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InspiritCarol
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I was going to suggest this, but here you’ve done it for me. Thanks.I have to sit up front or close to the front, as I am frequently an EMHC at our Ordinary Masses on Saturday Vigil. I learned all the proper gestures, and perform them.
This is absolutely the correct way to do this but, because I discovered I was confusing people, I (this is just me, mind you- I’m not saying you should), I sit on the edge of the pew and lean down as far as my knees will let me.A lot of people (including myself) are unable to kneel due to age, physical problems, etc… so I stand during the Consecration…
I discovered the truth in this when I accidently stood up as the priest was saying "Blessed are you God of all creation … etc. and, alas, the rest of the congregation stood up with me. I realized my mistake when the words "Blessed be God forever " were leaving my lips.… If your Parish doesn’t do it, sit up toward the front, and others will start to copy you too! (Those who are able to kneel, are doing so, but they are also now bowing and following the other gestures)
We all had a good laugh about it later.
Our tiny little parish is very proud of their hand holding. I stand to the side and firmly clasp my hands together. This does not deter most, so if I’m feeling petulant, I then usually cough in my hands or just hold a Kleenex so it’s hanging out.We still have a few who spread their arms or hold hands during the Our Father, but it is limited to a few families, especially holding hands with their small children (keeping them more under control is probably part of it, especially with 3 & 4 yr. olds!)
I love that people want to feel connected that way, it’s sweet and so rare now-a-days. However, I, personally am feeling called to not hold hands. It’s causing strife.
Let’s all do our best to kick strife to the curb.
It goes without saying that crying widows and children need their hands held as much as possible … period.