STILL can't pick a confirmation saint

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I have been trying to choose a patron saint for confirmation for something like seven months now and for whatever reason, I just feel stuck. It seems that I don’t relate well to any of them and whenever I set my mind to finding one, I end up feeling frustrated and lonely. (Pretty much the way I feel when trying to make friends here on earth. :rolleyes:) I think this attempt to pick a saint is actually bringing up my lifetime of frustrations feeling alone and different.

Any guidance …? Am I just overthinking it? It’s just that, without overthinking it, I have no idea how to choose. Should I just pull names out of a hat?

I’ve heard the whole “the saint chooses you” story but I’m pretty doubtful of that at this point. Or maybe the saint that chose me is just being very, very, very quiet.
 
Hi Student

I think you are overthinking it! i would say since you don’t feel pulled to any particular saint just go with instinct. Just pick whatever comes to your head first and stick with that decision. After you become confirmed you can study that saint more and you will see you become closer and closer to him/her.

When i was nearing my confirmation I was also very undecided as to what saint i should pick. I knew the lives of a couple of saints pretty closely but didn’t feel like I should choose either. I had also had a devotion to one of them for a number of years but for some reason didn’t feel inclined to pick him. At the end I went with a saint that I knew little about that just came out of nowhere. After the confirmation I asked myself why in the world I had picked her!

As time passes though i’ve become closer and closer to her and really feel like she’s helping me. As I learned about her I realized her virtues were my biggest weaknesses! As you can tell she probably picked me like you’ve been told. Don’t stress so much about this. Just because you pick one saint doesn’t mean you can’t be friends with a lot of other ones.

Good luck and welcome to the church
 
This is how I went about it, as I too was torn.

Google “Catholic Saint Quotes”

Surf those, read as many as you can. When you find a quote that grabs you, read about that Saint.

I picked Saint Augustine of Hippo. It was as simple as reading a quote by him that translates as “Lord, make me chaste, but not yet.”

I thought, hey if he really said something like that, I can relate to him. From there I read a variety of his work and (after waffling between him and St. Paul for awhile) that both from a philosophical view and from a practical view, I related to him the best.

Good luck!
 
glenconnor said:
Google “Catholic Saint Quotes”

Surf those, read as many as you can. When you find a quote that grabs you, read about that Saint.

I picked Saint Augustine of Hippo. It was as simple as reading a quote by him that translates as “Lord, make me chaste, but not yet.”

I thought, hey if he really said something like that, I can relate to him. From there I read a variety of his work and (after waffling between him and St. Paul for awhile) that both from a philosophical view and from a practical view, I related to him the best.
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But that’s the problem, I have done this over and over and read books by numerous saints and I can’t choose.
 
Pray and ask God to choose one for you. In fact, pray to the saints and ask one of them if they would like to be your patron. I’m sure one of them will step forward.
 
Student09 said:
But that’s the problem, I have done this over and over and read books by numerous saints and I can’t choose.
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I could not choose either. My Confirmation name is Patience. 😃

I told Father that I was having a hard time deciding and he asked me if I had anything in my life that I thought I needed help with, and I laughed and said PATIENCE!!! Because I have none!!! LOL

He said that is a perfect Confirmation name, it reminds me of a virtue I need to always work toward. It has been a blessing to me and a constant reminder.

~Liza
 
Student09 said:
But that’s the problem, I have done this over and over and read books by numerous saints and I can’t choose.
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You could always choose a Saint name which is shared by a beloved relative or a friend.\

I considered John, in memory of my Grandfather, for some time.
 
Pick your top five favorite saints and pray to each of them for a few days for guidence. One of them will pick you!
 
