Staying with my girlfriend when visiting

[BrokenFortress]

I don’t know, I really don’t think it’s wrong, but I was and still am in the same position. My fiancee and I have dated for near 5 years. 3 of those have been long distance, ranging from 2 hours to now 4 hours apart.

Yes, there is the near occasion of sin, but I do think that if both of you have made a commitment to remaining chaste and are of a strong faith, you can make it work, and not fall into temptation.

There are times when it just isn’t practical to drive back home. For instance, where we lived, it was all country roads and it was in a deer filled area. It can get hazardous driving home at night. Also, it gets more expensive on gas if you go back and forth over the weekend.

I’m just coming from my point of view. Both my fiancee and I are very devout, traditional Catholics. We’ve been together for 5 years and haven’t fallen into temptation, so it can work. You just have to know your relationship with your significant other and God I think.

 

[Sierrah]

There’s nothing wrong with it if you’re not having sex.

I personally don’t buy the “scandal” argument. If you go down that path you might as well say that it is scandalous to watch a movie in the same apartment, because after all someone, somewhere, might think you’re having sex.

If you’re in a relationship nowadays, most people will assume you are having sex regardless of where you are sleeping. That however is not for you to worry about, what matters is that you aren’t having sex.

I agree with that. Though I would be uncomfortable with spending the night at a guys house regardless of what we were doing or not doing. I don’t pander to the occassion of sin theory. I think as others have stated that GOD knows the heart. So if you feel that you can do such a thing without being tempted why not. For me it wouldn’t be so easy not to be tempted.