But you did. In your very first post. . . . I didn’t lay into you… in fact, I gave you the advice I was given BY A PRIEST to deal with this very same issue. . . .
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lwest
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Can you please copy and paste my quote where I said, “Hey, bluerose…what is your opinion of how I handled this?” I don’t remember typing any such thing. I shared that story in response to the original poster’s question. That is all. . . . And…priest’s advice isn’t infallible. I had a priest tell me once that confession was nice but not necessary. Another priest told me that no one who has a dog in the house will ever get into heaven. I could go on but you get the point.
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Socrates92
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We’ll never know. Impossible to know what kind of seeds you’ll sow. The positive effects could be years down the road, long after the initial angry reaction has cooled.So what did you accomplish? Your friend knew they were wrong without you saying anything. And now you are no longer friends. Did saying something make things better…
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Socrates92
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Possible. Maybe for those that enjoy it. I don’t get the impression the OP’s in that category. It actually seems like the admonishing itself might fall under the category of penance for him, from reading the first post.I bet if people had to do a week of penance and admonish themselves for 2 or 3 things before they admonished someone else, the frequency of admonishment would sharply decline
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Bluebright
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I understand how you feel. I also feel God is calling me to counsel my friends on something sometimes. It can be a persons calling and it’s a work of mercy to do it. It’s hard to say if it’s a sin or not since you dont say what it is, but since you are trying to do it and gearing yourself up for it not running the other way it doesn’t seem to be to me. I recently asked my priest advice in confession on how to advise an acquaintance to stop taking the Lord’s name in vain. This person is older than me and a good catholic. I knew that she’d want the help since she generally seeks to improve herself. My problem is I’m inclined to an old habit of shyness and worrying what people will think of me (why I brought it up in confession) . Anyway the priest suggested using humour and being a bit more lighthearted with her (since I find her intimidating) and to just do my best. I think that last bit helped me the most cos I’m such as serious type I was so worried about doing it, it ended up being ok. I just did my best- she hadn’t realised at all. I taught her some little prayers to say and hopefully she’ll master it. I will pray for her too.
Other times I have gone to my priests out of confession too and they are really helpful with advice on how to approach these situations. I add something I have discovered, it is often useful to ask a question rather than to tell someone to do something, it is often better received. Especially if the person is your superior. Also as St Paul says in Galatians 6… do it with the spirit of gentleness…God bless you in this
Other times I have gone to my priests out of confession too and they are really helpful with advice on how to approach these situations. I add something I have discovered, it is often useful to ask a question rather than to tell someone to do something, it is often better received. Especially if the person is your superior. Also as St Paul says in Galatians 6… do it with the spirit of gentleness…God bless you in this
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Tis_Bearself
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My comment wasn’t really directed towards the OP. There are other people on this thread and on the forum in general who seem to feel “called” to admonish quite a bit.Possible. Maybe for those that enjoy it. I don’t get the impression the OP’s in that category. It actually seems like the admonishing itself might fall under the category of penance for him, from reading the first post.
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I personally find this confusing to be honest. On the one hand you’re right it is a spiritual work of mercy but not sure if that’s meant for the Church as a community or individuals. Also Jesus said take the plank out of our eyes first. You appear to have good intentions towards your friend, I know as fact many people are clueless when committing grave sins because I used to and had no idea and you probably just want to help her. I wish my teens had friends who had those concerns over their spiritual well-being just as much as trying to protect them from physical harm and I wish they themselves worried more over their own souls. You don’t say if you always feel the need to correct or if this is a rare nudge that you can’t shake off, hope by now you’ve spoken to a priest in more detail. I’d like to know his thoughts too, if you’re willing to share and if it’s permitted, so I can learn more too. Thanks
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