Struggles With Chastity

[creative2011]

Hi,

I’m a single Catholic man in my early 30s.

I go to Daily Mass, maintain a strong devotional life and endeavour to live a good Catholic life and love the Catholic church. Marian prayers and the prayer to St. Michael are also important to me.

I’m not married and never have been but would like to be and also have a large family. But, at the moment, it’s impossible to find that special person. It is an intention I regularly pray to God about.

The thing is - I avoid pornography but I struggle with the lack of marital intimacy and the lack of physical closeness which marriage would bring. It’s not so much sins of lust, (although i do struggle with these sometimes) , just a sorrow or sadness at not being able to experience marital intimacy and the beauty of giving yourself to another person.

Has anyone any thoughts or suggestions for living out a chaste life and especially when you are frustrated and burdened by singleness?

 

[crystal_waters]

Hi,

I’m a single Catholic man in my early 30s.

I go to Daily Mass, maintain a strong devotional life and endeavour to live a good Catholic life and love the Catholic church. Marian prayers and the prayer to St. Michael are also important to me.

I’m not married and never have been but would like to be and also have a large family. But, at the moment, it’s impossible to find that special person. It is an intention I regularly pray to God about.

The thing is - I avoid pornography but I struggle with the lack of marital intimacy and the lack of physical closeness which marriage would bring. It’s not so much sins of lust, (although i do struggle with these sometimes) , just a sorrow or sadness at not being able to experience marital intimacy and the beauty of giving yourself to another person.

Has anyone any thoughts or suggestions for living out a chaste life and especially when you are frustrated and burdened by singleness?

first of all keep praying for god to find you your wife…

secondly you may be searching for your special lady in the wrong place…try joining some church groups, like prayer groups or voluntering, you’ll meet alot of ladies that way and if none are your ideal woman they will soon matchmake you up with their daughter, grand daughter, cousin, etc lol

it wouldn’t hurt to try and you’ll widen your social circle and make new friends that could lead you to your future wife

 

[Barbkw]

You know, most men are singing another tune after about a year of marriage.

Prayers for you & finding that special woman.

May your “sand paper of choice” never get too rough.

 

[pablope]

Hi,

I’m a single Catholic man in my early 30s.

I go to Daily Mass, maintain a strong devotional life and endeavour to live a good Catholic life and love the Catholic church. Marian prayers and the prayer to St. Michael are also important to me.

I’m not married and never have been but would like to be and also have a large family. But, at the moment, it’s impossible to find that special person. It is an intention I regularly pray to God about.

The thing is - I avoid pornography but I struggle with the lack of marital intimacy and the lack of physical closeness which marriage would bring. It’s not so much sins of lust, (although i do struggle with these sometimes) , just a sorrow or sadness at not being able to experience marital intimacy and the beauty of giving yourself to another person.

Has anyone any thoughts or suggestions for living out a chaste life and especially when you are frustrated and burdened by singleness?

My suggestion…pray in total surrender to God’s will that you will be able to discern what His plans are for you, and the woman intended for you will be a gift from God, and especially, from our Heavenly Mother.

Just my thoughts…maybe, just maybe, you are not for married life, but for celibate life…the priesthood.:thumbsup:

 

[creative2011]

Just my thoughts…maybe, just maybe, you are not for married life, but for celibate life…the priesthood.:thumbsup:

Thanks for all your replies.

I would not close the door to the possibility of the celibate life. However, at this stage, I do not believe I could give up the possibility of finding a girlfriend and the potential for marriage. As I mentioned above, I really long for a wife and the mutual benefits such as companionship, friendship and growing together spiritually.

 

[runwaymodel]

I have experienced that when you stop looking, you tend to find. Pray and leave the rest to God. He knows exactly what he is doing.
Do not give up your chaste life out of frustration or desperation.
God bless.