baltobetsy:
… The state of your soul is between you and God and the priest in confession. Period. You are NEVER required to tell anyone else. Now, if you want to tell your parents you really NEED to go to confession, I’m sure they’ll take the hint. …
You seem to imply that sin is always only a personal matter apart from other people. But this is simply not true.
“See now, that, in all places and in all kinds of people, sin is always produced against the neighbor, and through his medium; in no other way could sin ever be committed either secret or open. A secret sin is when you deprive your neighbor of that which you ought to give him; an open sin is where you perform positive acts of sin, as I have related to you.
It is, therefore, indeed the truth that every sin done against Me, is done through the medium of the neighbor.”
The Dialogue of St. Catherine of Siena, p. 20
catholicprimer.org/catherine/catherine_dialog.pdf
Any sin does an injury to our neighbor, even if only a mental injury. One aspect of going to the priest for confession is to be reconciled to the Body of Christ, the community of believers.
It is at times necessary to involve other people, such as when making restitution for stolen goods or otherwise apologizing.
Some people will know you are in a bad state of soul simply by your actions, words, and general disposition. By them knowing you are going to confession, you will be applying a mental remedy to them and showing a good example as well.
If it were really that private (“NEVER required”), you might be tempted to refrain from acknowledging or apologizing for your sins when confronted by someone about your behaviour. But we must be sorry for the rest of our lives, and not hide our state in the name of privacy.
What remains private are the actual details, not the fact we need reconciliation.
hurst