish or the Neuman Center if you have one. Make your relationship with God your center of your life. You can’t expect to have good human relationships if you aren’t centered on that. 🤷
 
May God bless you and heal you in mind, body and spirit. May He grant you the graces you need, strengthen and comfort you, and lead you to friends, loved ones and colleagues who can be a source of constant support and comfort to you…
 
dentistk said:
I’m not quite religious, but I’m looking to anyone for help

It’s difficult finding self-confidence these days. Most ppl have families or groups that reciprocate unconditional support no matter the ups or downs, but I don’t have that at all.

I’m in grad school and have managed no friends. My childhood friends make me feel uneasy. I do my best to support their lives and progression, but I think they take offense to it and now rally around that. They never show support for me. I’m not trying to depict me as a martyr…i’m sure I’ve done something they don’t like but they don’t tell me so that I can fix it or explain my intentions

I have a father that constantly embellishes my achievements, which makes me feel inadequate even though I don’t even want his approval. The man has kicked me in the teeth when I was 14 so hard that he knocked 3 braces lose and broke skin only to apologize a few hours later. Then I pushed him down for a heightened situation that involved me pushing him down to which his response was “our relationship will never be the same”.

We’ve talked and I’ve told him that lately I’ve been really depressed, and all he could do was question how that could be. After that he never brought it up even to help

My mother also doesn’t contact me but I think it’s b/c she thinks she’s bothersome or she doesn’t want my dad thinking she’s taking sides. Either way, there exists no support network for me. No positive reinforcement. Just…void

So I ask: Could someone please pray for me. I’m out of options, I’ve seen a shrink, and we’re discussing medications. I hate medications but with no support or anyone I trust enough to talk to…i dunno what else to do. Please pray for me if you have the time
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I live a life very similar to yours so I understand how you feel. I will include you in my prayers today.

Take care,
Martina
 
Linusthe2nd said:
Get your spiritual life in order first and get involved in a parish or the Neuman Center if you have one. Make your relationship with God your center of your life. You can’t expect to have good human relationships if you aren’t centered on that. 🤷
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Great advice. 👍

dentistk,
First of all…Welcome to the Boards. We are praying for you and will help in whatever small way we can.
The advice given above by Linus is the best.
I know it is difficult to get “motivated” and “involved” when one is feeling depressed…but truly it is the best therapy in the world.

The thing with your parents will likely take a lot of time to sort out. Best to just set it aside for now. Same with your “childhood friends”. Accept that everyone is growing up and moving on…that’s the way it is with friends…our paths come together for a while and then diverge…

Talking to a priest and getting ideas on places to become involved might be a good start…I don’t know much about the Neuman centers but I’ve heard much good things.

But the bottom line to remember is this…God Loves you and so do we…

Peace
James
 
You are in my prayers but I second those who urge you to spend time nurturing your spiritual life. God will take care of you, you just have to let Him in. Try whatever resource you have nearby, Church groups, Nueman Center, neighbors, and ask God to lead you to a place of peace and contentment. We are praying for you, believe in that. God bless you.
 
Praying my heart out for you to find happiness and peace of mind.
 
Mother Mary, I commend Dentistk to you. Please help him to love Our Lord with all his heart, mind, soul and strength and help him to seek first God’s kingdom and His justice. May he find comfort, strength, healing and transformation by means of the faithful recitation of the most holy Rosary. May his love and devotion towards you grow and may the graces he receives from you help him carry his cross courageously, patienlty and lovingly. Amen.
 
martinah said:
I live a life very similar to yours so I understand how you feel. I will include you in my prayers today.

Take care,
Martina
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Martina, it’s unfortunate that another knows this particular solitude (solitude for me at least). It would be nice to talk about it if you ever have the time. I promise I’ll try to keep from bogarting the convo :-p

As for letting god in…Idk if that is what I’m doing, but I’m hoping to john a Children’s Hospital to volunteer. I hope that maybe by surrounding myself with other like-minded ppl I can finally find a social group of support. I hope it works
 
May God help you - and may you go to Him for help.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is
the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
Lord please hear our prayers for our friend dentistk.Please grant comfort and strength and guidance to our friend who is so sad and hurting.Lord in Your mercy hear our prayers Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
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