Sticky wedding situation

[MacQ]

This is about protecting a young child from potentially having her faith shattered by a “minister” a wedding she is apart.

“Whoever should lead these little one’s astray, it would be better had he never been born at all”.

This isn’t the only or last time the child will confront this sort of thing.
Having her faith “shattered”… Really?
This is where the parent’s job is to talk thru it with the kid after the fact. IF anything happened, and IF the kid is upset.
A teachable moment.

 

[MacQ]

Unlike the hundreds of weddings everyday, where mother-in-laws don’t warn attendees that the pastor might make provocative statements, this wedding has such a warning. It is anomalous, and should be considered very carefully.

How do you know mother in law isn’t just being a bit overboard in her solicitiousness, She wouldn’t be the first to rile people up for no reason and set people obsessing on something that probably won’t even happen.

 

[MacQ]

I would be prepared to talk to your children after the wedding if the pastor actually says something anti-Catholic. Use it as a teaching tool as they will eventually hear it at some point in their lives.I certainly wouldn’t disrupt the wedding.

When I first meet my husbands mother, who was a strict Southern Baptist, I did my very best to charm her before I told her I was Catholic. She found it very hard to think negatively of me after that.Go, be the kind, loving, friendly Catholic that I am sure you are and put the pastor to shame. Many of the non-Catholics there may have never meet a Catholic in person. When my husband and I got married, in a Catholic Church, all of his non-Catholic friends learn a lot of good things about Catholics.

:clapping:
YES!
Well done.

 

[underacloud]

I would take the warning to mean that the pastor’s idea of marriage, and presentation of it, will be quite different to that of a Catholic understanding of marriage. That’s understandable and you can use it as an opportunity to discuss these issues with your children.

As others have said, it is (almost) beyond serious consideration that he will use this wedding (a happy, festive occasion) as an opportunity to attack the Catholic faith.

If…and IMO it’s a big IF…he does attack the Catholic faith, I’d take this as the right context to turn the other cheek, for the sake of the couple getting married. You can always discuss what is said with your daughter later, and even voice your discontent to the pastor himself later, but the wedding ceremony is not the time to make a scene (unless the most outrageous things are said).

 

[runningdude]

How do you know mother in law isn’t just being a bit overboard in her solicitiousness, She wouldn’t be the first to rile people up for no reason and set people obsessing on something that probably won’t even happen.

Again. Hundreds of weddings without a meddlesome mother-in-law. To assume malice on the mother-in-law is your issue.

 

[runningdude]

This isn’t the only or last time the child will confront this sort of thing.
Having her faith “shattered”… Really?
This is where the parent’s job is to talk thru it with the kid after the fact. IF anything happened, and IF the kid is upset.
A teachable moment.

As I already said, the most important thing a parent can do is protect her child’s faith. This is mandated from Christ himself. There is no reason to knowingly place a child in an emotionally charged situation where they were warned that the minister may denigrate the child’s faith.

 

[MacQ]

Again. Hundreds of weddings without a meddlesome mother-in-law. To assume malice on the mother-in-law is your issue.

Not sure how many “hundreds of weddings” you’ve been an insider on where you found no anxious mothers in law.
Where were you, Mars?