STILL can't pick a confirmation saint

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I have been trying to choose a patron saint for confirmation for something like seven months now and for whatever reason, I just feel stuck. It seems that I don’t relate well to any of them and whenever I set my mind to finding one, I end up feeling frustrated and lonely. (Pretty much the way I feel when trying to make friends here on earth. ) I think this attempt to pick a saint is actually bringing up my lifetime of frustrations feeling alone and different.

Any guidance …? Am I just overthinking it? It’s just that, without overthinking it, I have no idea how to choose. Should I just pull names out of a hat?

I’ve heard the whole “the saint chooses you” story but I’m pretty doubtful of that at this point. Or maybe the saint that chose me is just being very, very, very quiet.

The short answer is yes, you are way over thinking the issue. One is not required to choose a confirmation saint; it is recommended but not required. If you ahve a name which is also a saint’s name, you can take that; if you have secular names, then choosing something like Patience works just fine. I have worked in RCIA and seen this issue come up repeatedly. It is a non-issue, until you make it into an issue. Focus on your faith journey; where you are coming from, where you are going and why you are going there as that is far, far more important than picking the “right” saint.