Student09 said:
I have been trying to choose a patron saint for confirmation for something like seven months now and for whatever reason, I just feel stuck. It seems that I don’t relate well to any of them and whenever I set my mind to finding one, I end up feeling frustrated and lonely. (Pretty much the way I feel when trying to make friends here on earth. :rolleyes:) I think this attempt to pick a saint is actually bringing up my lifetime of frustrations feeling alone and different.
Any guidance …? Am I just overthinking it? It’s just that, without overthinking it, I have no idea how to choose. Should I just pull names out of a hat?
I’ve heard the whole “the saint chooses you” story but I’m pretty doubtful of that at this point. Or maybe the saint that chose me is just being very, very, very quiet.
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I think he has already picked you- by the very words of your post above - kinda obvious to me - St Thomas, the apostle!👍
 
Student09 said:
I have been trying to choose a patron saint for confirmation for something like seven months now and for whatever reason, I just feel stuck. .
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you don’t have to choose a new saint for confirmation. my advice is to learn all you can about your baptismal name saint and start there.
 
puzzleannie said:
you don’t have to choose a new saint for confirmation. my advice is to learn all you can about your baptismal name saint and start there.
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And if one’s baptismal name is something like Tiffany or Dakota, what then? Perhaps this person has never been baptized?

~Liza
 
lizaanne said:
And if one’s baptismal name is something like Tiffany or Dakota, what then? Perhaps this person has never been baptized?

~Liza
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That’s correct, I have never been baptized so I guess this will also be my baptismal name. I’m thinking of maybe St. Edith Stein … since she was also an adult convert and studied philosophy/theology. She was apparently also a very kind and selfless person, which I need to work at. I need to just pick her and stop changing my mind.
 
garyr said:
I think he has already picked you- by the very words of your post above - kinda obvious to me - St Thomas, the apostle!👍
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Lol, I don’t know where you got that from …! Just not seeing it, sorry. Especially b/c I’m a girl. :o
 
Student09 said:
I have been trying to choose a patron saint for confirmation for something like seven months now and for whatever reason, I just feel stuck. It seems that I don’t relate well to any of them and whenever I set my mind to finding one, I end up feeling frustrated and lonely. (Pretty much the way I feel when trying to make friends here on earth. :rolleyes:) I think this attempt to pick a saint is actually bringing up my lifetime of frustrations feeling alone and different.

Any guidance …? Am I just overthinking it? It’s just that, without overthinking it, I have no idea how to choose. Should I just pull names out of a hat?

I’ve heard the whole “the saint chooses you” story but I’m pretty doubtful of that at this point. Or maybe the saint that chose me is just being very, very, very quiet.
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what are your attractions spiritually? and are you a guy or gal?

I had trouble…and took the unusual route of a double name as my confirmation name…i figured if the Pope could be John Paul …I could make a double name…🙂 and the bishop used it.
 
‘Come, Holy Spirit. Spirit of truth, you are the reward of the saints, the comforter of souls, light in the darkness, riches to the poor, treasure to lovers, food for the hungry, comfort to those who are wandering; to sum up, you are the one in whom all treasures are contained. Come! As you descended upon Mary that the Word might become flesh, work in us through grace as you worked in her through nature and grace. Come! Food of every chaste thought, fountain of all mercy, sum of all purity. Come! Consume in us whatever prevents us from being consumed in you.’

St. Mary Magdalen de Pazzi

Pray and seek, without worry, prudently. 🙂
 
What if one’s name comes from the word ‘Christ Kingdom’.My name is Chris Dom,minus the ‘t’ and ‘King’.Im getting confirmed too soon,maybe the end of lent,and I’ve been trying too find a saint name to use.I’ve been looking at St Gerard of Majella,but then Im in doubt.🤷
 
Student09 said:
garyr;6385916:
I think he has already picked you- by the very words of your post above - kinda obvious to me - St Thomas, the apostle!👍
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Lol, I don’t know where you got that from …! Just not seeing it, sorry. Especially b/c I’m a girl. :o
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Confusion / Doubt (reason for your post) = Doubting Thomas (the apostle) - never heard that one??

Your original post & alias = 0 information about gender . . . . 😊
 
puzzleannie said:
you don’t have to choose a new saint for confirmation. my advice is to learn all you can about your baptismal name saint and start there.
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I agree. My daughter chose her baptismal name, Theresa. Confirmation really is an affirmation and sealing of one’s baptism so why not choose your own name.
 
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