Study: U.S. Churches Exclude Children with Autism, ADD/ADHD

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That must be hard
It is a bit of a challenge. It’s harder on us than it is on him. He doesn’t notice he is being treated differently yet (he’s 4). Fr. keeps exploring me to bring my family to mass more often. We are working on it. If he wakes up having a rough day they stay home and I go to mass by myself.
 
And I guess it helps other people to hear a diagnosis attached, so they will be more in tuned with what’s happening.
 
My DS (autism) and I were kicked out of a Mass. I know other families that this also happened to.

Different story when my son started to really make progress.

But I believe it.
 
I tried to start one and the head of religious ed was furious at my suggestion.
 
I have to say that I find the title very insulting. I bet there is not a church anywhere that excludes any children. The article takes a statistic, children with certain conditions are twice as likely not to attend any sort of religious service, and conclude it is the Church that is excluding them. Talk about a major error of equating correlation with causation! Isn’t it far more likely that such children are not taken to any sort of service because it is more burdensome on the parents for enough of the children to account for this statistical anomaly?

I applaud those parents who persevere in bringing their children to Mass, and we have several, and those priests and parishioners that make them welcome, or at least tolerate the necessary distraction with understanding. I know that my priest has no problem with them, even if occasionally he has to talk to one during Mass. He is always loving and leaves them smiling. Most importantly, by doing this (maybe a couple of times a year) he teaches us by example to understand their needs.
 
Parents get dirty looks, some get comments from other parishioners, and no I don’t think the Church is unwelcoming but the people in the pews can definitely be. I’ve experienced it, and so have other special need parents.
 
I want to alert you to a program started in the 1960s by a priest in the Chicago Archdiocese called SPRED (Special Religious Education). I’m sure there is a website for it. I became involved with the program in our city as a parent of a young child with Downs Syndrome tried to find a better way to educate him in religious ed. She got us together and advocated for our parish to create a chapter. They needed at least 7 catechists. It took a little bit to get off the ground. The whole idea of the program was to invite anyone with special needs into the church - and to educate the community to appreciate these people. After we got the program going, we ended up having a few SPRED masses a year - where the whole congregation would get excited about the special masses. The catechists would sit with the families and their special needs person - and we sat throughout the church - not all together - so that we were in the community - and not observed from afar. The program is based on montessori model. Now, I know there are SPRED chapters at a number of diocese around the world. I’m no longer a catechist, but I highly recommend the program. I’m sure you could find out more by doing an internet search on SPRED Chicago.
 
Don’t forget adults on the autism spectrum. We exist, ya know.
 
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