blackforest
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Sexual orientation is not a choice.
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normdplume
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Define weakness, Nelka. Having SSA is not a choice. It’s a cross I’ve borne since grade two, long before I knew what being gay meant.
DominusEmpyreus, there’s some good advice among the posts above. Try some of them. Each person is different. What works for one doesn’t work for all. If all else fails, go for a long walk outdoors while listening to music you find uplifting. Better yet, a run followed by a cold shower. Being outdoors will keep you from doing anything you’ll have to confess about later.
Your priest has almost certainly counseled other people in regard to this. A psychologist or psychiatrist recommended by your priest may also be able to help.
DominusEmpyreus, there’s some good advice among the posts above. Try some of them. Each person is different. What works for one doesn’t work for all. If all else fails, go for a long walk outdoors while listening to music you find uplifting. Better yet, a run followed by a cold shower. Being outdoors will keep you from doing anything you’ll have to confess about later.
Your priest has almost certainly counseled other people in regard to this. A psychologist or psychiatrist recommended by your priest may also be able to help.
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glorybe
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Neither is cancer. Does God give people cancer?
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normdplume
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Some forms of cancer have been proven to be genetic.
blackforest
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Sexual orientation isn’t a disease, either.
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glorybe
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But they both come with struggles. Most things in life come with struggles and when you look at life in the eternal sense, rather than the now sense, I think what God is interested in seeing is how we deal with these struggles. I’ve never seen anyone, ever, ask “why doesn’t God want single persons to be happy?” Yet there are a lot of the same struggles involved with being single.
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glorybe
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So are you suggesting that “some forms of” homosexuality have been proven to be genetic? But wait, we aren’t even talking about being gay, we’re talking about sinning or not sinning, according to the Catholic Church and this is a Catholic website.
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Thorolfr
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The OP did ask, “Did God make me gay???”, so it seems that we are also talking about being gay and whether God makes some of us that way.
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normdplume
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If your talking about sinning or not, I have no problem with that statement. But, if you’re saying same sex attraction is a choice, then I’m living proof that it’s not. I am not attracted to women and never have been in spite of being able to recognize them as beautiful. My “choice” is whether to commit homosexual acts, which I choose not to. It is not a sin to be gay, only to act on it.
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exnihilo
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The life of holiness is a struggle. One thing is certain, giving in to temptations won’t make you happier.
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glorybe
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I’ve never said that being gay is a choice. Sin is a choice, just as sin is a choice for single persons also… But I’m not going to believe, either, that God makes people gay, any more than I would believe He gives people life threatening diseases, or any other difficult struggles in life. I don’t know what causes people to be gay, and I’m pretty sure that no one else knows positively, either. I think that the original poster was asking about temptations. We all have temptations, many are very strong temptations, but we have to make decisions on whether or not to act on them. You are exactly right that it’s not a sin to be gay.
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glorybe
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Already responded to that.
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Thorolfr
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So are you suggesting that God does make some people gay to see how they respond, kind of like an experiment?Thorolfr:
Already responded to that.
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glorybe
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Where did you get that from anything I’ve said? The answer is no, God does not make people gay, this isn’t an adventure of His. He does (I believe) watch how we handle the struggles we all have in our lives. That’s my opinion, which comes from being a parent.
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otrrl
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I’m too old to know what grinder is, I guess.
The important thing is too hold on to your faith in God and that you CAN overcome the temptations for masturbation and other things that distract you like advertisements.
In common terms you have to practice letting go of those things you may be tempted to do. I suggest you practice creating a big mental distance between your mind and the things that may tempt you. One of the techniques is to find some alternative activity to do or some alternative thing to think about. It is a cross to bear and you should run TOWARDS that cross and not be afraid of it. We are all called to holiness, to be close to God and to be like God.
You have to recognize your dignity and your calling to the Christian life. Take every 10 or 15 minutes of your day at a time and practice self-control for those periods of time – you can do that for sure. Then you have to work on longer periods of time until you are not even watching the clock anymore.
You are not “different” because of these temptations, you are different – and changed – because of your Baptism and your new life in Jesus Christ. Pray for yourself and others who are beset with those temptations and inclinations. You are not defined by the temptations you may have. You need to identify and recognize “the new you” who is free of those or at least has them under control.
Think of whatever other temptations you have lived and struggled with and try to develop your confidence to control these as well.
Spiritually, Christ is the answer and you should work on developing a personal, private relationship with Jesus and let him carry your burdens and guide you.
The important thing is too hold on to your faith in God and that you CAN overcome the temptations for masturbation and other things that distract you like advertisements.
In common terms you have to practice letting go of those things you may be tempted to do. I suggest you practice creating a big mental distance between your mind and the things that may tempt you. One of the techniques is to find some alternative activity to do or some alternative thing to think about. It is a cross to bear and you should run TOWARDS that cross and not be afraid of it. We are all called to holiness, to be close to God and to be like God.
You have to recognize your dignity and your calling to the Christian life. Take every 10 or 15 minutes of your day at a time and practice self-control for those periods of time – you can do that for sure. Then you have to work on longer periods of time until you are not even watching the clock anymore.
You are not “different” because of these temptations, you are different – and changed – because of your Baptism and your new life in Jesus Christ. Pray for yourself and others who are beset with those temptations and inclinations. You are not defined by the temptations you may have. You need to identify and recognize “the new you” who is free of those or at least has them under control.
Think of whatever other temptations you have lived and struggled with and try to develop your confidence to control these as well.
Spiritually, Christ is the answer and you should work on developing a personal, private relationship with Jesus and let him carry your burdens and guide you.
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