Struggling with NFP

[Serap]

I have being using NFP now for 3 months. I am finding it a bit of a struggle because my husband does not share my spiritual beliefs. While he is a kind man, a wonderful husband and excellent father, he is not a religious man and we have a wonderful marriage.

It was difficult this weekend because I was still in my fertile window and he really wanted to make love to me. I said no and I’ve never flat out said no before. He was really hurt and felt rejected - he’s a sensitive soul. The next day (a safe day), I tried to initiate lovemaking, but he then rejected me and I could tell he was still hurt. He was sour with me and was giving me the silent treatment.

To show him I love him, I did something for him that I knew would make him happy. He then softened up and we later made love.

I told him that I don’t want to use ABC anymore and that if he wishes to make love during my fertile time, then he should use a condom because I am bound to not use ABC.

I don’t want NFP to hurt my marriage and it makes it difficult when your husband doesn’t share your spiritual beliefs.

Any comments/thoughts?

 

[StCsDavid]

I would take religion out of the equation. There are enough studies out there that show the real damage birth control pills inflict upon the body.

You might see if he’s open to reading this article.

Here’s an excerpt.

Birth control pills are synthetic hormones that override the normal hypothalamus-pituitary- ovarian hormonal axis to prevent ovulation. This is not a natural state for any woman and without a doubt this situation leaves us open to potentially major problems later on in life ( eg. Infertility, cancers, strokes, blood clots). There are no studies to secure safety of birth control pill usage over time.