Struggleing with being unable to accept some things

[may_by_the_bay]

So…what does the church make of people who feel it very hard to agree on some matters, such as birth control, homosexual marriage, etc, but still submits in obediance to them?

That is the problem I am experienceing. I do not wsh in any way to rebel against the church, which is why I obey, even when I feel like I’m doing it only because I’m “suppose to.” The aforementioned topics re the hardest for me. I know, I know, I’ve read so many books, letters, teachings form the church on those topics, but they’re still very hard for me to JOYFULLY obey. I use NFP even though I don’t personally think condoms are wrong, and when someone brings up the topic of homosexuality, I just remove myself from the conversation or change the subject.

Am I in contest with the church, even though I wish to obey? Or does my willingness to forgo my own wishes show a step in the right direction?

 

[presidentjlh]

I feel you. I, as someone who loves both classical liberalism (not what we know as liberalism) and the Catholic faith, they are often in conflict. I am still attempting to find the balance between them that is still in accordance with the Church while respecting political liberty. Some issues, like abortion, political liberty cannot be compatible with. Some, like gay marriage, I believe there is a way to do such that compatible with the Church while respecting political liberty, namely, getting rid of the concept of civil marriages all together. Marriage should be up to churches and similar organizations, not the government.

In response to your question, foregoing your own desires to obey Christ is not just alright, it’s commendable.

 

[underacloud]

Am I in contest with the church, even though I wish to obey? Or does my willingness to forgo my own wishes show a step in the right direction?

Not merely a step in the right direction, but a true practise of the faith.

I struggle…I suspect most Catholics struggle with one or other teaching. It is unrealistic to expect that each individual will be able to comprehend the great depth and breadth of faith, God, and human existance. But we accept that God guides us through the Church, so even though we do not understand, we may still know and obey.

I have gay and lesbian friends, so I also practice keeping my mouth shut at certain times. They know I am Catholic, and there would be little served by debating such matters. I don’t think you do anything wrong in choosing not to discuss such issues that you struggle with yourself.

 

[Veronica]

We all struggle.

But in the end…“Thy will be done” not mine.

 

[Catholic_Prime_1]

I believe we have inappropriate thoughts for a reason, mostly thru demonic influences.
It is these thoughts that want to rebel against God’s rules, much like Lucifer did to God.
Those topics are impure, and we only get mad when we don’t get what we want.
God knows what’s best for us, so instead making yourself as an idol before God,
turn back from your wicked ways and have trust in what the Church who is a mediator for God suggests.
It is for our best interest.

I once had those kind of thoughts, but I wasn’t near what I am now.
Don’t let your social acceptance interfere with what is right.

 

[kmuestwin]

So…what does the church make of people who feel it very hard to agree on some matters, such as birth control, homosexual marriage, etc, but still submits in obediance to them?

That is the problem I am experienceing. I do not wsh in any way to rebel against the church, which is why I obey, even when I feel like I’m doing it only because I’m “suppose to.” The aforementioned topics re the hardest for me. I know, I know, I’ve read so many books, letters, teachings form the church on those topics, but they’re still very hard for me to JOYFULLY obey. I use NFP even though I don’t personally think condoms are wrong, and when someone brings up the topic of homosexuality, I just remove myself from the conversation or change the subject.

Am I in contest with the church, even though I wish to obey? Or does my willingness to forgo my own wishes show a step in the right direction?

The ability to disagree and remain obedient is a beautiful thing.

Stay faithful and pray for understanding. Don’t get discouraged and honestly offer up your own doubts as a cross that you bear.

You are doing the right thing. Don’t give up. Certain things are made to test our faith and allow us to grow. I’m glad to hear that you are working towards a more perfect obedience. It’s wonderful so keep praying and working for God.

 

[1ke]

So…what does the church make of people who feel it very hard to agree on some matters, such as birth control, homosexual marriage, etc, but still submits in obediance to them?

That is the problem I am experienceing. I do not wsh in any way to rebel against the church, which is why I obey, even when I feel like I’m doing it only because I’m “suppose to.” The aforementioned topics re the hardest for me. I know, I know, I’ve read so many books, letters, teachings form the church on those topics, but they’re still very hard for me to JOYFULLY obey. I use NFP even though I don’t personally think condoms are wrong, and when someone brings up the topic of homosexuality, I just remove myself from the conversation or change the subject.

Am I in contest with the church, even though I wish to obey? Or does my willingness to forgo my own wishes show a step in the right direction?

Yes, that is definitely a step in the right direction. You must give assent to these things. So keep studying and asking for the grace to understand and embrace the truth of the faith.

But, definitely, obeying is the first step and the right thing to do.